kegaling each other is a method which gives different sensation and enhances the sexual enjoyment. Google kegel or the web site suggested by NOHARD, When he kegels, the movement of his genital is vertical which will give you different sensation. when you kegel, his genital will be compressed differently by vaginal muscles.
Position yourself in such a way that your clitoris is rubbed by the dorsal part of his genital.
Hi Amethyst.....I suggest you relax your man before sexual fusion by giving him an all over body sensuous massage.Use a nice massage oil and find all those erogenous zones that will arouse him. Use this massage as foreplay to sex and pay particular attention to his genital area. Tease him gently and allow him to touch you . Wear just a flimsy dressing gown with nothing underneath and let him explore you as you continue the massage. You will soon know when he is aroused and ready to perform....we men have problems hiding these tel tale signs once arousal happens.Take your time Amethyst and make the art of a love making something special to be enjoyed like a three-course meal......spend a couple of hours of necessary.
All the best and good luck ....stuart
I also think communication is the key, you need to talk to him about what can you do to make him feel better. I'm sure he would welcome the discussion.
Its like all the sex questions you were affraid to ask, then the answers are there.
Enjoy
Good Luck