what woman want?

[kid101]

hey ladies do yall like caring men,men who show they care....i've met a girl about 5 days ago she said that i;m a caring person what does she really mean?

[iam1butterfly]

It may be her way of saying that you're nice.
And yes, women appreciate men who are caring, giving, loving and... ever so nice.

[Judy246]

Wow, if you don't know what it means to be a caring person, I would question you. It means that you have a good heart, sensitive, appreciative, show attention to detail, warm, caring, concerned about others.....it means, your mother raised you right!  Good luck, Judy

[SeriousSam]

Probably means that she just likes you as a friend.  Personally according to my daughter girls are confusing and you have to try to decode each ones individual meanings, in context with the person.

Personally I have found that what women want and what they settle for are to different things, and that "caring" men are usually put in three categories possibly gay, special friends or backup boyfriends.

If they really think you are caring and respect you, by the time they tell you that you are caring the relationship is either getting ready to end ( "It's me not you") or getting ready to take off.  Compliments of this sort are usually dangerous or confusing so don't put too much weight on it meaning something real between the two o you.  

[Beargizmo]

Yes...you've got to be careful NOT to interpret signals, as I've been guilty of so many times..only to find I was so wrong...a terrible feeling


Jim

[kid101]

i just didnt like what she said and to tell da truth i dont even like her actually i only want sex from her bout i'm wondering if i probably should not have been too nice orif i should of told her wat my intentions where fromday one

[jenkaye21]

Yep, you should *definitely* let her know your intentions so that SHE can make a good decision.  

[Beargizmo]

Yes, you do sound like a caring person and as jenkaye21 said, you should let her know right away how caring you are.


Jim

[Beargizmo]

in other words, let her know that all you want is sex from her...I'm sure she'll be flattered.


Jim

[mami1323]

Haha...Jim you crack me up. I also think you need to be honest of your intentions. She obviously is misinterpreting how caring you truly are.

[kid101]

i've told her but she said it's too fast she said she have not even know me for a week yet...so does that means she doesnt want to have sex with me?

[jo929]

Now i am going to cry all night, i am to young for this and here i thought judy, and butterfly had it right  jo

[mami1323]

The fact that she still talks to you knowing that all you want from her is sex is beyond my comprehension.  No she obviously doesn't just want sex from you.

[iam1butterfly]

Yep! ....disappointing, but not surprising.

[lovemykids465]

I started reading this from the top. Wow! What a ride! First I was like, How sweet, then my response to the men is just because she says caring does not mean she just wants to be friends. Most women do want caring men, caring, exciting, a bit dangerous at times but then when I read his response I was like Jerk.

[Caromar]

There are girls out there that as well as guys only want to have sex, without the bf-gf relationship complications. I actually had a just sex based relationship long time ago but its not all that simple, one of you might start having feelings beyond the sex part for the other and then is when it gets complicated. In my case, he was straight forward and told me he was not looking for a serious relationship, that he just wanted to go out have fun and have sex, and at the time it sounded just like what I was looking for, so we agreed to have only sex with each other, we both had checked ourselves for STDs and since everything was fine then we started our just sex relationship BUT within a month he started asking me if I would ever fall in love with him, to which my answer was no, since I was already 'programed' to just have sex. Eventually he started getting jealous and I had to stop the relationship, and ended up with a stalker for 3 months (he finally got the idea that we are not going to have anything anymore). So you see, you might think you are in controll and the table might be turned and you might end up the one with the feelings and getting hurt. If you told her and she still talks to you and goes out with you, that just means two things, she is up for the sex only relationship, or she has hopes that one day you will change and fall in love with her. Now if you told her, she still talks but is not going out with you she is not into it, and is probably hoping that in time you will stop bothering her by putting excuses like I have to work, I'm tired etc etc.

[Judy246]

If it's only for sex, make sure to make it real clear that you are not looking for a committed exclusive relationship, just someone to spend time with. The problem is that eventually someone can develop stronger feelings and that's were it becomes a problem that someone can get hurt. Some women view sex as intimacy where feeling become stronger, so be careful not to play with her emotions if she seems that she want more than just sex. Also, make sure you alway protect yourself to avoid STD's or unwanted pregnancies.  Judy

[Judy246]

LOL..I take back my comment about your mother raised you right. Judy

[Beargizmo]

hah!




Jim

[Caromar]

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

[imanaddict]

Why in the world would you just want sex from a girl you don't even like??? Why even bother? You could find someone who you do like and who likes you back and have a relationship with sex included.

Just keep in mind when you play with fire, you get burned! And by having meaningless sex with girls you don't even like could cause you to get a burn for a lifetime if you know what I mean (STD).

[kid101]

when is it too late to apologize?...like if she does'nt want me after i tell her that does that means i cannot apologize for it? because it was intentionally but what if da apology is sincere

[Judy246]

apology...then mama raised you right :) Judy

[peggy64]

what about abstainence till marriage? That is the best deal going. Gods plan...

[Julie359]

WHY ON EARTH DO GUYS DO THAT.....PFFFFF They give it all the caring attitude like they are really interested in ur life, wanting to know u when all the time they just wana jump in the sack with ya....... N yeah instead of fooling her only to rip her heart to shreds give her the benefit of the doubt and let her know what u intend to do...then hopefully she will be wise enough to shove that caring nature where the sun doesn't shine......