Welcome to the STD forum. These are very reasonable questions. Congratulations, by the way, for taking care to proect yourself from STDs during your commercial sex exposures.
I agree with your own analysis of your symptoms. The brief time from exposure to onset indeed argues against herpes. So does the nature of the discomfort. Prodrome only precedes recurrent herpes, not initial outbreaks. Prodrome results from reactivation of virus in a nerve root -- but it takes a several days for infection to be established in the nervous system. The initial symptoms are purely cutaneous, although certain neurological complications can show up a few days into a severe initial HSV infection -- but not at the outset. So if the pain had been herpetic, it would be only because the infection was taking hold in the skin -- in which case you would have developed lesions, would not have resolved in a day or two, and healing would take a couple of weeks. You can dismiss herpes as a cause -- and any other STD as well. This sort of thing probably is some sort of chemical or allergic reaction, e.g. to lubricant, perfumes, douche product, etc.
Whether acyclovir taken before exposure would prevent HSV has never been studied. There are reasons to believe it would not be effective -- but it might. The explanation is a bit complicated. Acyclovir per se has no activity against HSV. An enzyme called thymedine kinase (TK) degrades acyclovir to a compound that kills the virus. But thymidine kinase is produced only by the virus itself, and only when it replicates after infecting susceptible cells. So until HSV enters a cell and infects it, acyclovir has no impact at all. Thus, the drug may not work as prevention. That said, one can also guess that as soon as HSV enters a cell and starts to replicate, it would immediately produce the TK that activates the drug and, in effect, commit suicide before establishing a permanent infection. And animal research (done many years ago) suggests that pre-loading test animals with anti-HSV drugs can prevent infection by experimental inoculation with HSV. The same mechanisms apply to the other available antiherpetic drugs, valacyclovir and famciclovir.
So it is impossible to say whether treatment before a sexual exposure would reduce the risk of infection. My guess is that it would have at least some benefit, but can't say more than that. These drugs are virtually without side effects, so there probably would be no harm in trying. If you were to give it a try, I would say that taking one dose an hour before sex and a second one a few hours later is all that would be necessary -- but this too is just a guess.
Bottom line: Given the care you are taking, I don't see any need for such treatment; your risk for genital herpes is very low.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Thank you very much Doctor. I really appreciate you taking the time to give a complete explanation. I do have a medical background myself, so was able to understand your explanation completely. It does seem very logical. I will try Acylovir as suggested by you and continue to take other precautions before and during each encounter.
Again thanks a lot for the info. It was very informative.