Gonorrhea quest- please help :)

[CFPA]

I have a question regarding all of the ways that one can contract Gonorrhea. I recently went to visit my ex-boyfriend in another state. When I got home he called me & asked why he had burning during urination and yellow pus like discharge. I haven't been with anyone else since over a year before I met him (I am not promiscuous at all). I chalked it up to maybe a bacterial infection since he is uncircumcised & I often get BV & UTI's since being with him. Now, I was tested almost a year ago (3 months after I met him) for chlamydia & gonorrhea etc since I was getting a lot of UTI's. The results were negative. Anyway, a few days after my return from visiting I also started experiencing gonorrhea like symptoms so I visited the Dr. My test came back positive and I called my ex to ask if he had been with anyone else since we broke up & he said no. Now, I can't fault him if he was because we did break up and it was my decision to end the relationship. I just wanted to know because if I knew he were, I probably wouldn't have went to visit him and i would've been more careful. He did say that years ago he had the same symptoms but they had went away so he didn't go to the doctor (he didn't have insurance). my question is can Gonorrhea go away & come back years later?? And, why wouldn't i have previosuly tested positive for it if he was "carrying" it asymptomatic all these years?? i do know that once i had a situation in which i got Trich and hadnt been sexually active for almost 2 years nor had i so much as even kissed a guy in that time. i had just gotten my wisdom teeth out & was on anti-biotics so i thought it was a yeast infection but when i went to the Gyno i was SHOCKED that i had Trich. i was so baffled by this. I just want to know if its possible that he got this without sexual contact since i contracted something in the past without having sexual contact. my Gyno said she's seen women get trich who hadn't been sexually active for 10-20 years. I do know my ex from 6 years ago cheated on me & before I knew he did I had trick symptoms but they had went away so I didn't get tested at the time since I was unaware of his infidelity but after we split I had a full std panel and everything was negative. My ex also said that the toilet where he lives is small & that the front of his penis touches the seat when he sits down. is it possibl he contracted it this way from his roommate?? Also, this may be stretching it far out but the place he is staying at now is infected with roaches his roommates were telling me that they crawl on them at night. is it possible that any of those 3 scenarios can be the culprit? 1) an old uncured infection that popped up again 2) from the toilet seat or 3) from a roach?? Please help as I am thoroughly confused!! Thanks!!

[Vance2335]

Let me take this from the begining since it has been moved to STD forum.

Men typically take 2-5 days for symptoms, women can take 5 days for symptoms. I would tend to bet that this was a recent infection of him. Gonorrhea is only transmitted from sex.

[CFPA]

I guess my last question is since I was asymptomatic would it still have shown up on a test if i had one before showing symptoms? Just trying to figure out how all o this works. I know my cheating ex boyfriend from before was the culprit there so you never can be too sure.
Thanks!

[Paxiled]

Trich is usually asymptomatic, meaning you had it all that time but didn't know it.  This is common.  LIkewise with many stds.  There's no completely safe way to avoid them other than completely abstaining for an entire lifetime.  But using a condom is the best protection we have at this point if you do engage in sex.  In essence, all sex is risky behavior, but so is everything else in life.

[CFPA]

I guess I should have said it differently-I have read mixed things regarding std's but many credible sites have said you can have them without having symptoms OR you can get the symptoms and they can disappear but you can still carry the infection even after the symptoms disappear. I personally know two people that got PID and never knew they had an std. I've done a lot of reading and asked my Dr.'s questions but everyone tells you something different. I mean, how does one explain me getting Trich when I hadn't even touched or talked to a guy in 2.5 years?? I was completely single not dating because I was happy that way at the time. My focus was on hanging out with friends and having fun not being tied down with men. And, what I don't get is that my OBGYN told me that she had patients who hasn't had sex in 10-20 years & got it but most research suggests that it's not possible unless I had it for 2.5 years and was asymptomatic the entire time. I do not typically engage in risky behavior or oral sex or anything. My friends call me a "prude" and "the Virgin Mary" because I'm th only one who has never slept around. I don't like those names but hey it's better than being called a lot of things! i'm shy when it comes to men and sex and also don't like the idea of having a lot of partners. My ex and I were only apart for 5 weeks and so I took a risk I wouldn't have normally taken. yes, it was a mistake but it's not like I go around engaging in risky behavior on a regular basis like many many people I know....

[Paxiled]

I think you need sexual counseling if you're going to continue to be sexually active.  STDs don't go away unless treated successfully.  If his was never treated, he still has it.  Most likely he had sex with someone else, though, or else this person is just plain too dumb to want to be with.  You can't get this without having sex.  Just get it treated, never see this person again for any reason since he's either dumb as dirt or deceitful, and use a condom next time.