Personal testimony about individual cases is the worst possible basis for medical decision making. estrellab's experience really isn't relevant, and his or her situation--recurrent unexplained symptoms, apparently for many years--is very different than yours. There is nothing in your story suspicious for herpes - as I said above, if you were to have a positive blood test for HSV, it would mean you have an asymptomatic HSV infection plus something else.
I don't mean to sound neg but it does sound like herpes to me. I was thinking I had it for yrs and told no way, looks fine, culture, even though all there was to culture was a skin tear, and was neg. Finally got a herpes select and yes, my suspicion was correct, hsv 2 pos. Trust your gut. I am going to take another test because I really don't want to believe it. Trust me.
Thank you so much, that helps. Really the only symptoms I might have is the burning in my groin area. It seems to be spreading a little bit, but that might be because I've been showering 4 or 5 times a day and its just getting irritated from washing the area so often. Thanks again for all your help. It helps a lot to know that anxiety might be playing a major factor in all of this.
Of course nobody can say you didn't catch herpes from any single sexual encounter. However, your symptoms are not those of herpes. If you caught it, you have an asymptomatic HSV infection plus something else--most likely anxiety, nothing more. For even more security, ask your partner if she has genital herpes and if she had any genital sores at the time of your adventures with her. If not, your risks are even lower. And yes, public lice shampoos can be irritating, but using the same towel probably wouldn't make any difference.
In other words, your doctor was exactly right. Be on the lookout for genital blisters or sores, but if you don't get them, forget herpes.
Good luck-- HHH, MD