jelousy

[jloca215]

I HAVE THIS PROBLEM THAT I NEED SOME HELP WITH?????? I HAD AN OLD FRIEND THT SEEMS TO STILL BE AROUND I CANT STAND HER ANY MORE ?? HER NAME BOTHERS ME SHES ALWAYS FINDING WAYS TO KEEP IN TOUCH ITH MA BOYFRIEND ( WE WERE ALL CLOSE FRIENDS) BUTIM NOT ANYMORE WITH HER BUT MA BOYFRIEND STILL IS HES TOLD ME PLENTY OF TIMES HE DOESNT LIKE HER LIKE THAT BUT I DONT TRUST HER SHSES JUST TOOOO CLINGY I TRUST HIM THO .SHOULD I GET MAD WHEN I SEE HER RITING TO HIM ON THE COMPUTER OR TEXTING HIM ????????

[baby_blues_06]

You can't exactly be mad I don't think because You have not told a girl you don't like her and She's not only trying to talk and be friends with you it's him to sounds like her intentions are okay you need to speak with her about not really liking her anymore and then maybe talk to your boyfriend about it but just because you don't like someone doesn't mean that your boyfriend shouldn't be allowed to talk to them and if he is trustworthy and then there's probly no problem

[specialmom]

Hm.  I think it does sound as exactly like you say.  You are jealous of her.  I think this has to do with your insecurity more than anything else.  She may not be aware that you don't like her or that you think she shouldn't write your boyfriend.  They were good friends once, remember?  As she was with you as well.  She may not be aware that you are painfully jealous of her now and that her very name sends you through the roof.

I think that I'd look inward first.  Find out why you are so insecure and jealous of another person.  Because if you don't start there . . . there will always be someone like this.  

It is okay to decide you no longer like someone and to not be friends anymore.  But the way you worded this makes me think you need to bolster your own self esteem so that an old friend's name doesn't bug you let alone seeing her around.  

I don't necessarily think someone needs to be texting my boyfriend . . . but-------- she was a friend and in her mind nothing has changed.  good luck

[jrobertson20]

I think you should be mad at your boyfriend for not telling her to leave him alone esp if he can't stand her either and he knows how you feel about her.  Yeah I would also be mad at her to though.  She knows how you feel about he so she probably knows it really gets to you when she talks to him.  I would say that your boyfriend is the only one though that can put a stop to this if he really wants to.

[mami1323]

I would be annoyed. Especially if you feel you can't trust her. I would kindly tell her that you aren't interested in having a friendship with her any longer and that you don't appreciate her contacting your boyfriend. However, your boyfriend needs to be the one to tell her to stop and cut her out of his life. If he's talking to her and continues to do so even if you are uncomfortable, then I would be suspicious of his intentions as well. He obviously likes the attention or else he would've told her to go away a long time ago. So I think a conversation with your boyfriend is on order.