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whats it mean
hi I've been seeing this guy for a few months been talking for a year and we have been realy realy close exchanging I love you's he has moved in he has problems lil bit with depression he is not really working at the moments anyways 2 days ago in the morning he had told me that he was going to go to Walmart to get some coffee and did not come back I only heard from him once last night I told him I love him and he says I love you too but today all day I have not heard from him and everytime I callgo straight to voicemailhis phone go straight to voicemail before he left that night he did not sleep for a few nights so I'm hoping that he's just asleepI miss him dearly and I'm frustrated in heard but confused at the same time why would he say he loves me too if he wanted to end things all of his stuff is still here at my house i just want to talk to him :(
thank you everyone for responding i do need time alone to honestly think things through n get self respect i appreciate everyone of you to take the time in responding it helps
It sounds like drugs. This is very typical behavior of people who are unemployed and on drugs. They wake up one day and decide to go on a bender and no one knows where they are except their dealer and their addicted friends. And those are the people who more often than not end up dead in a ditch somewhere because of an OD. And you said he hurt his back and suffers depression from his injury. That's a recipe for disaster right there since he probably got addicted to pain pills and he's out there looking for a fix. I'm sorry you have gotten involved with an unemployed drug addict but it's probably a good time to change your locks while he's gone.
"Whats it mean?"...............NOTHING good.
Didn't you just get out of a terrible marriage? Did you seek any counseling after the divorce?
Why are you worried about this problem with the sexual performance when you have all this other drama going on outside the bed/bedroom?
Too many red flags and you can either:
Pack his things up and suggest he go elsewhere and ADDRESS his personal issues alone; break things off and wish him well.
OR
Continue riding on this roller coaster of nonsense.
Sounds like he is on drugs and/or he is emotionally/psychological unstable with the combination of being unemployed................he sounds like a total mess OUTSIDE your realm of help. Probably uses this woman and that woman or whoever to have a place to sleep and a place to keep his stuff while he does "whatever."
Do YOU think this is all you are worth? This post says a lot about how you feel and think about yourself.
What difference would it make if you see him if he comes back to pick his stuff up? The ONLY reason I would recommend being present while he does that is to make sure he takes ONLY his stuff.
This man is unstable and unpredictable for sure.
Is this his idea of "loving you?" It's obvious his actions aren't matching what he told you.
Didn't you just get out of a terrible marriage? Did you seek any counseling after the divorce?
Why are you worried about this problem with the sexual performance when you have all this other drama going on outside the bed/bedroom?
Too many red flags and you can either:
Pack his things up and suggest he go elsewhere and ADDRESS his personal issues alone; break things off and wish him well.
OR
Continue riding on this roller coaster of nonsense.
Sounds like he is on drugs and/or he is emotionally/psychological unstable with the combination of being unemployed................he sounds like a total mess OUTSIDE your realm of help. Probably uses this woman and that woman or whoever to have a place to sleep and a place to keep his stuff while he does "whatever."
Do YOU think this is all you are worth? This post says a lot about how you feel and think about yourself.
What difference would it make if you see him if he comes back to pick his stuff up? The ONLY reason I would recommend being present while he does that is to make sure he takes ONLY his stuff.
This man is unstable and unpredictable for sure.
Is this his idea of "loving you?" It's obvious his actions aren't matching what he told you.
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Well, if he is that volatile that you think he would just bolt like that, what kind of relationship is it? ya know?
he is depressed a lot in he's in a lot of pain with his back because he used to ride bulls and he had a job and then the boss I had less and less work for himI was just hoping that he's just sleeping and alsowhat else is running through my mindis him grabbing his things while I'm at work tomorrow and leaving without me even seen him
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Hi there and welcome. I'm sure this is both worrisome and frustrating to you.
From the outside looking in, I have to say that I do see a couple of red flags. A 'little bit of depression' means what exactly? Is he clinically depressed? What does a 'little bit of depression' look like? Does he seek treatment for it? And this little bit of depression, do you blame that for his not working? Was he working when you met him or when you invited him to move in with you? Those two things do have me concerned. Does he have any issue with drinking or drugs as sometimes when someone is depressed, they self medicate this way. And then they can disappear.
