trust issues

[michelle8118]

every times i ask my boyfriend if i could see his yahoo or his myspace crap and he always tells me why do you wanna see it for and that makes me feel like he really is hiding something from me and thats my issues i always have with him he only goes on it when im not around him or when he is he has to hide it so i wont see what he does and he dosent even let me see his iphone when i ask him if i can see it and he dosent let me what should i do should i trust
him or why does he do that

[jesseesgirl]

In my experiance, if he wont let you see it, it is because he is hiding something. If he is not hiding anything, he would gladly let you see all of his things. I learned the hard way. Trust is earned, its not something you just give to someone.

[ErinZoe23]

My advice honestly is  if u got a bf or gf why the heck do u need any forn of interent communication with people you dont know? And if you say its just for your real life friends there a thing called a cell phone. I think having the internet and a realtionship not a good idea unless theres total trust and the other partner can go on your name anytime they want. I used to be a player and Sorry to say if He dont let you on his page hes cheating and tlaking to girls. And omg the phone thing He definatley dont want you to know something. My main line when i played guys was " why you dont trust me" and start a fight thatthey dont trust me so then they feel bad about wanting to see my stuff. And id be off the hook!

I'm now 23 tho and dont play games anymore been in a 3 yr long relationship/and living with 3 yrs .. I dunno for your age more an likely aint gonna last if you wnt to know just make a myspace page of some girls pic do a friend request and hit on him see if he wants to meet and bust he as* if he goes for it! gl

[mami1323]

I do believe if someone has nothing to hide they hide nothing but you're also talking about an 18 year old boy here.  His myspace and phone are his.  You are not married and therefore you have no rights to go through his things.  Perhaps he doesn't allow you to look through his things as a way of playing head games with you but if you do not trust him then you shouldn't be with him.  You are young and don't need to surround yourself with a drama filled relationship.

[Judy246]

That's right, your profile read that you are married?

[RockRose]

Well okay,  that's weird.  On your profile you're pretending to be married.  Birds of feather flock together,  I guess.

[RockRose]

I can't imagine my husband not allowing me to see his Yahoo account,   and frankly I think I'd be bored to tears.  Car stuff,  wristwatch stuff,  gads.  Who wants to read that?

If my husband wanted to see any of my accounts he'd be more than welcome to,  and he'd be equally bored with them.

Your guy is hiding something,  which is not necessary about cheating.  It could be something as minor as he's making himself out to be wealthier,  more educated,  whatever,  than he really is in discussion forums.

But he is hiding something.

[teko]

He has a right to his privacy, as you do.  Why would you want to see them unless you DONT trust him? Otherwise it would be a non issue.

[specialmom]

I agree.  If you are asking him to see it to check up on him, that is insulting unless he has given you reason to do so.  However, if he is covering his hand over his computer or something when you walk into the room or scrambling to  shut it down, I can see how you would wonder a little.  How are things in your relationship?  Do you feel emotionally close to him?  Is he an attentive boyfriend?  I'd  focas on those areas and maybe within time he'll "trust" enough to not flip out if you are looking through his stuff.  good luck

[Judy246]

The trust issues is yours and not his. If he has not given you any reason for insecurities, doubts and jelousy, then he has every right to his privacy. I don't care what my fiance want's to look at, because I have nothing to hide, BUT it bother's me that he is doubting me if he feels the need to check my e-mail, Iphone and other personal items. He is entitled to his privacy, unless he has given you a reason to be of concern. Good Luck, Judy