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I can’t help being in love with my uncle
I know that most of you are going to say how nasty and sick I am, how I need to get help, and I really understand. But I’m not writing this to get you acceptance, I just need to tell some one. I really am sorry if I offend you, but I cant help being in love with my uncle, and he’s in love with me too.
First I’m 24 the oldest of my moms 4 kids, I was never molested, never abused, never raped. Nothing like that. My uncle is the youngest of my grandparents kids, he’s 28 12 years younger then my mom.
Even though he is my uncle its only in a biological way, we had never met once in our lives. My family is spread all over the country. We ended up meeting last year, I just came home from Uni, and he was staying in the guest room for the summer, he had a bad accident and my mom wanted to help him with his physical therapy, that’s what she does.
After a week together, eating meals, going for walks, playing x-box. I was rather shocked to find I was rapidly falling in love with this man. Even knowing he was my uncle I didn’t think of him as such and still don’t. We are both so very much alike, I get on better with him then anyone else, he has told me the same thing several times.
Two months pass and I am going crazy because of my feelings for him, but I don’t want to freak him out or push him away, because we are best friends, and I never act on these feeling because I know they are wrong and I feel he can’t possibly share them. I have never been more wrong.
We where on one of our movie dates, and I noticed he kept looking at me, when I asked him why he was he just said I was beautiful. I blushed and thanked him, he blushed too, and we went back to the movie. Three days later we where walking along the trees that line our property, he had been acting strange since the movie, and it was nice to have some time so I could ask him what was wrong.
He said he was in love with me, and then he kissed me, not chaste either. After the kiss I started to sob, from relief, joy, fear, and a heavy dose of shame. But I kissed him back and told him I loved him as well.
It’s been a year now and he is almost completely through his therapy, we both decided that we are going to get a place together. Our family thinks it’s a great idea, of course they don’t know we are lovers. I know what we are doing is very taboo and morally wrong to many but I love this man, and I always will.
Again im sorry for offending you, but having written this down, I feel like I can breathe again. Thank you.
First I’m 24 the oldest of my moms 4 kids, I was never molested, never abused, never raped. Nothing like that. My uncle is the youngest of my grandparents kids, he’s 28 12 years younger then my mom.
Even though he is my uncle its only in a biological way, we had never met once in our lives. My family is spread all over the country. We ended up meeting last year, I just came home from Uni, and he was staying in the guest room for the summer, he had a bad accident and my mom wanted to help him with his physical therapy, that’s what she does.
After a week together, eating meals, going for walks, playing x-box. I was rather shocked to find I was rapidly falling in love with this man. Even knowing he was my uncle I didn’t think of him as such and still don’t. We are both so very much alike, I get on better with him then anyone else, he has told me the same thing several times.
Two months pass and I am going crazy because of my feelings for him, but I don’t want to freak him out or push him away, because we are best friends, and I never act on these feeling because I know they are wrong and I feel he can’t possibly share them. I have never been more wrong.
We where on one of our movie dates, and I noticed he kept looking at me, when I asked him why he was he just said I was beautiful. I blushed and thanked him, he blushed too, and we went back to the movie. Three days later we where walking along the trees that line our property, he had been acting strange since the movie, and it was nice to have some time so I could ask him what was wrong.
He said he was in love with me, and then he kissed me, not chaste either. After the kiss I started to sob, from relief, joy, fear, and a heavy dose of shame. But I kissed him back and told him I loved him as well.
It’s been a year now and he is almost completely through his therapy, we both decided that we are going to get a place together. Our family thinks it’s a great idea, of course they don’t know we are lovers. I know what we are doing is very taboo and morally wrong to many but I love this man, and I always will.
Again im sorry for offending you, but having written this down, I feel like I can breathe again. Thank you.
My only comment to stelladarling is: She should think twice about this for his and her future. Does this guy have strong personality or is he a weak person. Is he a character that can make a good judgement. If they are already involved sexually, I would say he can not make a good judgement as he should have waited until it is out in the open. Yes, they don't have much difference in age but still he should have known better - not to get involved with his niece. He is still the uncle. He shouldn't have gone into sexual relationship before knowing the reaction of family members about their love for each other. I'm not trying to make her feel differently towards him. However in future if he feels something for someone else is he going to go for it without too much consideration to stelladarling as his wife? In this case yes he may have fallen in love with her but at the same time he didn't put too much consideration to her as his niece or to her mom as his sister either. Maybe he has - only she would know the answer to that. She needs to sit back and analyze how it came to this point. If they get married and he makes another bad judgement ie gets involved with another girl/lady, that would destroy stelladarling. No matter what this is incest and she is giving up a lot to be with him and I'm sure he is too. It's better to take things slow, perhaps not move in together and not be involved sexually if you haven't already. People wait years before they get married, so please don't rush into anything, sooner or later you will see if he is a weak person. If you see him interested in someone else even one bit, get rid of him. He isn't for you or anyone else for that matter. Best wishes to you both and your families. Also, do you have a father? I wonder how he would feel about your uncle being involved with you?
