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Really worried and could use some answers
About five days ago a had a one-night stand with a woman I met online(dumb, I know). I've never done anything like that before and have been incredibly anxious about the entire thing ever since. We had protected vaginal sex and she performed unprotected oral on me. She also used a bottle as a dildo. When I turned the lights on, I realized the bottle was bloody, but she did not seem concerned. I've been incredibly worried about the entire thing since the moment she left my room, so much so that I vomited into my sink.
It's also important to note that even before the one-night stand I had been having some stomach pains and a loss of appetite, so some or all symptoms may be completely unrelated--I'd really just like to know if I have anything to worry about, and maybe some answers to some of the things I've been experiencing.
Later that night I dry-heaved a little and spat out about a teaspoon of blood, and became light headed for a period of time. The next morning I experienced some tingling and itching in my groin region, particularly around the head of my penis. The day after, the tingling/itching remained, I became much more anxious about it and lost a lot of sleep over it. On the next day the tingling/itching was replaced with a kind of a stinging pain at the tip of my penis throughout my classes. It felt kind of like a combination of something being inserted into my urethra, and a kind of throbbing ache. This was accompanied by extreme anxiety, to the point of being unable to keep my hands from shaking.
This morning I was feeling much better about it, having convinced myself that everything I've been feeling is a result of anxiety and nothing else. Later, however, I began to feel a bit of pain along the ridge of the head and think I've discovered what looks like these incredibly tiny, flesh colored bumps, right under the ridge. The issue is that I'm not really sure if I'm seeing the bumps or if it's just folds in the skin. I can't really touch them to see if they have texture, and I can only really see them if I pull the hood taut and look at it in just the right angle--they aren't much bigger than flecks of pepper or something. It is in roughly the same area as the pain I've been experiencing, but I can't tell if it is actually the source. And the real kicker is that I'm not even sure if it's anything new or if they've always been there--I've never paid so much attention to my penis as I have in the past four days. I've been searching it on a nightly basis, pulling skin taut, searching every fiber, which could very well account for the pain.
What has also bothered me is that today I have had to urinate very frequently, have been feeling light-headed for a number of hours, and my left testicle has developed a dull ache. I have to wait another couple weeks before I can even have any tests performed, and have been bordering on panic-attacks on a nightly basis. Mostly, I'd just like to know if anything I've been experiencing is worthy of valid concerns or if I'm really just doing it all to myself--or even if my concerns are valid, but may not necessarily be the result of an std.
It's also important to note that even before the one-night stand I had been having some stomach pains and a loss of appetite, so some or all symptoms may be completely unrelated--I'd really just like to know if I have anything to worry about, and maybe some answers to some of the things I've been experiencing.
Later that night I dry-heaved a little and spat out about a teaspoon of blood, and became light headed for a period of time. The next morning I experienced some tingling and itching in my groin region, particularly around the head of my penis. The day after, the tingling/itching remained, I became much more anxious about it and lost a lot of sleep over it. On the next day the tingling/itching was replaced with a kind of a stinging pain at the tip of my penis throughout my classes. It felt kind of like a combination of something being inserted into my urethra, and a kind of throbbing ache. This was accompanied by extreme anxiety, to the point of being unable to keep my hands from shaking.
This morning I was feeling much better about it, having convinced myself that everything I've been feeling is a result of anxiety and nothing else. Later, however, I began to feel a bit of pain along the ridge of the head and think I've discovered what looks like these incredibly tiny, flesh colored bumps, right under the ridge. The issue is that I'm not really sure if I'm seeing the bumps or if it's just folds in the skin. I can't really touch them to see if they have texture, and I can only really see them if I pull the hood taut and look at it in just the right angle--they aren't much bigger than flecks of pepper or something. It is in roughly the same area as the pain I've been experiencing, but I can't tell if it is actually the source. And the real kicker is that I'm not even sure if it's anything new or if they've always been there--I've never paid so much attention to my penis as I have in the past four days. I've been searching it on a nightly basis, pulling skin taut, searching every fiber, which could very well account for the pain.
What has also bothered me is that today I have had to urinate very frequently, have been feeling light-headed for a number of hours, and my left testicle has developed a dull ache. I have to wait another couple weeks before I can even have any tests performed, and have been bordering on panic-attacks on a nightly basis. Mostly, I'd just like to know if anything I've been experiencing is worthy of valid concerns or if I'm really just doing it all to myself--or even if my concerns are valid, but may not necessarily be the result of an std.
I really hope I don't sound like a hypochondriac by now, but at the same time a lot of this has been helping me put myself at ease, and I feel much better having multiple opinions, so I'm going to apologize ahead of time in case I'm getting annoying. I've been to see a doctor who examined my penis and found no signs of warts or lesions, ordered a urine test which I'm still waiting for the results on, and prescribed antibiotics just in case (and I've also been to see a counselor about the anxiety).
In any case, the doctor was incredibly brief, didn't really ask too many questions, and didn't offer any possibilities, other than mentioning chlamydia when he gave me the prescription, so I'm honestly not quite sure what to think until I get the test results back--and then I'll have to wait to take the blood test in two weeks, which I don't believe covers herpes, so I'll probably have to get that tested for as well. I guess I'd mostly just like some feedback on the following symptoms I've been experiencing, and whether or not anything I've been thinking in relation to them sounds valid.
