i need advice please??

[blondie111]

Hi.. I have been seeing this guy now for 6 weeks, and we get on really great, his last relationship ended a year ago and his been single since after thirteen years, then he met me, so i asked him after four weeks what's the story with us are we meeting or whats happening i wanted to know where i stood, but he replyed back to me that if i meet someone eles when im out work away it's no problem, so we are only meeting nothing to serious, but now this has being going on, i don't know what to? should i end this before i get hurt or go along with this and see what happens? i think his afraid of getting hurt and he justs wants to see what will happen with us, i can't understand why we are meeting for so long now and nothing is happening, another thing im the one always asking him to call over for a night at the weekends but everytime i do he never says no he always calls over but thats not the point he should be asking me too, when he goes out at weekends with his friends we could end up in the same night club, but i keep my distance and we might bang into each other at the end of the night so he makes no effort really, i really do need advice on what to do, i use to text him during the week but i don't anymore and when i don't text him he will end up texting me, his birthday is at the end of the month and i would love to know will he ask me to go out for it, i also did make it clear to him, that if im meeting him ive no intentions of meeting anybody eles... please help???????

[blondie111]

Thank you, i think your right, i have not spoken to him since and i don't intend too, thanks.

[mr.lucky66]

Blondie, he doesn't sound like a well balanced Lad. He may have some sort of an appeal to you, and maybe strong too, but that may not and probably isn't enough to get into a serious relationship. all the best

[blondie111]

   Thanks for your advice, well on Saturday night it took a turn for the worst, i really can't figure this guy out, we ended up in the same night club, i enjoyed myself with all my friends gave him small conversation only because that day he had text me and he did'nt give me much conversation, so i seen and couldnt believe it this other girl came up to him and started kissing him i couldnt believe it that hit me hard seeing that, but i didnt let it ruin my night i continued dancing and having a great time, and after that happened with him and the other girl i could see him with his hands over his head it was like he was regretting with what happened with the other girl.  I had alot of guys come up to me that night in front of him but i didnt do nothing i said to myself that i wasnt going to lower myself and meet another guy just to get back at him, i couldnt believe though because the whole night he was watching me non stop, i tried not to take much notice, and i left the club at the end of the night and i did'nt look at him once, then i went to work on Monday yesterday and i heard nothing from him since only to see yesterday when i was leaving work to go home he was driving up towards my work, what is that about?? and i just drove off pretending not to see him,  i still havent heard nothing from him no texts nothing, any advice on what to do?? i do like this guy, and i don't what to be playing games either but i aint going to contact him first after this, and if he does contact me i don't know what to say???

[blondie111]

Thanks for you advice, i have posted this question twice by mistake and i have noted on the other one, i will copy and paste why what happened last sat night i couldnt believe it......

[PEPSIGIRL2U]

I think he is giving you some very clear signs that he only wants to be with you when he wants to be with you I know this isnt fair but you have to just chalk it up and think of yourself and are you worth  more than this guy who only wants you sometimes ? also to defend him sometimes it is really hard to get over previous people and circumstances in  previous relationships mabey he has some sort of drama he does not want you to be involved in . usually guys love to play cat and mouse games give him some space and if he really want you he will come to you if not he was not meant to be good luck...