im so confused ;(

[soWhatImFlawed]

Im 15weeks pregnant with a boy and  my boyfriend walked out on me yesterday and told me he can't do this he doesn't want to be a father and i need to get rid of the baby .. He says there is to many things going worng in my life right now and( example : my breaks went out on my car and i crashed ,im behind in my bills, my mom is get evicted and etc ...) he says i should take it as a sign and not havr the baby.. Also i got rushed to the er from work today and he wouldn't even answer my calls .. This hurts so damn much

[PrettyGirlRocks]

Same thing happened to me . . He didn't exactly walked out on me , but we fuss everyday of the week & it has become stressful on me . . I already have in the back of my mind that we won't be together Long . . when we argue , he'll say things like . . I'll pay for the abortion b/c I don't gotta deal with your b**chy attitude . . Fine , you don't have to deal with it but I'm keeping my child b/c if you don't want her/him , you wouldn't have stress the fact you wanted a family . . so now I'm only focusing on me & my child whether he wants to be around or not .  His biggest fear is me putting him on child support once I have the baby so now he's kissing a** & I'm going to keep threatening him that I will do it . . two wrongs don't make a right but I'm just another player in his own game .

[AngePants]

You're welcome. If you need someone to talk to you can always send me a message. :)

[soWhatImFlawed]

Thank you

[AngePants]

He is obviously not ready for anything. His life is filled with problems from what you are saying and maybe he feels like a baby has no place in the chaos. He may be thinking of it as "if I can't take care of myself there is no way I can take care of a child". He is probably very afraid, not realizing the pressure all this puts on you because his own problems blind you out. Maybe he feels he will fail the baby. It could be many things. If he wants out than there is nothing you can do as far as you and him go, but you don't have to get an abortion because he isn't ready. It won't be easy and maybe he will come around at some point, but you have to look at the facts of you doing this alone. Focus on you and the baby and let him go. Don't be bitter or hateful to him because it will only give him power, just let him go. Easier said than done I know, but you have to rely on you and taking care of this baby is priority, not him.