I need a drug to lower my sex drive!

[Fetishaddict2014]

Hi there,
I'm a fetish addict, self bondage is awesome, the way I see porn online with self bondage... gee. There's nothing quite like it. The trouble is, it's also seen as self-destructive and I look at fetishism as self harm. It's only a problem if it's a problem right? It totally destroys any relationship i've ever had with a woman and has the potential to ruin my whole life in the relationship sense of the meaning.
Background: Been through years of psychosexual therapy, months of hypnosis. Never been able to *** inside a woman - for me the reason is simply because I have accustomed myself too much to online porn notably fetishism and I have sex in my mind not my body. It's important to note, I don't feel any guilt watching "normal" porn but if watching fetish porn, I have lots of guilt. Also if I do watch normal porn, I genuinely feel excitement and really good about myself that I was able to control the fetish this time around. In truth though it's uncontrollable. I saw the GP earlier today and they refused to give me anti-depressents because the high risks attached (notably what they didn't even tell me what they were) and potential side effects outweigh a very small chance of change and it's just too risky to give me. I can orgasm in front of a woman just by myself lying down in front of her but the second she touches me it's almost like a turn off. It's so sad, i've been in tears before when i've trying to be with women. I'm in desperate need of help and even the local doctors can't/won't help.
There must be something I can do, I see it pointless going back into therapy that hasnt worked. My train of thought is if I can get a drug to lower my sex drive and not be sexual for a few months, maybe even longer, i'll surely forget about self bondage.
Thank you

[Fetishaddict2014]

Hi Prizefighter,
I don't know if you quite understand this... for me fetish is self harm, it's self destruction and I seem to enjoy the sexuality of it also. For me its comparable to having an orgasm whilst cutting myself. I don't cut myself physically, I cut myself sexually and emotionally instead... I ask for help to come away from all of this not to practically kill myself sexually...
"There is nothing wrong with having fetishes as long as you are not hurting anyone" - and what if i'm hurting myself, does that not count for anything? The local doctors don't seem to think there is an issue with self harm...
Thanks

[Dalubaba]

You may try circulating sexual energy around microcosmic orbit.Learn this exercise and do it when you are sexually excited. Google the word, microcosmic orbit.
You may also see other exercises like, male deer exercise. Kegel exercise.Search yoga postures for sexual problem. These may not be specific to your problem, however  these exercises, give overall type of benefits.in sexual system..

[Prizefighter]

There are all types. What I mean is that there is a woman (women) out there that understand your situation. Also meaning is that sex is a give and take. You may want to do your fetishes at times and she will work with you. There is nothing wrong with having fetishes as long as you are not hurting anyone and it is with consenting adults.  Find someone that is into that stuff. The world is a big place.

[Fetishaddict2014]

Hi vedadhar,
I've had 3 years of psychosexual therapy and it helped a very minimal effect. Anxiety and stress - i've never been more relaxed with life outside of sexuality in my life. As time goes on, I indulge in relaxation stuff, similar to meditation - there is dancing called 5 rhythms, total self expression. Hypnosis has helped me to become so peaceful with everyone around me, have closer connections to family and friends also.

You've hit the nail on the head.. that's exactly what it is I have - psychological perversions of pathological disorders... and having been through 3 years psychosexual therapy and months of hynosis i've come to the realization that fetishism for me is totally self destructive, hence my posting here and plea for assistance... any advice from here please?
Thanks

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, The way i look at life is time wise and we only have so much of it to accomplish things. Look at your life 40 years from now as these years will determine what you will be. All this energy for what, a fantacy? If you took this extra energy and wrote a book about your experience and sold 1 million copies now thats something to make good of your now interest.

[vedadhar]

Consider meeting a Psychologist or sexual Therapist to undergo Behavioral Therapy because anxiety and stress could cause increased libido.Since you have an insight (guilty),it is easy to manage such situation.Anti depressants or anti anxiety drugs are not usually prescribed because of their potential side effects/dependence and tolerance. Behavioral therapy is a very good option.Learn about intimate sexual relationships,safe sex practice,orgasm control,self esteem,stress management,anxiety management etc.Plan well because you will have a lot of home work to do.If one sitting for a brief period of time is not helping then well planned individualized psychosexual analysis/therapy should be considered.Abstinence is not a elixir for such problems.Hypnosis is extreme but under skillful Psychologist,it will certainly help,only if you are determined to change this habit.

Fetishm or sexual perversions are quite normal,you can call them fantasies,but when once reach an endurance they are considered to be Psychological Perversions of extreme pathological disorders,which may not be accepted socially. All The Best!