Penis Sensitivity? Herpes?

[just30]

Two days ago I went to a strip club and got a few lap dances. One girl massage my penis vigorously through my pants. It hurt a little. I also went to the VIP where I engaged in iunprotected oral sex. I gave her oral sex, only licking her clitoris. She gave me oral sex putting me in her mouth one a couple of occassions for about 30 sec-1 min. She also used her saliva to give me a hand job. The handjob at times also felt a little overly sensitive on the head of my penis. Of course I should have asked earlier, but after the fact I asked her if she was clean, she assured me that she was and that she got herself tested regularly. I don't know if I can take her at her word or not, but I didn't notice any bumps or sores on her mouth or vagina. Both seemed clean. As I read about herpes, however it seems that people cna often have the virus and not know it. Later that night and in the last 48 hours my penis has felt very very sensitive and a little tender, whether I touch it or not. It seems worse when I get worried and focus on it. I do not have any bumps or redness or any kind of rash thus far. Nor does it burn when I urinate. I do not have any pain on my anus or scrotum, just the tenderness of my penis. Could it be that my penis is just sore from the rough rubbing during the dances or is it more likely that I have an std/sti? What are my risks? The tenderness seems to lend itself to herpes since it seems to be a symtom before a break out. If it is just tender from rubbing how long can I expect it to last? Also, I put hand sanitizer on my penis upon arriving home from the club, would that cause irritation?


If you don't mind, I also had some questions about herpes in general:

1) Can you get herpes and never see an outbreak for years, or is there usually always an outbreak first and then the virus can lay dormant for years?


2) Is it possible that with no outbreaks an infected person may never pass on the disease to the other person if they use condoms?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

You are repeating yourself. this will not change my opinion and I will not repeat my answers.  I would suggest you go see a health care provider who can examine you.  this does not suggest an STD.  EWH

[silver_lining]

if you do in fact have the herpes virus, imagine how you would feel if people referred to you as not being clean.  if we shower, we are clean.  please rethink your wording in the future.

[just30]

My penis is still very sensitive and tender around the head. Even when I'm not touching it. It seems worse when I'm really nervous about it. Is such tenderness and light pain a sign of a herpes outbreak?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Healing (and brusing, whether you can see it or not) can take several days to resolve.  That it is not progressing is a good sign.  EWH

[just30]

Is it normal then after such rubbing for my penis to remain sensitive for a few days after the rubbing and oral sex? It feels sensitive even when I'm not touching it such as while I'm here writing this question. I keep inspecting it throughout the day, however expecting to find sores, so I'm sure that doesn't help, if the tenderness is from friction.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

This would be a most uncharacteristic way for herpes to appear.  First of all, it takes several days to appear and would not have begun so soon after exposure.  Second, while you are sore, there are no lesions.  Third, you have an excellent alternate explanation- the rubbing from the lap dances following by masturbation provide a good explanation for what is going on.  This is almost certainly not herpes that you acquired fro the exposure you describe.  As for your questions:

1.  In the majority of people the first episode of herpes follows 3-10 days after exposure.  The symptoms may be milder than most people think but the outbreak is still there.  In a small proportion of people, herpes may be acquired and then not cause an outbreak until a variable time afterwards.  As with most things involving humans beings, as you might image, the presentations are quite variable.
2.  Condoms markedly reduce the probability of herpes transmission but, if the herpes involves areas that are not covered by the condom, the infection can still be transmitted.  Most herpes does occur in areas covered by properly applied condoms.

Hope this helps.  EWH