From depressed to scared out of my mind

[SadSusan]

OK, so this whole weird marriage thing is taking its toll on me.  Tonight husband left for work.  I was all of the sudden quite upset.  he hasn't spoken to me since Saturday afternoon.  

For some reason tonight I lost it.  I drove up to his work to try to catch him last minute to try to make sense out of things.  he just ignored me.  He is a truck driver, he hooked up his truck and drove past me making the "crazy" sign, you know spin your finger next to your head.  he's so kind and sensitive.  So after that I bawled and bawled.  I started driving and ended up directly behind him.  He made a right hand turn and was on the inside lane of traffic, I turned and started accelerating in the outside lane, all of the sudden he swerved the semi over into my lane and cut me off.  That freaked me out so bad.  I got around him as quick as possible and sped away up the road so I could get far away from him.  At the bottom of an overpass I got a red light, I saw him coming from behind in the outside lane, I was on the inside lane.  he was going very very fast, all of the sudden he swerved into my lane and I swear he would have rearended me if I had not swerved into the oncoming lane of traffic.  I was lucky there was no oncoming traffic or I would not be writing this.  I let him get way ahead of me after that and stayed away.

He is an evil man.

I called a friend of ours who works with him and asked him to talk to him and calm him down.  I explained what happened.  If he was trying to kill me that's one thing, but there are other cars on the road too.  This was not funny at all.

He is going to be at the house around 8am tomorrow.  I won't be here, I am not leaving the gun here.  I am now afraid for my safety.

All this because over an incident with his daughter.  I think he is truly one sick puppy.

[koukla29]

I am really afraid for you because I think you want closure, and I am afraid your need to confront him will continue to put you in dangerous situations.  Someone who loves you would never try and hurt you on purpose.  I think somewhere deep in side you might even think you deserve to be treated this way, and its not true.  You should get out of this situation, and as far away from him as possible.  Accept the fact that you will not get closure from him, however, your closure should be that he has severe mental issues and doesn't want to get help.  You are not responsible for him.  I'd report the attack and get a restraining order.  Move on to better things because you deserve more in your life.  Best wishes!

[ABC7777]

I agree with all the posts above.  I know it's hard to see/accept when you're in this kind of situation, but from an outsider's point of view, it's obvious.  From the way you describe it, it sounds like he is not emotionally stable or rational, and he definitely sounds dangerous.  It is not normal to try to run someone off the road in a fit of rage, let alone doing that to your WIFE just because you're pissed off.  Be glad that you don't have any kids with him, you need these people out of your life for good.  My only concern is your safety.  If you decide to leave, what you do to protect yourself up to you.  You deserve better than this.

[bip]

I agree.... Please pack your bags and find some where to go. It's not safe.

[chellybeans]

i think the police report is a good idea so that you can establish his history of violence in the event that you have future run ins. i think your situation will be looked at more closely if there is a recorded history.

please get the hell out of there and don't look back. you cannot fix this man or his damaged family.

take care

[jenstam]

This marriage is over. It's good he is gone. Take your stuff and leave. It's good you don't have anything to keep you tied to him in anyway. You have no kids together, right? That is a blessing. Get out. Before he pulls you down and you become sick in mind.

[barn babe]

I don't think attempting to recreate a scene from "Duel" is really the way to go about "making sense of this."  

You are past making sense of this with him or anybody in his family. Sorry, but that train left the station, apparently quite a while ago. Any semblance of mental health this guy may  have had is now long gone.

I agree that you just need to leave. Pack a bag and figure out where  you can stay and get the hell out of this circus of a family. The sooner you stop harboring the delusion that any of this will "work out" or "make sense," the better off you'll be.

[pertykitty]

make a report with the police. this is very scary to me as well! leave with all your things and get out now. he knows very well how dangerous his driving was, and i dont care how mad, a person (especially your husband) should ever take those risks. i think a report is necessary so it can be documented that he tried to run you off the road. not to upset you more or be so dramatic, but maybe he was trying to do more than hurt you. id say this is the straw that broke the camels back. you dont need this cr@p in your life, get away from this twisted family and be done with them. please keep in contact if possible so i know you are ok, i feel for you! i hope you have a place to go, and if you can log off your regular computer from this site so he cant find your info. mine stays logged on, all you have to do is look in history you know ive been here.