iam a 30 year old mother of a mildly autistic boy and a 2 year old girl. iam not married to my partner. his never really asked me to marry him but he recently told me his ready to do so. i think his decision was due to the fact that i kept hounding him about it. so finally after 6 years together , his finally made up his mind , although i havent got a proposal yet.funny thing is that now am not so sure whether i should marry him. the thing is , i used to live in australia and just before i left for london i met the most charming man. he was 10 years older than me and a divorcee. we were together for a short while before i moved to the uk to pursue a medical degree. and i must say it was the happiest time ive been with any man.we promised to keep in touch, which we did, although i had my doubts about the relationship. i wasnt sure whether it was just a fling as we hadnt known each other for long. after i left we would talk alot over the phone and he would tell me he had slept with some women which confused me even more. considering that i was miles away taking a course which would take 5 years to complete, made me think it wouldnt work. would he be willing to wait for me? he said he would but i still doubted.so because of this i dated a few guys ,nothing serious and met my present partner. i got pregnant about 2 months after meeting him, very fast, which was really stupid of me and struggled with my medical degree. i ended up doing another science degree thus ending my chances of being a doctor. very depressing. i had to stay with my partner because my parents went through a divorce and i was brought up with my dad and step mum who emotionally abused me and my sisters . to this day it still depresses me and i have nightmares about being young again. so i always said when i have children i'll stay with their father. after i had my son , my ex in australia was willing to still have me and asked me to move back there and move in with him. when i thought of leaving my partner i got pregnant with my daugther. this made me decide to stay. i was still in contact with my ex and he sent me a text telling me that he really had strong feelings for me. i never replied and told him how i really felt as i was afraid and confused about what to do. my daugther is now 2 years and i cant stop thinking about him. he has met an english woman whom he says he is going to marry and recently i stupidly sent him a text message saying i love him to which he never replied. now hes not answering my calls, not sure if his number is disconnected. this has left me very depressed and made me realise that i would rather be with him than my present partner. as he has met someone i dont think he'll want to be with me. all in all i wouldnt want to be in this present relationship if it wasnt for my kids.so should i leave my present partner although he is a good dad and gives me loads of support with my son as he is autistic and i have no family or friends whom i can rely on . if i stay my kids will get the love and support from both parents but i'll be miserable as i know deep down inside me , i am with him for the sake of the kids. i never imagined i'd be a single parent with a disabled child. what should i do?