Orgasms, and oral sex

[ochko]

i dont seem to know about orgasms. when i have sex with my boyfriend, i dont feel pleasure, and it is making me confused if its me or him. or if i dont have feelings for him anymore. i never felt orgasms, and he is my first partner. we been going out for 2 years now. he loves oral sex, but then i dont. i feel like its gross. i just dont know what to do, it is making me soo confused. Please help

[missaudrina88]

Unfortunately you will never enjoy oral sex as long as you find it to be gross. Talk to your boyfriend about this. Your disgust is not helping your lack of orgasms.

Best of luck!

-A.

[mamabalas]

I agree with SquirreliciousAngel.  Find out what you like.  Use your hands, or tell him to use his.  

Completely dissagree with Deepak1234, every woman is different.  You can try watching or reading porn, but if you don't like it you are not the exception.  And many women don't like oral sex.  I have no idea where he got that statistic.  Don't feel like you have to let him do that.  If you don't like it and he continues to do it, it is only going to turn you off instead of turning you on.  And if you don't like to perform it on him, dont ever let him make you.

Relax, try new things.  Be open with him about what you want.  If he is a good man he will want you to be just as happy in the bedroom as he is.  I'm sure he's not going without orasms every time you have sex.  Don't fake it either.  He will never know how to pleasure you if you pretend to like something and you don't really like it.  Good luck

[SquirreliciousAngel]

Have you tried to reach orgasm during masterbation? Most women are unable to achieve orgasm just through intercourse as we typically require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. I would suggest trying to reach orgasm during masterbation and then this will help you to guide your partner to what will make you orgasm.



Best of Luck
~S.A.

[Deepak1234]

Get yourself involve in fore-play with your bf. Watch some pornographic material or read some EROTICA. Then you will get sexually aroused and let him do oral sex.
It is really the most pleasurable activity in sex and you will like it (more than 80% women in world achieve orgasm during good oral sex) if it is done properly with delicacy.You can see my previous post for good cunnilingus (oral sex ) techniques and you may contact further to me if you have some querry. Then you can go for intercourse and enjoy sex.