Well it DOES matter what the law says. Sure love is blind (and ignorant in many cases), but would you really want to risk your freedom for it? I know of a case here where a man had a sexual relationship with his adult daughter. He got sent to prison for 10 years and she got 10 years probation. They both have to register as sex offenders for an additional 10 years after their parole/probation is over. Neither of them would say it was worth it now. I said before that I don't know the laws where the OP lives, but I believe that sex between an uncle & niece or aunt & nephew is illegal in every state.
I mean c'mon, people! I really doubt that her uncle is her soul mate. Stella, I would let this go. Get out and about- find some hobbies that will bring you into contact with interesting and nice men who are not related to you. I can't believe the idea of incest and inbreeding is romantic in some people's eyes. Now, if the world implodes and we find ourself starting over and needing to populate the land, by all means- keep it in the family if that's all you have.
I mean c'mon, people! I really doubt that her uncle is her soul mate. Stella, I would let this go. Get out and about- find some hobbies that will bring you into contact with interesting and nice men who are not related to you. I can't believe the idea of incest and inbreeding is romantic in some people's eyes. Now, if the world implodes and we find ourself starting over and needing to populate the land, by all means- keep it in the family if that's all you have.
If you love him, then it doesn't matter what anyone else says, as long as it is mutual. It might have been mentioned already (along with the whole "telling you're family" bit) but the only real problem that I would foresee is if you two ever decide that you want to have children. Not from any moral aspect, but from a biological one.
I hope everything goes well for you and that you are able to be happy.
I hope everything goes well for you and that you are able to be happy.
so you love him.... Blind love,,,,,
As you know what is wrong and right.. So there is no need to explain you. But i would put some light of other consiquences of life...
Consider yourself and you uncle in Big Beautiful world. You have what you want... But both of you are the only people in that world or city or jungle... No one else exist... except both of you.... But what happen when you need to share you feelings, your happiness you use to share with your Sister, Mother, Brother, Father... You would also loose your friends too... Remmber God created the world with everyting you need.. So you need everybody all your relatives, Friends, Parents.. You would get your love ..But you will always have a Flaw a Big Big Big Flaw in your life,,,,,,,
And announcing this to everyone would be even more worst
First thing you will not have same feeling because of sarrow.. you mind will always give you blink that you lost your familly... so you would be hurt..
Second Announcing this news to other. you are making a sin... Because Other People might think of doing this.. So you are kind of executing other people to do it....
Think about it... I would say away from this incest... You do need Every body in your life...
As you know what is wrong and right.. So there is no need to explain you. But i would put some light of other consiquences of life...
Consider yourself and you uncle in Big Beautiful world. You have what you want... But both of you are the only people in that world or city or jungle... No one else exist... except both of you.... But what happen when you need to share you feelings, your happiness you use to share with your Sister, Mother, Brother, Father... You would also loose your friends too... Remmber God created the world with everyting you need.. So you need everybody all your relatives, Friends, Parents.. You would get your love ..But you will always have a Flaw a Big Big Big Flaw in your life,,,,,,,
And announcing this to everyone would be even more worst
First thing you will not have same feeling because of sarrow.. you mind will always give you blink that you lost your familly... so you would be hurt..
Second Announcing this news to other. you are making a sin... Because Other People might think of doing this.. So you are kind of executing other people to do it....
Think about it... I would say away from this incest... You do need Every body in your life...
Research the sex laws in your state before you take this any further. In Texas, it's against the law to engage in sexual intercourse with someone who is "the parent's brother or sister of the whole or half blood," and vice versa, meaning it's illegal for you to have sex with him and illegal for him to have sex with you. I don't know what the law is where you live, but definitely look it up and make sure neither of you can get into trouble for this relationship.
Hello again, after reading the responses my sweetheart and I thought long and hard about weather we would be telling our family. We both decided that we will tell my mum and go from there. neither of us expect her to embrace this enthusiastically, but knowing my mum I know she will only want our happiness. So I have faith that once we explain every thing to her. once she can see how happy he makes me, and how happy I make him. I really think she may accept our relationship.
And again thank you for the people who understand my feelings, and for the others who want me to get over it. Well I am far to much in love with this man to just get over it, let alone feel this way for another.
And again thank you for the people who understand my feelings, and for the others who want me to get over it. Well I am far to much in love with this man to just get over it, let alone feel this way for another.
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