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Right side groin cramping and wife too
On the verge of confessing and losing my 15 year marriage. This is my second sex partner my whole life.Heres my story.
4 months ago I had protected sex with CSW. She then removed the condom and gave me handjob with lube.
next day mild burning in urethra and lasted for 2 months on off then stopped.timeline
- 3 day post exposure went std testing UA\dipstick no micro. HIV herpes sphlis hep and Chly\Gon amplification test. Negative
- 2 week had sex with wife since tests were neg.
- 3rd week burning started again. went and got a CBC and another UA non micro. all negative.
- stopped having sex with wife for the next 2 months. My uroligist put me on 1 dose Azithro and 7 days doxy. After this treatment burning still continued.
- went to Infectious disease specialist and he ran a full std screen with micro. negative chly-hep-sphl-trich. after this I went ahead and had sex with my wife 1 time.
I waited a week and did another UA non micro and Chly\Gon amplification test. these were negative.
4 months ago I had protected sex with CSW. She then removed the condom and gave me handjob with lube.
next day mild burning in urethra and lasted for 2 months on off then stopped.timeline
- 3 day post exposure went std testing UA\dipstick no micro. HIV herpes sphlis hep and Chly\Gon amplification test. Negative
- 2 week had sex with wife since tests were neg.
- 3rd week burning started again. went and got a CBC and another UA non micro. all negative.
- stopped having sex with wife for the next 2 months. My uroligist put me on 1 dose Azithro and 7 days doxy. After this treatment burning still continued.
- went to Infectious disease specialist and he ran a full std screen with micro. negative chly-hep-sphl-trich. after this I went ahead and had sex with my wife 1 time.
I waited a week and did another UA non micro and Chly\Gon amplification test. these were negative.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
"Any idea for common causes" of wife's and your pain? Nope. Just coincidence.
STIs do not asscend up to the bladder, kidneys, etc.
Since you have had antibiotics that would have cured any undetected STD, it is too late to do a culture.
Please move on with no further thought to any medical consequences of your sexual indiscretion. The only issue with respect to that encounter is the emotional one.
That's all for this thread.
STIs do not asscend up to the bladder, kidneys, etc.
Since you have had antibiotics that would have cured any undetected STD, it is too late to do a culture.
Please move on with no further thought to any medical consequences of your sexual indiscretion. The only issue with respect to that encounter is the emotional one.
That's all for this thread.
Sorry I forgot to add my 3rd last question from above:
- There was never a culture taken to see what bacteria was there if any. What are your brief thoughts on a culture in my case?
- There was never a culture taken to see what bacteria was there if any. What are your brief thoughts on a culture in my case?
THANK you Dr. Handsfield. Actually the urethra burning stopped a month ago but this constant aching is in my right groin is getting stronger and I have swelling. Its a little above my inguinal area and feels deep inside that area not like surface feeling. No swollen nodes can be felt said the doctor. The swelling disturbs me. My UA was negative for WBC yesterday but i felt that swelling means infection thus WBC's. I am going to the doctor again tomorrow for a further look.
- Any idea what the common cause's for swelling and pain is in this area?
- last stupid question - since its been 4 months is it possible the sti moved from my urethra up to my bladder or other pipes higher and is now causing the swelling.
- Any idea what the common cause's for swelling and pain is in this area?
- last stupid question - since its been 4 months is it possible the sti moved from my urethra up to my bladder or other pipes higher and is now causing the swelling.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
First, do not "confess" to your wife because of any STD concerns. You might eventually do that for reasons related to your relationship with her and your fears and anxieties about your infidelity. But you could not have caught an STD from the exposure you describe, and neither you nor your wife has symptoms that suggest you have an STD or any other infection from your sexual indiscretion.
Your extramarital sex was condom-protected and hand-genital contact cannot transmit an STD. Aching pain in the groin is not an STD symptom; your wife's pain nothing at all to do with the sexual exposure. Mild urethral burning, without discharge, and that persists despite antibiotics, cannot be due to an STD. And your test results prove you weren't infected. No physician would confuse a hernia with an STD as cause of symptoms like your wife's. She has a hernia, that's all. As for your urinary discomfort, the best bet is that your anxieties over the infidelity are making normal sensations during urination seem more prominent than they did before.
To the specific questions:
1) "What am I missing here?" Nothing.
2) PID causes pain inside the abdomen, not in the groin. It is not possible to misdiagnose PID as a hernia. And as I said above, it is not possible you caught an STD that could cause PID.
3) You did not need the tests you already had and did not need the antibiotics. But if you had something, the tests would have found it; and the doxycycline and azithromycin would have cured any possible infection that could explain any of this.
Please try to move on. You can be 100% certain you did not catch anything, did not infect your wife, and that she has a hernia and nothing more.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Your extramarital sex was condom-protected and hand-genital contact cannot transmit an STD. Aching pain in the groin is not an STD symptom; your wife's pain nothing at all to do with the sexual exposure. Mild urethral burning, without discharge, and that persists despite antibiotics, cannot be due to an STD. And your test results prove you weren't infected. No physician would confuse a hernia with an STD as cause of symptoms like your wife's. She has a hernia, that's all. As for your urinary discomfort, the best bet is that your anxieties over the infidelity are making normal sensations during urination seem more prominent than they did before.
To the specific questions:
1) "What am I missing here?" Nothing.
2) PID causes pain inside the abdomen, not in the groin. It is not possible to misdiagnose PID as a hernia. And as I said above, it is not possible you caught an STD that could cause PID.
3) You did not need the tests you already had and did not need the antibiotics. But if you had something, the tests would have found it; and the doxycycline and azithromycin would have cured any possible infection that could explain any of this.
Please try to move on. You can be 100% certain you did not catch anything, did not infect your wife, and that she has a hernia and nothing more.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
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HHH, MD
HHH, MD
**My wife will be having surgery this monday for a hernia. her aching pain in right groin started and then on both sides.
she seen her Gyn, said it was a hernia and did her yearly pap smear. about 2 weeks ago I had this very mild like ache
feeling in my right groin area. I did not feel this was the same as her cause she was in much discomfort.well now this
week I have the same symptoms only on my right side for now AND I have slight swelling. went again to doc and did a KUB xray and UA all neg.
Question 1:
What am I missing here? We both are having the same type feeling and I dont want her to have surgery if an std is causing the pain.
Question 2:
Is it possible she has developed PID? I know men dont get PID but her ache is in the same exact spot mine is.
Question 3:
Im so tired of testing but is there a test I am missing. They just did Chly and Gon is their other std bacteria that they arent checking for?
she seen her Gyn, said it was a hernia and did her yearly pap smear. about 2 weeks ago I had this very mild like ache
feeling in my right groin area. I did not feel this was the same as her cause she was in much discomfort.well now this
week I have the same symptoms only on my right side for now AND I have slight swelling. went again to doc and did a KUB xray and UA all neg.
Question 1:
What am I missing here? We both are having the same type feeling and I dont want her to have surgery if an std is causing the pain.
Question 2:
Is it possible she has developed PID? I know men dont get PID but her ache is in the same exact spot mine is.
Question 3:
Im so tired of testing but is there a test I am missing. They just did Chly and Gon is their other std bacteria that they arent checking for?
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