Welcome to the Forum. Your doctor did not do you any favors by starting you on valacyclovir without taking a culture or PCR test- this just confuses things.
You need to have the lesions in your groin and on your face evaluated by a trained clinician who is willing and able to make a diagnosis, not just through some medication at it. It would be most unusual for the lesions on your face and groin to both be HSV- the infection very, very rarely presents at two locations at one, the separation of the sequence of events would not be characteristic of HSV, and the lesions you describe do not sound typical of HSV. Finally for you to develop HSV while taking valacyclovir would be most unusual. All of this makes HSV quite unlikely and warrants efforts to prove that the virus is present using culture or, preferably, PCR before you assume that any of this is HSV.
I am concerned that some of the symptoms you are describing may be a manifestation of anxiety/guilt over the exposure you have described as well.
My strong and sincere advice is to see a dermatologist or STD specialist who can help you sort this out. EWH
This is not suggestive of herpes. I recommended a dermatologist to you earlier. That is still my recommendation. EWH
Now 3 weeks since encounter with CSW and this has taken a BAD turn. Met with urologist 7 days ago and he said the small bumps were contact dermatitis and prescribed a anti-fungal / corticosteroid cream for my face and my groin area. Been using that but things are going from bad to worse. I have quite obvious spots / lesions (warts) on my chin / face, what feel like mouth ulcers, stinging / nerve pain and small white bumps in my pelvic / groin area right above my penis and have some sensitivity (feels like icy pain) down my left leg. I thought the warts could not be in both places?
I am thinking that I need to see a dermatologist? The urologist said he could not be sure of what he saw on my face last time he saw me (wasn't so pronounced then).
I feel like I am doomed. There is no way I am going to be able to get myself out of this without admitting what I have done. I am going to lose everything due to an impulsive, selfish, indulgent mistake.
Thanks for the follow up. EWH
Thanks for the re-assurance. That helped calm my nerves. Had appt today with Urologist who did urine analysis and full exam. Said none of the symptoms / lesions looked like any case of HSV he had ever seen. Thought the white bumps were contact dermatitis / mild fungal infection and prescribed cream.