Welcome to the STD forum.
You can relax. This doesn't sound at all like genital herpes. Almost certainly you just have folliculitis, i.e. minor inflammation/infection of the hair follicles. Anyway, the chance someone with a single lifetime sex partner would catch genital herpes is very low.
1) That you and your partner were related makes no difference.
2-4) Herpes doesn't occur around hairs; popping or not makes no difference; and any kind of skin sore will form a scab, not just herpes.
You should see a health care provider, who will not even suspect any STD. You might benefit from an antibiotic cream or pills, so please see a professional. For free, confidential care, you probably can find a teen clinic or health department clinic in your area.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Thank you doctor.
One more thing. What you have informed me with makes a lot of sense now. I just don't understand why I continue to have them monthly. Sometimes they appear as one and other times more than one in different areas. If I pop one, and it starts to heal, sometimes another will start to form somewhere else. Why does that happen even with good hygiene. Also can I show this to a dermatologist? Would that be a good idea. Thank you doctor.
Definitely show it to a health care provider to know for sure what you have. Poor hygiene is not the cause of folliculitis and similar problems.