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Hello, I'd really like a bit of guidance as I've messed up and would like help managing risk.
I'm from a very religious background where homosexuality is seen as sinful. I was on vacation in London and decided to see an escort. He was very understanding of my situation, we discussed STIs - he was kind enough to share his still results from the week before which were negative.
We engaged in a few activities - he trimmed my pubic region (using my razor), he rimmed me, he gave me a prostate massage and he used some toys on me. He says his protocol is that his toys go through the dishwasher after every use. We put condoms on the toys however after we had finished one of the condoms on the toy had completely torn.
I'm a bit worried now about general STI risk though I thought we had agreed activities which were low risk, and I've only just read about the mpox outbreak in England.
Was I right in thinking this encounter is low risk? Has the condom breaking changed the risk significantly? What should I be thinking about mpox? He says he has been vaccinated so I don't know if that changes things.
I'm quite concerned as if my community finds out about my indiscretion I will face quite severe consequences
I'm from a very religious background where homosexuality is seen as sinful. I was on vacation in London and decided to see an escort. He was very understanding of my situation, we discussed STIs - he was kind enough to share his still results from the week before which were negative.
We engaged in a few activities - he trimmed my pubic region (using my razor), he rimmed me, he gave me a prostate massage and he used some toys on me. He says his protocol is that his toys go through the dishwasher after every use. We put condoms on the toys however after we had finished one of the condoms on the toy had completely torn.
I'm a bit worried now about general STI risk though I thought we had agreed activities which were low risk, and I've only just read about the mpox outbreak in England.
Was I right in thinking this encounter is low risk? Has the condom breaking changed the risk significantly? What should I be thinking about mpox? He says he has been vaccinated so I don't know if that changes things.
I'm quite concerned as if my community finds out about my indiscretion I will face quite severe consequences
As Curfew has said, the risk of an STI from this instance is so so low.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to answer, I really appreciate it
mPox - if he's vaccinated, or has previously had mPox, it's highly unlikely you would get it. There isn't really a way to test if you've got it or not unless you get lesions.
The only realistic risks are from the rimming, and that risk is VERY low for anything.
Gonorrhea: If you got gonorrhea, you might see symptoms like discharge and burning within 2-5 days. Not everyone gets symptoms.
Chlamydia: Oral chlamydia is not common, and she would have had to have oral chlamydia to give it to you. It could happen, but it is extremely unlikely. The symptoms and time frame are similar to gonorrhea.
You could get tested for both if you wait about a week after the encounter, but really, the risk is very low.
Syphilis is rare in developed countries, and your partner would have to have had a sore on his tongue to transmit it.
If you don't have oral herpes already (think cold sores), that is also a possibility, but again, VERY SLIM.
The only realistic risks are from the rimming, and that risk is VERY low for anything.
Gonorrhea: If you got gonorrhea, you might see symptoms like discharge and burning within 2-5 days. Not everyone gets symptoms.
Chlamydia: Oral chlamydia is not common, and she would have had to have oral chlamydia to give it to you. It could happen, but it is extremely unlikely. The symptoms and time frame are similar to gonorrhea.
You could get tested for both if you wait about a week after the encounter, but really, the risk is very low.
Syphilis is rare in developed countries, and your partner would have to have had a sore on his tongue to transmit it.
If you don't have oral herpes already (think cold sores), that is also a possibility, but again, VERY SLIM.
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Thank you very much for your response, I really appreciate it.
Do you mean transmission via toys doesn't really happen?
When you mention symptoms of gonorrhea do you mean I'd get the discharge and burning in my anus from the rimming, or from my penis? My penis was never in his mouth though he did lick my scrotun and rim me, his penis was never in my mouth though I did lick his scrotum but no rimming. He did use a shaving brush to lather me up before shaving me, the brush was his, but I assumed this to be a zero risk aspect of the encounter
Do you mean transmission via toys doesn't really happen?
When you mention symptoms of gonorrhea do you mean I'd get the discharge and burning in my anus from the rimming, or from my penis? My penis was never in his mouth though he did lick my scrotun and rim me, his penis was never in my mouth though I did lick his scrotum but no rimming. He did use a shaving brush to lather me up before shaving me, the brush was his, but I assumed this to be a zero risk aspect of the encounter
You wouldn't be at risk from a sex toy unless he used it on himself and then immediately used it on you. If you're concerned that he didn't wash it between you and a previous person, then no, that's not a risk. STDs die very quickly once exposed to air.
Yes, you would have burning or itching in your anus, and pus-like discharge IF you got symptoms.
You are correct that the brush/shaving incident is no-risk.
Yes, you would have burning or itching in your anus, and pus-like discharge IF you got symptoms.
You are correct that the brush/shaving incident is no-risk.
Thank you very much for your help, have a really nice day and thank you again
You're welcome!
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