give a due date for marriage??

[alyssahann]

hai im 25 year old and my fiance is 35 years old.we been together about 4 years now.we have plan to get married by this year (2011).the thing is my fiance couldn't wait for me just few months to get married.my fiance gave a due date untill end of June 2011 to prepare the wedding.if the wedding its not prepare yet so he will break up with me because of his age is 35 year old now and he dont want his children were still in school after he retired.i discuss with him just to wait for a few months maybe on september or october to get married..he refuses to agreed with me.it really stress for me.is just that i've just starting working & i dont have plan yet for wedding.i try to balance my money and for my life first then i will think about the wedding.why he cant understand that?the point is if he truly love me and serious to be my partner why must have this due date for marriage?? its like he gave option to leave it or take it..duhh!! what kind of man he think he is..any way please do comment maybe i can get some answer for my problem.

[sweetpea03]

Your boyfriend has every right to put a time line on when to get married. You have already been dating for 4 years and yet you can't even make a firm date for the future wedding? I'm sure he is wondering if you will ever commit and actually marry him. He is older and wants a family. If you don't want that, then maybe you should let him go. My boyfriend is 10 years older as well(21 and 31), but unlike you, we already have a date set in mind to get married. If you are not on the same page with him, then you need to get there...

[RockRose]

Never mind what I just said.

I went to your profile and read your other posts.    I can't tell what life you're actually living.

[RockRose]

Alyssa,  I think he's very right to do what he's doing.  From his perspective,  he's getting older and he's ready to settle down and start a family.

He's been dating you 4 years,  and you won't give him a firm date within the next 4 months to get married,  you're pushing it several months ahead with no firm date.  He's probably not at all convinced you're actually going to marry him.

I would advise a girl the same thing.  

On the other hand,  the spread in your age is pretty big.  He's in a whole other place,  goals wise than you are.  You are focused on the party,  he's focused on the family and marriage.