Glad to have helped. Thanks for the thanks.
Thanks very much for the prompt reply. Very useful and helpful information as always, especially regarding HPV. If anything changes in the next couple of days I will be sure to let you know.
Again thank you for the advice and for the continued work you do on this site.
Welcome back to the forum. I'll try to help.
As discussed in two threads a couple of years ago, the risk of HSV transmission during any single episode of unprotected sex is low, even if your partner had genital herpes.
As for HPV, that your partner 10 days ago had a diagnosed HPV infection makes no difference at all in your risk of catching HPV. For every women who knows and tells about HPV, there are at least 10 who are equally likely to have the virus. I would advise that partner to stop telling her sex partners about her HPV infection. It is only likely to produce anxiety, as it has with you, without actually providing any useful information or protecting them from having HPV themselves someday.
To your specific questions:
1,4) The symptoms described are not typical for herpes, and you have an obvious alternate explanation, i.e. the somewhat traumatic hand-genital contact from your more recent partner. And as you suggest yourself, the onset of your symptoms was on the late side for herpes.
2) Although there are no data to prove it, logic dictates that STD risks are lower with brief exposure than with more prolonged intercourse, perhaps especially for the infections transmitted by skin-skin contact, like HPV and HSV.
3) Correct on both counts. You can be sure you have been infected with HPV by now, probably more than once; and there is no point and no need to be concerned about HPV on account of the exposure described. If you remain concerned, however, and if you're no older than 26 years, you could be vaccinated to prevent infection with the more common HPV types likely to cause significant health problems.
I hope this has helped. Best wishes-- HHH, MD