Aa
scared.
So i'm 17 & i've been with my 19 year old boyfriend for 3 years. So the main point is he graduated 2 years ago , but didn't go to college, he just worked, but a few months ago he got fired from his job. So now he's considering to go to college & finish school & all that. We've had ups & downs in the year 2010. Meaning i cheated . But its been 2 years that i haven't. So he's completely changed since then. The guy that was completely in love with me is not here anymore :( but i understand cause i hurt him. So now that he might start college, i'm scared that he might meet & talk to other people like (girls) & move on. I mean he still truly loves me & i can see that, but what if he moves on? What if he starts liking a girl? I'm super scared & i wish we can just stay young so we won't have to go through all that. Should i worry much about it or what?
He doesn't have to meet a girl in school , if he really wanted to he could of met somebody at work or even walking down the street. If a guys guna cheat he's guna cheat but not all men are cheaters. I'm sure u feel guilty from when u cheated on him but if he forgave u ,u need to stop thinking like that its guna add stress to the relationship kno what I mean
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, here is the problem then, you aren't fully loving him if you allow your own fear of losing him and jealousy to interfere with being supportive and would have to fake being happy he is doing something that is very good for him.
When we are in a mature love relationship, we want what is best for our partner. We can't put a noose around their neck and keep them with us but rather have to let them go explore, grow, etc.
My husband travels a lot and is away from me frequentl. I could be fearful that he is going to meet another woman. You just don't worry about these things because he has to work and the being away is part of his job.
Loose correlation but you hopefully see what I am getting at. You either trust him or you don't. I do understand your young ages and that realistically, people do break up when one is in college and one is in highschool. But I tell ya, if I had married my highschool boyfriend---- oh boy. Not good. Life happens and turns out how it is supposed to so please don't fret or worry so much. You have to try to let that go because we can't control it. He could just as easily meet someone at work that he likes if he stayed in town.
Glad you are focusing on school. That is what you CAN control and that is what will ensure your future. Guys do come and go but your education makes you strong and able to be independent either with this guy you are with now or someone else down the road. good luck
When we are in a mature love relationship, we want what is best for our partner. We can't put a noose around their neck and keep them with us but rather have to let them go explore, grow, etc.
My husband travels a lot and is away from me frequentl. I could be fearful that he is going to meet another woman. You just don't worry about these things because he has to work and the being away is part of his job.
Loose correlation but you hopefully see what I am getting at. You either trust him or you don't. I do understand your young ages and that realistically, people do break up when one is in college and one is in highschool. But I tell ya, if I had married my highschool boyfriend---- oh boy. Not good. Life happens and turns out how it is supposed to so please don't fret or worry so much. You have to try to let that go because we can't control it. He could just as easily meet someone at work that he likes if he stayed in town.
Glad you are focusing on school. That is what you CAN control and that is what will ensure your future. Guys do come and go but your education makes you strong and able to be independent either with this guy you are with now or someone else down the road. good luck
@specialmom
yes i know i should be very supportive, but it's just that thought in my head & it'll be really messed up if i fake being supportive. The last time i told him this was when he was still working. He's been talking about it again, & that same thought just pops through my head , but i don't say anything.
Yes were young & there's life ahead of us, but i can't imagine my life without him. I'm still trying to get my sh!t together at school (sorry for the language), & i know soon enough i'll be in college too.
I preety much will just have to stay positive about all this & whatever happens...happens.
I just don't want to loose him. If it ends up happening, i would love to still be friends with him .even though the feelings will always be there. :(
I just hope & pray we go through all that without anything bad happening.
yes i know i should be very supportive, but it's just that thought in my head & it'll be really messed up if i fake being supportive. The last time i told him this was when he was still working. He's been talking about it again, & that same thought just pops through my head , but i don't say anything.
Yes were young & there's life ahead of us, but i can't imagine my life without him. I'm still trying to get my sh!t together at school (sorry for the language), & i know soon enough i'll be in college too.
I preety much will just have to stay positive about all this & whatever happens...happens.
I just don't want to loose him. If it ends up happening, i would love to still be friends with him .even though the feelings will always be there. :(
I just hope & pray we go through all that without anything bad happening.
@misscutie
i understand. I'm just scared to loose him. He's my bestfriend & i have never been through so much with anyone else , but him. I can't imagine life without him. We were almost parents. That's one reason i can't be without him either.. Especially trying to deal with my depression.
i understand. I'm just scared to loose him. He's my bestfriend & i have never been through so much with anyone else , but him. I can't imagine life without him. We were almost parents. That's one reason i can't be without him either.. Especially trying to deal with my depression.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi there. Well, I'm a LOT older than you. I think you just have to trust that life works out how it is supposed to. You two are at different places in life. I think you should be supportive of him going to college and cheer him on. If you care about him --- getting his future in order is a priority and THAT is what you should focus on. Don't ever try to hold someone you love to you too closely because it never works. What is best is for him to explore the world and then if you two end up together long term, it will be because he's lived a little and chosen you rather than just ending up with you because you were together young.
Your main goal too should be school and setting your self up for financial independence.
So relax, he could use your support as he starts a new chapter in his life and then see how life unfolds. good luck
Your main goal too should be school and setting your self up for financial independence.
So relax, he could use your support as he starts a new chapter in his life and then see how life unfolds. good luck
I believe if he loves u truly than u have nothing to worry about if anything does happen than it was not meant to be
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