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I can’t help being in love with my uncle
I know that most of you are going to say how nasty and sick I am, how I need to get help, and I really understand. But I’m not writing this to get you acceptance, I just need to tell some one. I really am sorry if I offend you, but I cant help being in love with my uncle, and he’s in love with me too.
First I’m 24 the oldest of my moms 4 kids, I was never molested, never abused, never raped. Nothing like that. My uncle is the youngest of my grandparents kids, he’s 28 12 years younger then my mom.
Even though he is my uncle its only in a biological way, we had never met once in our lives. My family is spread all over the country. We ended up meeting last year, I just came home from Uni, and he was staying in the guest room for the summer, he had a bad accident and my mom wanted to help him with his physical therapy, that’s what she does.
After a week together, eating meals, going for walks, playing x-box. I was rather shocked to find I was rapidly falling in love with this man. Even knowing he was my uncle I didn’t think of him as such and still don’t. We are both so very much alike, I get on better with him then anyone else, he has told me the same thing several times.
Two months pass and I am going crazy because of my feelings for him, but I don’t want to freak him out or push him away, because we are best friends, and I never act on these feeling because I know they are wrong and I feel he can’t possibly share them. I have never been more wrong.
We where on one of our movie dates, and I noticed he kept looking at me, when I asked him why he was he just said I was beautiful. I blushed and thanked him, he blushed too, and we went back to the movie. Three days later we where walking along the trees that line our property, he had been acting strange since the movie, and it was nice to have some time so I could ask him what was wrong.
He said he was in love with me, and then he kissed me, not chaste either. After the kiss I started to sob, from relief, joy, fear, and a heavy dose of shame. But I kissed him back and told him I loved him as well.
It’s been a year now and he is almost completely through his therapy, we both decided that we are going to get a place together. Our family thinks it’s a great idea, of course they don’t know we are lovers. I know what we are doing is very taboo and morally wrong to many but I love this man, and I always will.
Again im sorry for offending you, but having written this down, I feel like I can breathe again. Thank you.
First I’m 24 the oldest of my moms 4 kids, I was never molested, never abused, never raped. Nothing like that. My uncle is the youngest of my grandparents kids, he’s 28 12 years younger then my mom.
Even though he is my uncle its only in a biological way, we had never met once in our lives. My family is spread all over the country. We ended up meeting last year, I just came home from Uni, and he was staying in the guest room for the summer, he had a bad accident and my mom wanted to help him with his physical therapy, that’s what she does.
After a week together, eating meals, going for walks, playing x-box. I was rather shocked to find I was rapidly falling in love with this man. Even knowing he was my uncle I didn’t think of him as such and still don’t. We are both so very much alike, I get on better with him then anyone else, he has told me the same thing several times.
Two months pass and I am going crazy because of my feelings for him, but I don’t want to freak him out or push him away, because we are best friends, and I never act on these feeling because I know they are wrong and I feel he can’t possibly share them. I have never been more wrong.
We where on one of our movie dates, and I noticed he kept looking at me, when I asked him why he was he just said I was beautiful. I blushed and thanked him, he blushed too, and we went back to the movie. Three days later we where walking along the trees that line our property, he had been acting strange since the movie, and it was nice to have some time so I could ask him what was wrong.
He said he was in love with me, and then he kissed me, not chaste either. After the kiss I started to sob, from relief, joy, fear, and a heavy dose of shame. But I kissed him back and told him I loved him as well.
It’s been a year now and he is almost completely through his therapy, we both decided that we are going to get a place together. Our family thinks it’s a great idea, of course they don’t know we are lovers. I know what we are doing is very taboo and morally wrong to many but I love this man, and I always will.
Again im sorry for offending you, but having written this down, I feel like I can breathe again. Thank you.
I am not so sure it's a good thing as well to go ahead and announce this to your family, and then expect to live happily ever after and pretend not to care what anyone thinks.
I don't really know what to advise you but I would not advise that you do tell the family about this at this time. What's the point? They will be horrified and that won't be good for anyone.
I mean, there is nothing wrong with your or his feelings. There are no wrong feelings, really. They just are. And if you end up having sex, or have already, it's not the end of the world either, and especially if this stays between the two of you.
But I think it is a mistake to just go from the feelings to moving in together and/or getting married and live like a couple. No matter how you put it, it is incest.
Again, I am not concerned about your going to hell, I am only concerned about your doing doing something very unwise. 50% of all relationships, or even more that start like this break up in something like hate, or divorce. So, this is very likely with you as well. but with you it wouldn't just dealing with the tragedy of losing a husband, but a family member as well, and even possibly your entire family.
If you go full course, all these special feelings between the two of you may be ruined and destroyed.
I think you should care about each other enough to know this is not the way to go. Not morally sinful but just not good for anyone, even your relationship.
And there will be, and there are other men out there.
You can accept your love for him and each other without having to run off together. It will become a scandal.
That is just my intuitive sense and opinion.
I don't really know what to advise you but I would not advise that you do tell the family about this at this time. What's the point? They will be horrified and that won't be good for anyone.
I mean, there is nothing wrong with your or his feelings. There are no wrong feelings, really. They just are. And if you end up having sex, or have already, it's not the end of the world either, and especially if this stays between the two of you.
But I think it is a mistake to just go from the feelings to moving in together and/or getting married and live like a couple. No matter how you put it, it is incest.
Again, I am not concerned about your going to hell, I am only concerned about your doing doing something very unwise. 50% of all relationships, or even more that start like this break up in something like hate, or divorce. So, this is very likely with you as well. but with you it wouldn't just dealing with the tragedy of losing a husband, but a family member as well, and even possibly your entire family.
If you go full course, all these special feelings between the two of you may be ruined and destroyed.
I think you should care about each other enough to know this is not the way to go. Not morally sinful but just not good for anyone, even your relationship.
And there will be, and there are other men out there.
You can accept your love for him and each other without having to run off together. It will become a scandal.
That is just my intuitive sense and opinion.
"If it feels right and you like it, who cares what people say." --i couldn't disagree with curleygirl more.
it's morally wrong. it's incest. and you are grown enough to get out in the big, wide world and meet another man as he is to meet another woman. anytime men and women come together, share lots of time, and are romantic towards one another they can feel feelings of 'love' blossoming. you can find this with someone else. snap out of it
it's morally wrong. it's incest. and you are grown enough to get out in the big, wide world and meet another man as he is to meet another woman. anytime men and women come together, share lots of time, and are romantic towards one another they can feel feelings of 'love' blossoming. you can find this with someone else. snap out of it
I must admit i am pleasantly surprised by both of your reactions, its wonderful to know people can be so open minded.
we are planing on telling our family, we have high hopes that with time they will come to understand, because I really don't think of him as my uncle and he certainly does not think of me as his niece. for one we are only 4 years apart, and because we lived on different side of the country we never met until his accident
we have thought about what might happen if we had children, the risk that they could be born with a mental disease is not something we with to knowingly put upon a child. so no kids for us well not at least from my body, their are other means. thank you again.
we are planing on telling our family, we have high hopes that with time they will come to understand, because I really don't think of him as my uncle and he certainly does not think of me as his niece. for one we are only 4 years apart, and because we lived on different side of the country we never met until his accident
we have thought about what might happen if we had children, the risk that they could be born with a mental disease is not something we with to knowingly put upon a child. so no kids for us well not at least from my body, their are other means. thank you again.
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