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Very confused
Dear Doctor, your site has been a comfort for me the last weeks, and I hope you can advice me in my very uncomfortable situation.
Over three months ago, I cheated on my long-term gf for the first and last time as I let a street hooker perform oral sex on me. For as long as she performed the bj, I wore a condom. Then I took it off and masturbated myself until I came (while she massaged the testicles).
Four days after the incident, I felt some discomfort in the penis and in the urethra. I went to a dermatologist/std specialist on the sixth day and got checked for chlamydia, gonorrea and other microbes. Nothing came up. However, some days later, the symptoms worsened, and I had severe pain between the anus and the testicles (very strange. However, had no discharge, no pain while urinating, but some pain after). I went to the ER, and a new doctor prescribed 200mg doxyline for one week.
The pain went away, but until this day, I have a strange sensation in that area. I got many other symptoms the following weeks (coated tongue, armpit tenderness, seborroic eczema, acnes, rashes, HSV 1 outbreaks on lips), so I took HIV tests at 3 and 8 weeks, just to calm my nerves. They were negative.
Having made the biggest mistake in my life, I decided to act responsibly, but without telling my gf what had happened. I took the tests to make sure she would not become infected. The doctors told me not to worry, and to resume sex with my gf. Which I did after the first HIV test was negative. I trusted the doctors' recommendations, and considered myself clean. However, after more than three months, I still have a yellow coated tongue, as well as a sensation in the groin area.
What's worse, just about a week after our first intercourse, my gf complained about a funny tickling feeling in the vagina and soreness while having sex. A few nights ago, she started complaining about lower abdominal pain, which she said was not regular stomach ache, but something else. She feels tired, and has had more headaches than she normally has.
The problem is that she thinks it is just something that will pass, while I suspect it being PID.
What should I do? I have been told by three doctors that I am clean, so in theory I should not have been able to pass anything onto her. Both me and her not feeling well suggests otherwise, and I do not want her to become infertile. I therefore want her to see a doctor, without being linked to her condition.
Is it possible to aqcquire PID from a normal bacteria that I could have had in my mouth, for instance?
How does the PID pain feel like? Is it constant, or does it come on and off?
If I do have an ongoing NGU, will it eventually cure itself? I am asking this because the doctors basically have closed my case, and I am not going back.
What do you make of my coated tongue? Is that an std-issue?
I don't know if you can help me, but I know you wish the best for your users at this forum. Please advice me!
Over three months ago, I cheated on my long-term gf for the first and last time as I let a street hooker perform oral sex on me. For as long as she performed the bj, I wore a condom. Then I took it off and masturbated myself until I came (while she massaged the testicles).
Four days after the incident, I felt some discomfort in the penis and in the urethra. I went to a dermatologist/std specialist on the sixth day and got checked for chlamydia, gonorrea and other microbes. Nothing came up. However, some days later, the symptoms worsened, and I had severe pain between the anus and the testicles (very strange. However, had no discharge, no pain while urinating, but some pain after). I went to the ER, and a new doctor prescribed 200mg doxyline for one week.
The pain went away, but until this day, I have a strange sensation in that area. I got many other symptoms the following weeks (coated tongue, armpit tenderness, seborroic eczema, acnes, rashes, HSV 1 outbreaks on lips), so I took HIV tests at 3 and 8 weeks, just to calm my nerves. They were negative.
Having made the biggest mistake in my life, I decided to act responsibly, but without telling my gf what had happened. I took the tests to make sure she would not become infected. The doctors told me not to worry, and to resume sex with my gf. Which I did after the first HIV test was negative. I trusted the doctors' recommendations, and considered myself clean. However, after more than three months, I still have a yellow coated tongue, as well as a sensation in the groin area.
What's worse, just about a week after our first intercourse, my gf complained about a funny tickling feeling in the vagina and soreness while having sex. A few nights ago, she started complaining about lower abdominal pain, which she said was not regular stomach ache, but something else. She feels tired, and has had more headaches than she normally has.
The problem is that she thinks it is just something that will pass, while I suspect it being PID.
What should I do? I have been told by three doctors that I am clean, so in theory I should not have been able to pass anything onto her. Both me and her not feeling well suggests otherwise, and I do not want her to become infertile. I therefore want her to see a doctor, without being linked to her condition.
Is it possible to aqcquire PID from a normal bacteria that I could have had in my mouth, for instance?
