Aa
so confused :(
I am currently in a 6mth relationship with an amazing guy infact after 4 years of being single after my abusive boyfriend of 6yrs I thought I was ready to move on and be happy with someone who made me happy.
So I met my current boyfriend which I had no feelings for in the beginning as I was quite content being single and didn't see the need to be in a relationship,so we started speaking and started working at the same venue doing promos and well he took a liking to me. In a full 2mths I fell for him,not his looks but the person he was,the gentle soul that he is and well I didn't tell him but he figure coz my attitude towards him changed,i was more willing to let him be close to me now. He never tried doing anything with me not once but as a guy I assumed he had the urge but nevertheless he didn't come on to me which for a moment I thought maybe he just likes me being there or maybe he just respects me or perhaps he thought I'm quite fiesty and was to scared...as time went by I never thought anything coz like every other guy he would flirt and pay extra attention to me and I decided to give it a try. within these 2mths my bestfriend messaged me and asked me to please keep away from him he is MARRIED :( why I didn't see the signs I wouldn't know but from that moment on I felt hurt,after 4 yrs of being alone and being hounded by many a guys I choose this 1 and I find out he is married! So I was upset asked him to please leave me alone,he then asked to see me and I agreed and he then broke down and told me what was really the problem,he was married for 4yrs,has a 2yr old son and well his wife doesn't see him being a man enough because she earns a higher wage and is basically and feels she is the man in the rlsp she bullies him. I didn't want to believe this until 3days later I got a message from her asking me who am I to him and do I know he is married? So I responded saying yes we just friends and she for some strange odd reason started chatting all the time and would open up to me as well,i now felt like a marriage therapist anyway as things went on, being muslim he divorced and went back home to his parents. She was heartbroken but not coz her hubby had left her but because she was now embarrassed of what people would say about her,she wasn't heartbroken because while being married she had a boyfriend she would invite to her office and well in December she is marrying him... so I'm with this guy now,i have no insecurity that he would go back to her but I do feel like maybe I'm not doing enough to make him happy? when we together we have the best moments and well now that he is going through a legal divorce we have to keep things under wraps and I don't mind but for the past 2 days I've been so emotional and just feel like everything is going wrong when infact nothing is,its getting closer to the case is that the reason I'm so anxious? 6mths and inlove is that possible? I just want to overcome everything,be there for him and make us both happy,what do I do?
So I met my current boyfriend which I had no feelings for in the beginning as I was quite content being single and didn't see the need to be in a relationship,so we started speaking and started working at the same venue doing promos and well he took a liking to me. In a full 2mths I fell for him,not his looks but the person he was,the gentle soul that he is and well I didn't tell him but he figure coz my attitude towards him changed,i was more willing to let him be close to me now. He never tried doing anything with me not once but as a guy I assumed he had the urge but nevertheless he didn't come on to me which for a moment I thought maybe he just likes me being there or maybe he just respects me or perhaps he thought I'm quite fiesty and was to scared...as time went by I never thought anything coz like every other guy he would flirt and pay extra attention to me and I decided to give it a try. within these 2mths my bestfriend messaged me and asked me to please keep away from him he is MARRIED :( why I didn't see the signs I wouldn't know but from that moment on I felt hurt,after 4 yrs of being alone and being hounded by many a guys I choose this 1 and I find out he is married! So I was upset asked him to please leave me alone,he then asked to see me and I agreed and he then broke down and told me what was really the problem,he was married for 4yrs,has a 2yr old son and well his wife doesn't see him being a man enough because she earns a higher wage and is basically and feels she is the man in the rlsp she bullies him. I didn't want to believe this until 3days later I got a message from her asking me who am I to him and do I know he is married? So I responded saying yes we just friends and she for some strange odd reason started chatting all the time and would open up to me as well,i now felt like a marriage therapist anyway as things went on, being muslim he divorced and went back home to his parents. She was heartbroken but not coz her hubby had left her but because she was now embarrassed of what people would say about her,she wasn't heartbroken because while being married she had a boyfriend she would invite to her office and well in December she is marrying him... so I'm with this guy now,i have no insecurity that he would go back to her but I do feel like maybe I'm not doing enough to make him happy? when we together we have the best moments and well now that he is going through a legal divorce we have to keep things under wraps and I don't mind but for the past 2 days I've been so emotional and just feel like everything is going wrong when infact nothing is,its getting closer to the case is that the reason I'm so anxious? 6mths and inlove is that possible? I just want to overcome everything,be there for him and make us both happy,what do I do?
"what do I do?"........I would say find a MORE healthier relationship to be in as this isn't it.
By the way, going through a "divorce" isn't the same as divorced. You are dealing with a VERY married man. Even if he were divorced he should be single for a while just to sort through the aftermath of divorce.
If all this happened in 6 months this is certainly NO love in my opinion. Perhaps you love the thrill, excitement and drama of it all, but I can guarantee this isn't love.
END THIS and let him deal with his divorce ALONE.
You aren't responsible for his happiness.....he is.
By the way, going through a "divorce" isn't the same as divorced. You are dealing with a VERY married man. Even if he were divorced he should be single for a while just to sort through the aftermath of divorce.
If all this happened in 6 months this is certainly NO love in my opinion. Perhaps you love the thrill, excitement and drama of it all, but I can guarantee this isn't love.
END THIS and let him deal with his divorce ALONE.
You aren't responsible for his happiness.....he is.
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