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Female Orgasm
I've recently started being sexually active with my boyfriend. We started with outercourse, before moving onto intercourse. I enjoy everything he does to me, and vice versa as well. However, I don't consistently climax. At first, he was a little disappointed, but since neither did he, I convinced him it was mutual. It has been several months now, and I can tell he is starting to be unsure of himself. I want to tell him how (as a lot of forum posts and answers I've been reading suggests to do), but I don't know myself. I've never been able to climax during self-stimulation. He's guided me along to show me what he likes, and I want to be able to do the same. Help please?
Well, women can have several, many different types of orgasms, thus, it would narrow it down if you explained what type you are trying to achieve.
Even so, i enjoy writing, thus i will touch base on some.
First things first, in order to experience any type of female orgasm, we need to explore our bodies. The only reason why women fear they can't orgasm, is because they haven't learned to yet. But we all can.
All women can learn to orgasm through penetration, but it has to be learned, as most just aren't that in tune with their own bodies... yet!
So firstly, i recommend that you ditch your boyfriend for awhile, and take lots of You time, get comfy, relaxed, maybe take a sip of wine to enfold your senses. Get in touch with your senses, maybe climb into a hot bath before, and then masturbate.
Go to a store that sells toys even, perhaps find a dildo that feels natural. Experiment with different kinds, they sell toys for every type of orgasm. Natural is good for learning to feel penetration.
Experiment with lube, because at first, it helps to awaken senses down there, and it feels a lot better.
What you want to do, is experiment with different angles through penetration. For example if you hold the dildo on a downwards angle, so it rubs against the lower bottom of your vagina, there are amazing feelings there. If you hold it upwards, it may feel uncomfortable jabbing into the urethra.
Experiment with as many different rhythms and patterns as you can.
Going gentle with surface penetration is usually good to start out with. You can orgasm through surface, and deep penetration, and they both feel highly different.
To get the feel of deep penetration, i suggest, putting it in gently, going as far down as possible, and then do gentle, but short thrusts.
By exploring as much as possible, you will find what puts you in the mood, and what physically does it for you, every woman is different. Only after you figure out what makes you orgasm, should your bring it to your boyfriend. He won't know how to please you until you know.
With sex, try exploring lots of positions and angles. Some women claim they can only orgasm if they are on top, because they have all the control.
If you want to stick to sex, make sure you touch base on every position there is, make him try different movements, different rhythms, different angles.
For me, i am so visual, that i mainly enjoy positions where i can see the penetration. But i have learned to orgasm by simply seeing something exiting with no stimulation whatsoever.
For most women though, they have to be really emotionally turned on in order to feel any intense climax.
Have you tried stimulating the clitoris, and g spot, while using penetration at the same time?
I think it's important to learn to orgasm through penetration, and not just clitoral, well because, you'd be missing out on the most intense orgasm there is. Sometimes at first, it helps to pair them up, but sometimes, it totally diminishes the feel of penetration.
All it takes is masturbating and exploring yourself. Fantasize for a bit. And then just focus on the physical feeling.
The g spot, kind of feels like you have to take a ****, for a high percentage of women, they don't like this orgasm, but it does lead to squirting. If you can't do it naturally, then it takes hard and rapid, really fast movements against the g spot in order to get it done. It is easier to learn with just your finger, because your finger can move a lot faster than anything else. When you feel the burning urge coming up, try not to push it away. It may feel like you have to pee, and if you haven't done it before, it may feel uncomfortable.
Clitoral is pretty much self explanatory, if you want it really intense, try a vibrator against the clit only. I like to use back massager vibrators, because they are really intense, and they don't run out of batteries because you can plug them in, and people just think it's a back massager so you can leave it laying around.
Deep penetration is one of my fave orgasms.
When it hits against your cervix, it can also be pleasurable, a different orgasm, but most women think it's just painful.
Even so, i enjoy writing, thus i will touch base on some.
First things first, in order to experience any type of female orgasm, we need to explore our bodies. The only reason why women fear they can't orgasm, is because they haven't learned to yet. But we all can.
All women can learn to orgasm through penetration, but it has to be learned, as most just aren't that in tune with their own bodies... yet!
So firstly, i recommend that you ditch your boyfriend for awhile, and take lots of You time, get comfy, relaxed, maybe take a sip of wine to enfold your senses. Get in touch with your senses, maybe climb into a hot bath before, and then masturbate.
Go to a store that sells toys even, perhaps find a dildo that feels natural. Experiment with different kinds, they sell toys for every type of orgasm. Natural is good for learning to feel penetration.
Experiment with lube, because at first, it helps to awaken senses down there, and it feels a lot better.
What you want to do, is experiment with different angles through penetration. For example if you hold the dildo on a downwards angle, so it rubs against the lower bottom of your vagina, there are amazing feelings there. If you hold it upwards, it may feel uncomfortable jabbing into the urethra.
Experiment with as many different rhythms and patterns as you can.
Going gentle with surface penetration is usually good to start out with. You can orgasm through surface, and deep penetration, and they both feel highly different.
To get the feel of deep penetration, i suggest, putting it in gently, going as far down as possible, and then do gentle, but short thrusts.
By exploring as much as possible, you will find what puts you in the mood, and what physically does it for you, every woman is different. Only after you figure out what makes you orgasm, should your bring it to your boyfriend. He won't know how to please you until you know.
With sex, try exploring lots of positions and angles. Some women claim they can only orgasm if they are on top, because they have all the control.
If you want to stick to sex, make sure you touch base on every position there is, make him try different movements, different rhythms, different angles.
For me, i am so visual, that i mainly enjoy positions where i can see the penetration. But i have learned to orgasm by simply seeing something exiting with no stimulation whatsoever.
For most women though, they have to be really emotionally turned on in order to feel any intense climax.
Have you tried stimulating the clitoris, and g spot, while using penetration at the same time?
I think it's important to learn to orgasm through penetration, and not just clitoral, well because, you'd be missing out on the most intense orgasm there is. Sometimes at first, it helps to pair them up, but sometimes, it totally diminishes the feel of penetration.
All it takes is masturbating and exploring yourself. Fantasize for a bit. And then just focus on the physical feeling.
The g spot, kind of feels like you have to take a ****, for a high percentage of women, they don't like this orgasm, but it does lead to squirting. If you can't do it naturally, then it takes hard and rapid, really fast movements against the g spot in order to get it done. It is easier to learn with just your finger, because your finger can move a lot faster than anything else. When you feel the burning urge coming up, try not to push it away. It may feel like you have to pee, and if you haven't done it before, it may feel uncomfortable.
Clitoral is pretty much self explanatory, if you want it really intense, try a vibrator against the clit only. I like to use back massager vibrators, because they are really intense, and they don't run out of batteries because you can plug them in, and people just think it's a back massager so you can leave it laying around.
Deep penetration is one of my fave orgasms.
When it hits against your cervix, it can also be pleasurable, a different orgasm, but most women think it's just painful.
Tell him what you like. Most men would gladly do it. Communication is the key. Additionally, it is harder for some women to climax. As you stated, you recently started being sexually active. It may take a while. Have him do what you live first and then go for the intercourse. Thsi will help you get there. Also, be safe.
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