Hello Doctor. I need to thank you and this entire community for the service that is provided!
I am a 28 year old male. I'm sure that I have HSV1 orally since I used to get cold sores, but haven’t in 10+years. I would think that due to a limited sexual history and no symptoms that I do not have HSV2 genital. (I do plan on getting tested soon to make sure because I know there is a chance.)
I am currently in a relationship with a woman who has been diagnosed with HSV2 two years ago. I love her and accept her for who she is. We have been dating for a year and I will hopefully marry her. My question is what are the odds of her giving me HSV2 from unprotected sex? I have read this answer many times on here, but get confused that it would be 4% because the study that is always referenced says that the participants were told to always use condoms, but many did not at times. In my thinking, that would mean this rate of transmission would be higher because of some condom use?
She takes daily Valtrex and we have used condoms, but during special occasions I would like to go unprotected. If/hopefully we get married, I will 100% accept the risk of acquiring HSV-2 to have unprotected sex and a healthy and rewarding physical and emotional lifestyle. I am whiling to accept some risk now, I would surely take my chances with this girl unprotected if the risk truly is <5% annually. My family Dr. who I am very close to tells me to be sure I wear a condom every time and never go unprotected.
Any details of the data for unprotected sex would be appreciated and any other medical/personal advice to help me handle this situation is appreciated. Thank you!