Hello, thank you in advance for helping with my questions!
I'm a bisexual man and have a regular (female) partner. About a week ago I was travelling for business and had a lapse of judgement and had some sexual contact with a man. This has been my only extramarital contact in 12 years of marriage. I feel awful about it, and am struggling with the psychological consequences of my actions.
During my meeting with the man I was rimmed, fingered, there was some fun with toys (his butt plug, which he said had been cleaned thoroughly) and some masturbation. There was no blowjobs or anal sex.
I thought everything was quite low risk (I panicked immediately afterwards and read many posts on this forum). But now, six days later I've developed a sore anus and some diarrhea. I initially thought it was a haemarrhoid from the toy and stretching, but I've gone on to develop a fever.
I already get mouth cold sores so didn't think I could get herpes, which makes me wonder if I have mpox or something like gonorrhea giving me a fever?
I have requested a home testing kit but thought I would hold off another week before sending it, as I think I'm too early to pick up anything on testing?
Please help. I'm avoiding sex with my wife until I know for sure I haven't caught anything, but in jot sure what to do!
I realise I was also flying for business, on the subway etc, so could just as easily have a haemarrhoid and picked up covid (but my covid tests are negative)