I'm stuck

[djhyrule]

Ive been with my girlfriend for over a year now. Everything was great at the beginning blah blah..

Fast forward to the present:

She doesn't have a whole lot going for her. Her entire family is either dead or has completely written her off. She got kicked out of her aunt and uncles house so I let her move in with me and my mother until the house I'm moving into with some friends is up an ready to go. She is ALWAYS sad or angry. Nothing I can say or do can make her feel better. Her aunt and uncle are loaded so they used to just shove money off on her left and right, and now they have cut her off completely. I finally helped her get a job, but since the first of the year it went out of business so she is unemployed again. I pay for just about everything, and I can't afford it. Any time I try and talk to her about getting a job she just gets angry and tells me "I KNOW I KNOW, I will!" I cannot have a logical talk with her about the future without her ignoring it or taking offense to it.

I always have to be the positive one, and even though I am under an immense amount of stress she just gets pissed if I am in a bad mood, which makes my mood worse. I want things to be like they used to be, but there is no end in sight. I try so hard to make her happy, but she has the biggest "woe is me" attitude. I feel stuck, I care about her so much, but I am all she has and I feel so unappreciated. She thinks doing my laundry is enough to make up for all of this, and always uses that as the gold standard anytime I try and tell her I feel unhappy. Everyone else has given up on her, if I do too, I dont know what will happen. This is my life now......Im stuck.

[Londres70]

Will agree with RockRose in regards to evicting someone from your residence, so keep that in mind.  

Have a chat with her and set up a timeline for her to be on her way.  

[RockRose]

I agree with the others.

When someone has no family or friends to turn to,  there's a reason.

The reason everything was great at the beginning is because she's capable of faking it for a little while.  It's not like she's changed recently (which would be workable) she just lost the motivation to continue faking being a nice person.

I think you should tell her,  when you move out she'll also have to find somewhere to go.  That gives her a little bit of time to get herself together.  

BTW,  you might want to check into eviction laws in your area.  They can be REALLY STRANGE and make it a little difficult to actually extricate her.

[Londres70]

How old are you two?

Sounds like she is possibly depressed, however, you aren't responsible for her either.  She sounds pretty dependent/needy on you at this time.

Have you seriously talked with about how all this is affecting you; taking a toll on you?

Just curious, how was she in the "beginning;" what exactly was she like before?

[marthamullins]

You are by no means stuck my friend. It sounds like she has some personality issues. Perhaps you should sit down and talk with her about it, offer your support, and see if she will get some kind of medical help. If not, then you are not obligated to take care of this woman. I understand that you care about her but sometimes love isn't enough. Don't trap yourself in a one sided relationship. Tell her how you feel in a calm manner. If she starts to yell, don't yell back, simply just end the discussion till she calms down. If that doesn't work then you know there is no fixing this... you can't change a person. The person with the problem first has to admit to having a problem before any work can be done to fix it. I hope all that makes sense. I wish you the best of luck.