STD question worry

[2012JA]

6 months ago i was stripped off on a stage at a party. I had champiagn sucked / removed off my penis by a stripper at a party (20/30 seconds)- no sexual gain intented on my part. At the time i was taking tetracycline for skin issues and became worry that i may have contracted gonorrrhea without knowing and passed this to my fiancee.

I have been tested and all was negative but i have been concerned that i may have infected my fiancee and cured myself due to the tetracycline.

This whole situation was nothing more that a joke at a party but its made me ill with anxiety and i cannot tell my girlfriend because she will not see the funny side of it.

Its been 6 months with no symptoms. Everytime my she mentions period pain or upset stomach i start to get paranoid again. I could not live with myself if i have infected her.

My question is:

1. In the unlikely event that i infected my fiancee, would i have been reinfected by now?


I am really worried and have been for 6 months. Can someone please help me. You may think im over reacting but im not an expert and dont know what to do!!

[Vance2335]

Answered already

[2012JA]

My last question guys.

I have read numerous links about gonorrhoea being eradicated naturally by the body's immune system. Assuming worst case that my misses did contract (although unlikely), and 16 months has now passed.

Surely after having sex multiple times I would have been either re-infected by now (and tested positive) OR she would no longer have it due to the above? is that correct?

Sorry to keep pressing, but I don't understand the science behind it all. I just want to get this out of my head. I'm just a normal guy who naively made a mistake and wants to put it right.

[Life360_Dave]

I agree with Vance

[Vance2335]

1. Unlikely she would have it as unlikely you did have it.

2. Most likely and your tests prove you don't have it which means she most likely does not have it.

3. Not zero but low risk.

[2012JA]

Hi Life360,

We spoke a while ago......around 10 months ago now. I would appreciate your help one last time so I can finally move on with my life!!!

Until recently, I had completely put this ONE mistake to the back of my mind - mistake above.

About two weeks ago I noticed my misses had some light bleeding after sex, this happen on two separate days which lead me search Google again....which I shouldn't have done. Google says that Gonorrhoea can result in female bleeding. I am only worried about Gonorrhoea.

Its been 16 months since my incident and I have been ashamed everyday since because its completely against my values but I was on a stag party and heavily drunk! At the time this was nothing but a laugh amongst friends celebrating my friends last night of freedom, but it turned out to be the worst night of my life. I will never do anything like this again but I cannot tell my misses about this story because she may leave me.

I did take some antibiotics around the time of this exposure so have been concerned about curing myself after infecting my partner. However, I have had multiple tests since this incident, they have all been negative and I haven't had any symptoms (ever).

1. If I did pass this to my misses 16 months ago, would she still have it? I have read that these infections do not last this long due to the body's immune system?

2. If she did have it would I have been re-infected by now? I have had three negative tests in the last 12 months?

3. I have read that without deepthroat my risk zero, is that true? I did not receive deepthroat, only front of the month for 20 seconds. If this is true I have absolutely nothing to worry about.

Thank you once again.

[2012JA]

Thank you for coming back with an answer.

She did not deepthroat me, only the penis head went into her mouth and for maybe 20/30 seconds. I tested negative on two occasions but just worried incase the tetracycline interupting accurate testing results.

I know my chances are low but for some reason i have got really worked up and paranoid about this situation, its been 6 months now and i still worry about it from time to time. I feel trapped, if i tell the truth she may leave me and this was only a drunken joke.

If in the small chance i had it and passed it on, would i have caught it back off my girlfriend over the last 6 months? I am taking some reassurance upto now because i havent had any symptoms And its been 6 months - we have had sex many times during this period but i find myself waiting for something to go wrong.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, when a person has an std like gono and chlamydia. more often its in the vagina area not the throat. Also to be at risk she would need to give you a deep throat oral as any germs would be in the back of her throat. Really nothing to be overly concerned about as you also tested negative.