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[iori]

i was with this girls and we were going to have sex but neither one of us had a condom. so instead of having sex we did forplay. she performed oral sex on me BUT she used my tshirt as sort of a make shift barrier (pulled down to cover my shirt over my penis) and performed oral sex. she also did the same thing using her vagina. she rubbed up and down my penis again with my shirt pulled covering it. i am planning on testing at 6 weeks and again at 12 weeks. is this incident really something to worry about?

[chicolitos]

hello, i just wanted to know how big the risk is of getting gonorhea or chlamidia from receiving oral sex from a guy. Also how big the risk is of getting oral gonorhea or chlamidia from having a guys penis in my mouth for less than a minute, like 10 seconds. Thank you

[auntiejessi]

I'd say that's the drugs.  Syphilis takes YEARS to cause dementia, and if he has a chancre, that means its a new infection.

However, drug use can cause call kinds of things, including forgetfulness, etc.

Aj

[iori]

cool thanks. ya it ***** that dude has that stuff. he laughs and jokes about it all the time. its funny cuz he thinks that he is already starting to develop dementia. he says hes forgetting stuff already.

[auntiejessi]

The only pics I've seen of that are from lab acquired syphilis.

In all my years of doing this, I've never seen a chancre on the hands.

Aj

[iori]

why is that? thats strange.
i mean i have seen pics of people with a chancre on the finger.

[auntiejessi]

No, it shouldn't.  Chancres appear in the mouth or on the anogenital area.

Aj

[iori]

well good to know though.
oh while im chatting. i started working at drug rehab facility in los angeles. one of the patients has syphilis and is about to begin treatment for it. he told me he found a chancre on his genitals while he was bathing himself. i was wondering, since the syphilis is spread from skin contact, and if he touches the chancre with his finger, will his finger develop a chancre? just curious. no im not scared of contracting it just to let you know though. lol.

[auntiejessi]

Oh I figured you didn't, but had to address it anyway.

Aj

[iori]

oh sorry bout that. didn't mean any offense by it though.

[auntiejessi]

OK that was kind of rude, and remember that we have a bunch of women who post here that have bv.  

Just saying.

Aj

[iori]

haha ya of course,  after a long drive to my pad, i jumped in the shower. ewwww. its a good thing i did not go down on her at that party. i was really about to consider doing that but the only fish i like is salmon.

[auntiejessi]

No, it would die quickly.  I'm assuming you plan on washing them before wearing them again, so you'll be fine.

Aj

[iori]

can bv live on my boxer shorts cuz thats were all that smelly stuff was.

[auntiejessi]

Vance, Emma, Grace, Dallas and others help out, too.  :)

Just remember that less than 1% of the US population has HIV, so the chances of you being with someone who does is unlikely, and use those condoms.  

Aj

[iori]

oh cool thanks. i thought the bacteria might do some damage but good to know. i apologize to you for being so paranoid and stuff. but thanks to the info you gave me in the past, i don't really fear gono, chlamydia, or syphillis. just the hiv. but i say thanks alot for your help. must be hard being the only one on the board who has to answer everyones questions.

[auntiejessi]

No, BV doesn't affect men.

I don't see any reason for concern here.  :)

Aj

[iori]

my cut was on my finger cuz i have always had a bad habit biting. it was not scabbed over and it was her juice that got on it. thats how i knew about the smell cuz i smelt my finger.
no i don't get anxiety all the time. usually i know what acts i perform are risky. sumtimes i do, like when im not really paying attention to whats going on when im doing it. then im like oh **** what just happened. this instance, my mind was drifting away for some reason. could be caused by my inability to focus.
you mentioned that the odor could be due to her period. i tried to call her but she don't answer. the blood i found and vaginal fluids were on my boxers and i know that the air would kill the virus if she had it, so i guess im not too concerned about that.
is that bacterial vaginosis something that can affect me even though im a dude.

[auntiejessi]

Was your cut scabbed over?  If it wasn't an open cut, you are fine.  Even if it was open, she'd have to have HIV, and most people don't.  Really - I see no cause for worry here.

If you still talk to her, why don't you just ask her about this?

And we can continue this topic in this thread, but if you get a concern again, lets start a new thread, as this is really long.

I also wonder if you have anxiety like this every time you have sex.  If you do, then maybe you need to stop having casual sex, and you and your partners could test before having sex.

Aj

[iori]

my boxers were kind of tinted oranange on the part that made contact and i did see a very tiny speckly of blood somewhere but i figured that could have been from maybe shaving or something. ah great now im even more worried.

[iori]

i don't know. i hope not. but my finger rubbed on her vag and i have a cut so i hope she isn't. i hope that she isn't.

[auntiejessi]

Was she on her period?

Sometimes fishy can be from that, or from bacterial vaginosis.

Aj

[iori]

is it normal for a womans vaginal juices to smell kind of salty or fishy?
i had sex with a girl today and i smelt my boxers cuz i kept them on, and the area of it that made contact with her smells like that. it also tinted my boxeres a lightish orange a bit. i also saw very little blood marks on my boxers and when i saw those i started freaking out. im just glad i kept them on though. i wore a condom. i think it stayed on the whole time. it may have almost slipped off cuz i was losing my wood but she rolled it back down.

[auntiejessi]

Not really.  At some point you just have to accept that there is a risk involved with sex, or just not have sex, ya know?

Aj

[iori]

thanks. ya and i got that.

i never asked this question but how can i avoid skin to skin contact while having sex other than using a condom? are there sum positions that wont put other parts of my groing area in contact with a womens vag other than my **** which will protected.