should i leave my girl

ok well i have been with this girl for over 2 years and i am wondering if i should leave her now because i can't handle it any more i get called all kinds of names she tells me to move out i get hit on and she has 6 kids and only 1 is mine i just cant take it any more the kids dont listen to noone and im like goin crazy i need some ones help now

[heatherlynn22]

have you thought about couples therapy? are the other childrens father(s) in the picture? have you sat down with your g/f and told her that you don't like how she acts? suggested she get anger management? or do you want to leave? if you leave will you still see your child?

[mami1323]

Wow, 6 kids at 22 and only one of them is yours.  That's a lot to handle and I give you so much props for taking on that responsibility.  Sounds like your girlfriend is verbally and physically abusive.  There is no excuse for this what so ever and if you were a female we would all be telling you to run for the Hills.  I'm just sad to think of your child being away from you since it sounds like you are really close to your child.  You sound very overwhelmed.  I'm not sure if this is the best situation for you to be in.  I do believe that if there is no hope in getting this relationship into a healthy place that the best thing you can do is leave and hope and pray that you get more than every other weekend with your child.  

[dimples09]

If the relationship is not healthy and has no chance of being healthy you should leave but do take things into consideration for your preperation to leave. Are you currently working? Would you have a place to go/live? Are the children safe with her? Does she physically or emotionally abuse them also? If she is a great mom and only has problems with you then I say leave and support her from a distance. What I mean is let her know how you can not handle this abuse any more and that your ready to give up on your sexual relationship but not on the friendship that you guys need so you can help raise your child. I'm not saying you have a financiall responsibility for the other 5 but you do for the last one. Do your self a favor and go ahead and put yourself on child support that way she can't threaten you with it to make you stay. That take cares of money but just bc you support your child financially does not make you a father. You need to spend time with this child and continue to bond with your child. Prove to your child that you are not abandoning him/her let the child know just bc things didn't work out btwn mommy and daddy doesn't meant you love them less.
I wish you the best.

[vmvnpv]

You should not stay in a relationship where you're not happy.  If you are doing it for the kids DON'T!  They feel the tension and it makes it uncomfortable for them to be under the same roof when you and your gf can't get along.  6 kids is a lot to handle for 22 years old.  You have no legal responsibility towards them.  Your gf may be overwhelmed and stressed because she has more kids than she can handle but that DOES NOT give her the right to treat you the way she's treating you.  My honest opinion?  If she doesn't straighten up and treat you better than you need to leave.  You deserve to be with someone who treats you well and understands what a great guy she has.  (Which you are after putting up with that for 2 years!)

[SeriousSam]

Lawyer first!!!  You have a child you who will be hostage for your good behavior (legally) are you married?

But you are in for a world of hurt so don't let her know but go to a lawyer the best you can afford.  If you can get legal aid go for it but they will likely be geared only to help women.

This is America you are in the midwest so I am sorry but unless you have money you and your child are majorly f*kked