how do I tell her without being mean?

[acline93]

So as some of you may know, my stepsister and nephew moved in with us the day after Christmas. Well things have kind of mellowed out since then, except for we have a pretty big problem. My sense of smell is extremely strong now that I'm pregnant, and for some reason she hasn't taken a shower since last Friday. That's SEVEN days. I don't want to be rude and tell her that she's making me nauseated by sitting next to me because the smell is getting pretty bad, but I really can't stomach it either. I had to physically give my nephew a bath the other day because he was starting to smell. Would leaving her a note saying "hey, how bout taking a shower?" be rude? Because I'm all out of options here.

[acline93]

But the thing is, she lives here now. She transferred her kid to the school here, she's been looking for a job , and she's staying in our guest room(which was supposed to be Orion's nursery) and she's definitely made herself at home. Maybe she just doesn't take showers? I don't know, I didn't really grow up around her, and she's never stayed at our house for more than one night at a time except for now.

[nichole75315]

Oh wow. We just announce it here. She may feel uncomfortable taking a shower ?! I probably would at my step moms house lol. Your best bet is to say it in a nice way.... Being that she has a kid ask her what soaps she used when pregnant because smells are making u nauseated?! I'm kinda clueless. In my house my hubby will be like.... Someone needs to wash they stank. N he will have everyone shower lol

[rosey3216]

Idk, who in their right mind lets their kid go 15 days with only 2 showers?!

[beauty12]

Ugh tht just disgusted me (no offence) and made me laugh as well lol... how can you go without a shower for 7days especially if you are women.. if i leave myself like that for 7days trust me i ll not only stink but also my body will tell me "WOMEN YOU ARE DIRTY.. CANT YOU SEE BUMPS ON YOUR BACK AND FRONT FILLING UP WITH PUSS"..
I know its hard to be rude with someone like that... but may be you can tell her something about hygiene etc.. and try to be as nice as u can... its do or die situation because clearly she is showing she has respect for her personal hygiene and people like that can become little cranky when you show them the mirror.. but i would definitely say something to her...

[shelleversole]

Omg, Searra that sounds like something they'd do on BadGirls Club. It is 10 am here, I dunno what time it is there but I'd be wakin her up!

[swhite26]

Maybe try speaking to her n say make yourself at home help yourself to bath/shower eve failing that suggest u all go swimming at least age can shower then