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relationships just not worth it
Relationships aren't worth the effort to me.
I'm 6'3'' and an ex wieght lifter.
When people find out I'm a bipolar, I'm treated w/ kids gloves, or it's ''watch out for him, he might hurt someone.''
I don't want that crap. Never had a good close relationship.
I will not reach out, norm's (normal people) aren't worth the effort.
I'm 6'3'' and an ex wieght lifter.
When people find out I'm a bipolar, I'm treated w/ kids gloves, or it's ''watch out for him, he might hurt someone.''
I don't want that crap. Never had a good close relationship.
I will not reach out, norm's (normal people) aren't worth the effort.
None of us are "norm's" ("normal people") - every last one of us has baggage
Maybe You DO desire some kind of relationship - maybe that's why You're here
(of course, this is safe - but it IS a way of companionship, relationship, communication)
And it seems that everyone who has responded here cares how You are feeling.
Just saying.......
Maybe You DO desire some kind of relationship - maybe that's why You're here
(of course, this is safe - but it IS a way of companionship, relationship, communication)
And it seems that everyone who has responded here cares how You are feeling.
Just saying.......
I'd like to offer you this advice. As a high IQ, introverted individual with a bipolar disorder myself I can tell you that what you need to stop doing is looking at people as if there are different levels. All people are in the same category, people are people nothing less and nothing more. We all fall victim to this on occasion and when things don't work the way we want them we let ourselves think that we're being tried (by the universe, by god, by ourselves, whatever) and we allow ourselves to get angry at everyone, trust me I'm just getting over this again. It's a major problem and I would recommend seeking some professional help because it sounds like you are starting to isolate, and I can tell you from experience that this is not the route to take.
I am down to one friend, it's a delicate situation that is not going to be brought up, nor is it a positive one. My one friend and I haven't hung out in three weeks and it's really throwing off my emotional balance, trust me you don't want to get to where I am now.
I am down to one friend, it's a delicate situation that is not going to be brought up, nor is it a positive one. My one friend and I haven't hung out in three weeks and it's really throwing off my emotional balance, trust me you don't want to get to where I am now.
Why do you allow yourself to be identified by a disorder? Why do you even tell them? It is absolutely nobodies business and you should not feel the need to tell anyone anything. There are lots of people walking around out there that have not been diagnosed but have the same thing you do, does that make them normal? And how are you abnormal? If your on meds and your stable I don't see the big deal. It sounds more like (dont get mad), you are singling yourself out as abnormal moreso than anyone else. And to have never had a close relationship is sad. We all need other people in our lives, I think you need to forget about the labels and live your life in a normal fashion.
Don't beat yourself up or feel you have to explain the need to be solo for now.
I haven't been in a relationship for ages, and am learning it works better for me to have casual friendships. I'm not much of a social creature anyway, and suffer from agoraphobia, hard to explain to a guy: plus survivor of anal cancer. Both of these things plus simply not liking the men who do approach me...........mean I will learn to live alone and be happy.
When I read bios of various people, learn that many were fairly solitary: normal for them.
Our culture makes us loners feel like something must be wrong with us if we aren't social or in a relationship. Carry on. Post when you feel like it. I have more friends online than in my life. It's ok.
I haven't been in a relationship for ages, and am learning it works better for me to have casual friendships. I'm not much of a social creature anyway, and suffer from agoraphobia, hard to explain to a guy: plus survivor of anal cancer. Both of these things plus simply not liking the men who do approach me...........mean I will learn to live alone and be happy.
When I read bios of various people, learn that many were fairly solitary: normal for them.
Our culture makes us loners feel like something must be wrong with us if we aren't social or in a relationship. Carry on. Post when you feel like it. I have more friends online than in my life. It's ok.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I am sorry as well. I think it is okay to be who you are. Knowing that you don't need to be with other people can also be very freeing. You don't have to be---------- and don't let anyone tell you that you should be. Some people are much happier alone.
... you remind me of a man who I was once in love with. I'm sorry for your pain.
I can't. whatever it is that cause's people to WANT to be around others, I don't have.
If not for TV or internet, and the store, I would have no contact.
If not for TV or internet, and the store, I would have no contact.
... or, you can put yourself out there (you don't have to reach out) and discover how truly wonderful some people can be. It only takes the discovery of one loving soul to make it all worth while.
very true. married once, and learned first hand just how dispicable people can really be.
If you aren't willing then that is fine too. People are capable of living out their lives without a significant other and being just as happy, if not happier, as some are in a relationship.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Ya know, one out of every FOUR adults in the US is on an antidepressant. "Norms" are not so common or normal, in my opinion. And if they don't have a chemical imbalance in the brain, then they've got something else . . . diabetes, heart disease, or something. Some of the most "normal" people that you think of have a lot of issues. So please don't feel like you are alone or all that different. Unique yes . . . that I will agree with.
Relationships are really hard work. Sometimes they are worth it and sometimes they are not. If you have the desire within yourself to be committed to someone, then keep trying. Some people don't have that need to be attached and are as happy as can be. So knowing yourself is really helpful. And believing it is okay to be who you are is also important. In the end, many people with no mental health issues whatsoever still struggle tremendously in their relationships. In that regard--------- you are definately NOT alone.
I hope that if you are interested in being with someone that you find a comfortable way to start the process and someone that you can connect with. For me, that is what I desire. I want someone to know the REAL me and still think I'm okay. I will wish that for you too! Good luck
Relationships are really hard work. Sometimes they are worth it and sometimes they are not. If you have the desire within yourself to be committed to someone, then keep trying. Some people don't have that need to be attached and are as happy as can be. So knowing yourself is really helpful. And believing it is okay to be who you are is also important. In the end, many people with no mental health issues whatsoever still struggle tremendously in their relationships. In that regard--------- you are definately NOT alone.
I hope that if you are interested in being with someone that you find a comfortable way to start the process and someone that you can connect with. For me, that is what I desire. I want someone to know the REAL me and still think I'm okay. I will wish that for you too! Good luck
I'm sorry you feel that way. The words in your post say "I don't care" but the tone says I'm sad. = (
Just remember, every person is different, and you can't judge someone you've never met before based on people you HAVE. Would you want to be judged that way?! Of course not, although it sounds like sometimes you are being judged based on "hearsay" or reputation.
I'm sure there's someone out there who would be a perfect compliment to your character and personality. Don't ever give up looking!!
Just remember, every person is different, and you can't judge someone you've never met before based on people you HAVE. Would you want to be judged that way?! Of course not, although it sounds like sometimes you are being judged based on "hearsay" or reputation.
I'm sure there's someone out there who would be a perfect compliment to your character and personality. Don't ever give up looking!!
maybe try meeting people differently from how you are now.
where are you meeting people now?
where are you meeting people now?
no, I don't say much at all. Usually someone that knows someone that knows me type of crap.
as far as losing out on something...can't miss what you never had.
as far as losing out on something...can't miss what you never had.
dont think of it like that.
how i would think of it is that people are losing out on not getting to know you. ITS THERE LOSS.
Are you telling people immediaetly that you are bi-polar? not that you need to hide it but people do not need to know that right away. they should get to know you for who you are, not a diagnosis a doctor gave you. as long as you have your bi-polar under control and are not having times of mania or anything like that often.
how i would think of it is that people are losing out on not getting to know you. ITS THERE LOSS.
Are you telling people immediaetly that you are bi-polar? not that you need to hide it but people do not need to know that right away. they should get to know you for who you are, not a diagnosis a doctor gave you. as long as you have your bi-polar under control and are not having times of mania or anything like that often.
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