Am i sexually attracted to my boyfriend?

[keeks137]

i dont know if i am sexually attracted to my boyfriend anymore. we have been dating for about 3 and a half years and the fun in sex has completely went away it feels like. when we first started dating we were having sex like twice a day, and it all started to change after we were going out for about a two years. he would still have sex every day but i just dont have interest anymore. most of the time when we have sex i wind up crying after and i have no idea why, and we mainly have sex for like 5 min or until i tell him to hurry up. idk what it is, i am sexually attracted to other men, even when i am just looking at them. i know my boyfriend has gained like 10 pounds since we started going out, maybe it that? i have no idea and its killing me. i want to have a good sexual relationship again. what can i do to save my sexual relationship with my boyfriend?

[angelica122]

dear u need to go around wid him... i kno it sounds weird coz u already r seeing him but i mean to say take a break... wen we do sumthin juz too much then our interest goes down!! take time n go on romantic dates... before having sex talk to him... get back d romance in d relationship!

[babypooh]

You're just used to him.  It happens to everyone and everything.  You need to change things up a bit like Wannabefree330 says.  We always want something different than what we have; that's why people dye their hair a different color and that's why we get haircuts.  Spice it up and think about what it is that would turn you on.  Role play?  Dress up?  Different place?  Maybe a nice massage...Think about what you might like and talk to your boyfriend about it.  It's important to talk about it if you're having problems.  He needs to know your needs so that he can meet them and then you both will start enjoying sex again.

[wannabefree330]

relationships as well as great sex take some work....on both parts.  Is it the passion, or romantic aspect you are missing?  Try spicing it up a bit.  Be spontaneous, and try new things.  Get a kama sutra book and explore eachother and all the different positions the book can show you.  What is it about before that used to REALLY turn you on?  Even people who have been married for years need to change things up once in a while.  Its normal.  Also, the most important thing is to TALK to your bf and tell him something is missing.  when two people are trying to find out how to make something more exciting, chances of finding that 'thing' are better.