How does the PID pain feel like? Is it constant, or does it come on and off?
If I do have an ongoing NGU, will it eventually cure itself? I am asking this because the doctors basically have closed my case, and I am not going back.
What do you make of my coated tongue? Is that an std-issue?
I don't know if you can help me, but I know you wish the best for your users at this forum. Please advice me!
Thank you, Doc. I will follow your reassurances and pretend it never happened.
Ovulation is the time of the monthly cycle when the women releases an egg.
I have never heard of any bacteria that a condom would not protect from getting in the ureatha. There are some virus that are skin-to-skin that condoms are less effetcive for. Syphillis, Herpes and HPV. But these would show up as sores or warts, not pain the ureatha. Plus condoms are effetive against these, just not 100% becuase the can infect where the condom doesn't cover, such as the base of the penis. The condom is 100% effetive against things like HIV, Chlamydia and gonnorrea as long as it doesn't break of slip off.
I hade vague and strange feeling in my ureatha near the tip. Not really a burn, just sort of "irriation". It magically went away when I got my negative tests and occupied my mind with other things.
I have never heard of any bacteria that a condom would not protect from getting in the ureatha. There are some virus that are skin-to-skin that condoms are less effetcive for. Syphillis, Herpes and HPV. But these would show up as sores or warts, not pain the ureatha. Plus condoms are effetive against these, just not 100% becuase the can infect where the condom doesn't cover, such as the base of the penis. The condom is 100% effetive against things like HIV, Chlamydia and gonnorrea as long as it doesn't break of slip off.
I hade vague and strange feeling in my ureatha near the tip. Not really a burn, just sort of "irriation". It magically went away when I got my negative tests and occupied my mind with other things.
Thanks, Imdumb. I appreciate your comment. By the way, what is ovulation? (English is not my mother tongue)
A net doctor in my country - who like Dr. HHH is also sympathetic and not trying to scare people - claims that there are certain bacterias that condoms might not entirely protect against. These could potentially cause NGU.
My gf and I have been living together for many years, and she has never complained about pelvic pain before. I cannnot imagine that it is a coincidence that she gets these symptoms right after we resumed having sex...
What symptoms did you have imdumb?
A net doctor in my country - who like Dr. HHH is also sympathetic and not trying to scare people - claims that there are certain bacterias that condoms might not entirely protect against. These could potentially cause NGU.
My gf and I have been living together for many years, and she has never complained about pelvic pain before. I cannnot imagine that it is a coincidence that she gets these symptoms right after we resumed having sex...
What symptoms did you have imdumb?
Relax. There is no STD you can get from protected oral and maturbation. You negative tests and doctors visits prove that. Women get pains in their pelvic region for many reasons. Ovulation is one main reason for example. I had the same "symptoms" as you. Also tested nehative for everything. Guilt and axiety is the cause. You and you gf are fine when it comes to an STD (unledd you gf had had unprotected sex with someone else).
I did get two painless painless bumps in the groin area. They looked like pimples (had a little puss in the middle), but did not feel like pimples, as they were entirely painless. They could be follicles, and that's what I think they were, because I got them only a few weeks ago, ie. a long time after the incidence. I have chosen to overlook them :)
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I avoid he said/she said debates over things reportedly said by other online experts; there is too much opportunity of misinterpretation, quoting out of context, etc. Most likely you misunderstood, or the online doctor misunderstood the question. There are no bacteria or viruses that can pass through intact latex. (HIV is hundreds of time smaller than the smallest bacteria. If HIV cannot pass, no bacteria can.)
HHH, MD
HHH, MD
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You could not have acquired any STD from the exposure you describe. The symptoms you had could not have been related to that event, except for the possibility of anxiety over the exposure or perhaps urethral irritation due to spermicide in the condom.
There are too many causes of abdominal or pelvic pain for me to speculate about whether your GF might have PID. Some causes of such pain are very serious, and she should see her health care provider right away. Whatever she has, it cannot be related to your sexual misadventure. You need not mention it to her or her doctor.
Many things cause coated tongue. A garden variety cold is the most common.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
There are too many causes of abdominal or pelvic pain for me to speculate about whether your GF might have PID. Some causes of such pain are very serious, and she should see her health care provider right away. Whatever she has, it cannot be related to your sexual misadventure. You need not mention it to her or her doctor.
Many things cause coated tongue. A garden variety cold is the most common.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
