First, there is absolutely no difference between HSV-1 and HSV-2 in the appearance of lesions, amount of pain, overall severity, or anything else. There is zero basis for your provider's judgment that you have HSV-1 based on how the lesions look or feel. Second, oral herpes due to HSV-2 is rare; almost all cases are due to HSV-1. Therefore, if your only possible exposure was by oral sex, probably that is the cause. In other words, your doc probably is right, but for the wrong reason. S/He should have done a culture or PCR test from your lesions in order to confirm which virus type you have. If that wasn't done, you should have a blood test about 3 months to confirm that you have HSV-1 and not HSV-2.
To your questions:
1) There is almost no chance your partner's oral herpes is HSV-2.
2) You need to read up about herpes; some sources are suggested below. Everybody with genital herpes can have healthy babies. Properly managed, most people's sex lives need not be much changed by herpes, especially for those in committed relationships. You probably will not need to use condoms routinely, at least not with your currently infected partner; it may or may not be necessary for other partners in the future.
3) When genital herpes is caused by HSV-1, recurrent outbreaks usually are infrequent--indeed, you might not have any at all. See the thread posted earlier today, immediately before this one:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/288854.
4) Herpes will not affect your HPV, or vice versa.
5) Just like symptomatic recurrent outbreaks, asymptomatic shedding is much less frequent with genital HSV-1 than HSV-2.
6) "Not something to worry about" might be overstating it a bit. You won't know for sure how much a problem it will be for you until at least a few months go by. For HSV-2, asymptomatic shedding and the potential for sexual transmission are highest in the first 6-12 months after infection. It isn't known whether the same is true for HSV-1, but to be safe, it would be smart to inform partners and use condoms consistently for sex with any new partners for the next year or so. However, there is no problem with respect to your boyfriend, or anyone else who already is infected with HSV-1. People are immune or at least highly resistant to new infection with the same virus type, and couples do not "ping-pong" their herpes infections back and forth.
Good herpes information sites are the American Social Health Association (www.ashastd.org) and the Westover Heights Clinic of Portland, OR (www.westoverheights.com).
Best wishes-- HHH, MD