Thank you ever so much for your appreciated reply
The sort of rash you describe is not suggestive of HIV. The rash of HIV is a generalized rash and is accompanied by other symptoms. Please relax. EWH
Dear Doctor,
Thanks again for your reply. I have one last question please while I wait to get the chance to get tested. The acne I mentioned to you in my earlier email seem to have subsided with the antibiotics but now I am getting on and off skin redness with grainy skin behind my ear which is again making me panic and on the internet it mentions that this could be HIV related or what they call HIV rash....please let me know your thoughts on this, I am really stressed out from this. Please help.
Many thanks.
Glad I help. Oter than my assessment, the only additonal thing you ca do is to get the testing I suggested. I am confident however that your risk for infection form the events you describe approaches zero. EWH
Dear Doctor, thank you very much for your kind reply which has eased my mind a lot. I am an expat in a country that has strict regulations when it comes to HIV testing and I am very hesitant on taking one or actually scared to death of what implications it might cause (deportation if I was positive). My biggest worry is why these light rashes and allergy came to me all of a sudden and I am not at liberty of telling the dermatologist my fears or if these skin problems were in any way related to this sexual encounter. The dermatologist didn't ask me anything about sexual exposures and just looked at my case as a general skin issue. To me you are the only person I have spoken about this in confidence. I hope you can give me some reassurances or guidance that I can live with until I am able to to travel to Europe and do the test. I am married and been avoiding sex with my wife in fear of being infected...I am sorry if I am going in circles even after your encouraging reply but your guidance is the only thing I have for now.
I thank you ever so much and appreciate your help tremendously.
Welcome to the Forum. I will be pleased to comment. I think you are over reacting. There is no meaningful risk for HIV from the exposures that you describe. It is statistically unlikely that your partner had HIV and even if she did, there are no cases of HIV that have ever been proven to be acquired as the result of receiving oral sex. Similarly condom protected sex is safe sex as long as the condom does not break and is worn throughout intercourse. The dermatologist was not troubled by your rash.
My advice at this time is for you to go and get an HIV test, not because there is any risk that you are infected but in order to prove to yourself that you did not get HIV. At this time, the results of your tests will be definitive. EWH