Your groin problem sounds like a bacterial infection, such as folliculitis, more than herpes or any other STD. And tongue coating is very nonspecific, can vary with diet, with garden-variety viral infections (e.g., common cold), and usually is normal.
None of this sounds at all like HIV. And even if the partner you are concerned about has HIV, your risk is very low. The average risk of HIV transmission is well under 1 chance in 100, usually less than 1 in 1000, per episode of unprotected sex.
Go to a doctor or clinic to get the bumps checked out; you might need a prescription antibiotic.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
IT is me again. I wanted to add that I never had unprotected intercourse with this woman, only a breif oral session, if that matters. I did not give, only received. Is the risk any different?
Ha, It seems as if I keep forgeting some information. My doc had put me on Paxil for the anxiety, is this a symptom?
I am also taking Paxil CR, if that matters.
The symptoms aren't due to Paxil or any other medicine you might have taken. It almost certainly is not an STD, so your sexual exposure--whether oral or genital--isn't relevant.
Go see your health care provider.
HHH, MD