I've been having kind of a pinching feeling in the tip of my penis, right around, or possibly inside the opening to my urethra (the bump I mentioned around there earlier was not there by the time i went in to get checked out, so I'm guessing either it healed or it was never really there in the first place). I've been having a frequent urge to urinate, though often times when i do, very little comes out. It's often very dark, but not consistently so, so I couldn't really say if it's a symptom, or if I'm just dehydrated. I also once noticed a small piece of stringy material come out--it looked kind of like a shred of skin or something(like if you bite some off of your lip or something).
In addition to this I've been having stomach pains(usually mild, although there were a few that were incredibly tense and almost caused me to double over) and have had a lack of appetite for quite some time--I noticed when they weighed me that I've lost close to ten pounds in about a week. What's interesting is that I had already been suffering from mild stomach pains and a relative loss of appetite before the one night stand, and am a little curious if everything I've been experiencing is the result of something completely unrelated (kidney stones, or a urinary tract infection, let's say).
What has been bothering me, however, is that the two times I've masturbated since the one night stand(mostly in an attempt to convince myself that everything is perfectly fine and calm myself down) I've noticed that some of the skin of the frenulum flakes and peels away, which is something I've never really encountered too much. I'm hoping this is because I've been washing my hands almost compulsively for the past week and that it has caused my hands to become rough and dry, but i really don't know. After the fact, the frenulum becomes very noticeably itchy and it's hard not to think about it. This seems sensation seems to come and go over the course of a few hours.
The other major thing I've noticed are that there are a number of tiny, flesh colorless bumps along my upper lip. They are pretty much invisible until I look really close in the mirror and they don't appear to have any kind of texture when I run a finger over them. I honestly can't say if they're new, or if they've been there all along and I'm just now noticing them.
Honestly, I think I'm kind of aware of how irrational a lot of this sounds, and how there's a very high likelihood of my own anxiety multiplying what are probably mild sensations that I experience on a regular basis into something much scarier, but all the same I would really like to know if any of what I've described constitutes any valid concerns that I should bring up during my next checkup.
In any case, the doctor was incredibly brief, didn't really ask too many questions, and didn't offer any possibilities, other than mentioning chlamydia when he gave me the prescription, so I'm honestly not quite sure what to think until I get the test results back--and then I'll have to wait to take the blood test in two weeks, which I don't believe covers herpes, so I'll probably have to get that tested for as well. I guess I'd mostly just like some feedback on the following symptoms I've been experiencing, and whether or not anything I've been thinking in relation to them sounds valid.
I've been having kind of a pinching feeling in the tip of my penis, right around, or possibly inside the opening to my urethra (the bump I mentioned around there earlier was not there by the time i went in to get checked out, so I'm guessing either it healed or it was never really there in the first place). I've been having a frequent urge to urinate, though often times when i do, very little comes out. It's often very dark, but not consistently so, so I couldn't really say if it's a symptom, or if I'm just dehydrated. I also once noticed a small piece of stringy material come out--it looked kind of like a shred of skin or something(like if you bite some off of your lip or something).
In addition to this I've been having stomach pains(usually mild, although there were a few that were incredibly tense and almost caused me to double over) and have had a lack of appetite for quite some time--I noticed when they weighed me that I've lost close to ten pounds in about a week. What's interesting is that I had already been suffering from mild stomach pains and a relative loss of appetite before the one night stand, and am a little curious if everything I've been experiencing is the result of something completely unrelated (kidney stones, or a urinary tract infection, let's say).
What has been bothering me, however, is that the two times I've masturbated since the one night stand(mostly in an attempt to convince myself that everything is perfectly fine and calm myself down) I've noticed that some of the skin of the frenulum flakes and peels away, which is something I've never really encountered too much. I'm hoping this is because I've been washing my hands almost compulsively for the past week and that it has caused my hands to become rough and dry, but i really don't know. After the fact, the frenulum becomes very noticeably itchy and it's hard not to think about it. This seems sensation seems to come and go over the course of a few hours.
The other major thing I've noticed are that there are a number of tiny, flesh colorless bumps along my upper lip. They are pretty much invisible until I look really close in the mirror and they don't appear to have any kind of texture when I run a finger over them. I honestly can't say if they're new, or if they've been there all along and I'm just now noticing them.
Honestly, I think I'm kind of aware of how irrational a lot of this sounds, and how there's a very high likelihood of my own anxiety multiplying what are probably mild sensations that I experience on a regular basis into something much scarier, but all the same I would really like to know if any of what I've described constitutes any valid concerns that I should bring up during my next checkup.
odds are the bump you are looking at has been there awhile and normal. many men have that.
Alrighty, I'm trying to stop all the checking, and am considering seeking out anxiety counseling, but in the mean time, I really need to ask. Do you think all this prodding and whatnot(or any other factors) could contribute to the development of a tiny bump or growth just inside the entrance to the urethra? It's right about where the opening stops and looks kind of like a stye or something like that. It's incredibly small and doesn't quite look like the pictures I've seen of herpes, but I don't know. It kind of hurts, but I'm not sure if it's a growth or a tear. I'm going in to have it looked at as quickly as possible, but some feedback before then might be really nice. I'm really scared.
we recommend protected sex because it works. odds are this is all anxiety for you more than it is a std.
you can get std's from oral sex but the risk of such is low.
call off the crotch watch - at this point you are just irritating your penis far too much as well as adding to your anxiety by looking at the lil guy so often. sometimes out of sight, out of mind really does work.
if you can't lick this anxiety on your own, seek out professional help.
grace
you can get std's from oral sex but the risk of such is low.
call off the crotch watch - at this point you are just irritating your penis far too much as well as adding to your anxiety by looking at the lil guy so often. sometimes out of sight, out of mind really does work.
if you can't lick this anxiety on your own, seek out professional help.
grace
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