I think that the other red flag is that you two have known each other for a few months and are already at 'I love you' and living together. That is pretty fast and sometimes when things move fast, the foundation needed in a relationship doesn't get built. or it is weak.
He just left and turned off his phone with no explanation. That, in all honesty, would drive me crazy. I'd be sick with worry that something was wrong. Like he's hurting himself or been in an accident or something like that. I'd also be worried that he's leaving me. Or that he's doing something I'd be so upset that he was doing. all bad things. There is really no 'normal' reasoning behind doing this to you. It's beyond inconsiderate.
so, try your very best to not call him. Text him. Email him. or contact him. he'll come back or get in touch with you as you have his things. When he does, ask him WHAT THE HECK. Then no matter his answer, sweetie. Think long and hard if you want to continue this relationship. I'm not sure I'd want to be with someone that treated me that way. NO MATTER THE EXCUSE. Even if he is taking care of his dying Grandma . . . he could answer your inquiry about what's going on. Unless he's hurt and in the hospital . .. there is nothing he could say to make this okay. Even if he says he was depressed and needed some time. Do you really want to be with someone that has that deep of emotional issues? I wouldn't.
So, I know that is a lot to lay on you. But I feel bad you are having to go through this. I don't call my husband that often when he is out of town working. But if I haven't heard from him by 11 pm, I will call him. I expect hi to answer. He did this last night while out with customers. he answered because it was ME and I was wondering where he was since I hadn't heard from him. ya know? It's a respect thing. he wouldn't want me to worry. So, your guy shouldn't either. Again, sorry. Let me know how this turns out hon. peace
From the outside looking in, I have to say that I do see a couple of red flags. A 'little bit of depression' means what exactly? Is he clinically depressed? What does a 'little bit of depression' look like? Does he seek treatment for it? And this little bit of depression, do you blame that for his not working? Was he working when you met him or when you invited him to move in with you? Those two things do have me concerned. Does he have any issue with drinking or drugs as sometimes when someone is depressed, they self medicate this way. And then they can disappear.
I think that the other red flag is that you two have known each other for a few months and are already at 'I love you' and living together. That is pretty fast and sometimes when things move fast, the foundation needed in a relationship doesn't get built. or it is weak.
He just left and turned off his phone with no explanation. That, in all honesty, would drive me crazy. I'd be sick with worry that something was wrong. Like he's hurting himself or been in an accident or something like that. I'd also be worried that he's leaving me. Or that he's doing something I'd be so upset that he was doing. all bad things. There is really no 'normal' reasoning behind doing this to you. It's beyond inconsiderate.
so, try your very best to not call him. Text him. Email him. or contact him. he'll come back or get in touch with you as you have his things. When he does, ask him WHAT THE HECK. Then no matter his answer, sweetie. Think long and hard if you want to continue this relationship. I'm not sure I'd want to be with someone that treated me that way. NO MATTER THE EXCUSE. Even if he is taking care of his dying Grandma . . . he could answer your inquiry about what's going on. Unless he's hurt and in the hospital . .. there is nothing he could say to make this okay. Even if he says he was depressed and needed some time. Do you really want to be with someone that has that deep of emotional issues? I wouldn't.
So, I know that is a lot to lay on you. But I feel bad you are having to go through this. I don't call my husband that often when he is out of town working. But if I haven't heard from him by 11 pm, I will call him. I expect hi to answer. He did this last night while out with customers. he answered because it was ME and I was wondering where he was since I hadn't heard from him. ya know? It's a respect thing. he wouldn't want me to worry. So, your guy shouldn't either. Again, sorry. Let me know how this turns out hon. peace
also its been a week since we been intimate the morning we tried he couldnt keep it hard n i was dry sorry bout the tmi but really i have no clue to where i stand with him i know he depressed im confused feel emotions of unworthy pain hurt but it could just be nothing im a worry wort i love him deeply
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