Masterbation Addiction

[Bobman6969]

I have to masterbate at least 3 times a day.......to prevent myself from randomly hooking up with guys.

Is this a problem? Or should I seek a therapist?

Thank you,

[NOHARD]

Hi Bob Just do yourself a favour and google pover masturbating, then compare my answer to what you reed, then go and compare whats known as rough sex and AIDS, ie guys who just go out and pick other guys for sex if you know what I mean.

[Anonymouse88]

If it's interfering with your life and you feel like you're addicted, then you should seek the help of a therapist.  Sex addiction is a real thing.  It seems to me like you're using the best stop-gap measure you could by masturbating enough to avoid emotionally and/or physically damaging hookups (physically as in risking disease), but it's not a good long term strategy.  

If you meet a guy you might want to date, try to avoid having sex with him for a little while.  You can explain your problems with urges, and say that you don't want him to just be a fling.  If he's worthwhile, he'll understand.  Exerting self control at the beginning might help you stay in a steady relationship.  And you might happen to have an extremely high sex drive.  There's nothing wrong with that per se, but there is if it feels out of control/like it's interfering with your life.  A happy balance might be being in a monogamous relationship and masturbating to make up for any time your partner's sex drive is lower than yours.

[Anonymouse88]

You should probably see a therapist about that one.  The tales about going blind or getting hairy palms from masturbating were invented to prevent behavior that 19th century people thought was immoral by scaring boys out of it.  People used to believe that ejaculating at all would decrease some of your life energy, and therefore celibacy was the key to living longer (this is BS).  You could give yourself physical problems from too much friction, though.  From a physiological standpoint, masturbation is the same as having sex.

In your case, this is problematic because you feel such a need to prevent a potentially dangerous behavior (hooking up with random guys).  Do you feel ashamed of your urges?  Do you want a relationship with one guy, or are you avoiding a relationship in favor of hookups?  That could be a signal that you don't have a healthy view of relationships, which a therapist should be able to help you with.  If you do have sex with other guys (I'm assuming you're male), make sure to use protection.  There's nothing inherently wrong with being gay.  There's only the way you approach sexual and romantic relationships, which doesn't depend on who you're having sex with.

[NOHARD]

Hi Bob, Over masturbating will give you big problems, starting with memeory lose, eye floaters, weight problems, hair and skin problems, its frighterning how such a simole act can harm a man, I cant see how this would stop you hooking up with guys, unless you just go with them for masturbating and nothing else.
Perhaps you just need your need for a theropist would be to calm you down, and find a way round your problem of hooking up with guys, if its your intention to find a partner, I think your going the wrong way, as a lot of others have found out could lead to AIDS.
Hope this helps
Good Luck