im aaron and im 15 and i am at the point whwere im about to have sex with my girl. but i dont know what size condom to use. im kinda small i guess! Im a little bit over 5.5 but not really touching 6 yet. What condom size do i need. HELP
You are only 15! There are tons of other things for you to be worrying about! Sex at your age is only going to make life a lot more complicated than it already is. And if you have to come on a forum to ask questions like this (of people who don't know you) then you aren't ready to be having sex in the first place.
First off, i'm almost 18 and and i know for a fact thats it not easy when you ask a question and people give you the " your to young " thing. i'm personaly a virgin, unless you count masterbation. i can understand vmvnpv, your a 30 year old woman right? you probably have kids, and its in a mothers nature to keep their babies away from the dark world of sex ( lol ).
but it is better to explain things, rather than have them go off and figured it out for their self, i asked my mom about sex when i was 14, she told me i was to young, so like any kid these days would do, i search online. what i found was not pretty but thats another story.
To Aeezy: I can't tell you what size to use after all i don't know your exact size. but as far as i know condoms come in sizes from 53mm ( which my friends call a " natural " ) to the trojan magnum which i think is 58mm.
i don't buy condoms as i have no use for them, but from what i here the size is on the back side of the box.
as far as your age, i agree that your to young, before having sex you should ( in my opinion ) have a job, acouple of savings accounts or money in a lock box to be simple, reason being you may get an STI, STD, something of that sort. as far as your girl goes, i would suggest she be on birthcontrol before you do anything.
but to your question, and i have some advise for, to question, start with the natural 53mm condom and see if it fits right, make sure it fits tight as they have been known to slip off into your partner during intercourse. ( but in most cases they can be removed by simpley pulling them out )
now for the advise, as far as savings goes, you need TWO savings, have one with atleast $150 saved for supplies, which i'll tell you about in a sec. in the second savings have atleast $500, as this is incase you or your partner get and STD or STI, the $500 should be used in clinic visits and such.
Now, your supplies. just like in the army, never go into a vagina without the right gear!!! ( or any opther part of the body for that matter ) here are things you should have BEFORE your first time.
1. Condoms of course. 2. Hand sanitiser. make sure your hands are clean at all times during intercourse to redusk infection risks. 3. Tissues, the tissue has many uses, for use while masturbating, to wipe of any lubricant left behind, and god forbid you have a runny nose! ( that was a joke ). 4. The lubricant, for use with anal intercourse, or vaginal intercourse, make sure to use a good bit while having anal sex, as to little can be a painful issue ky jelly is a common lube. 5. Breathments ( i'll explain )
The breathments, ( this is not something kinky if thats what you were thinking ) the breathments are for the simple fact that no one wants to make out with someone with bad breathe.
another thing i came across online is that some toothpaste and mouthwash products can actually burn your partner during oral sex. so try to rinse your mouth very well before you do so. thats the only thing i can say on that.
and please, have your girl get on birthcontrol before you do vaginal intercourse. birthcontrol i heard is 97% effective, use a condom too and you should be pretty safe so she does'nt get preggers ;)
now that somes up your sex survival kit. but now some advise from me personaly
sex is a BIG deal, it will effect you and your partner both physicly and emoionaly, one thing ALOOOT of guys your age do is after " the moment " they leave soon. DO NOT DO THAT. i've seen guys have sex witha girl and not talk to her for days and days. after you finally do it TALK TO HER, ask her how she liked the way you performed, tell her how you like the way she performed. and by all means, before the moment comes when your laying in the bed with her, ask her if shes sure that this is what she wants, give her that last minute chance to back out.
and if she seems to be in pain, or not comfertable, THEN STOP. don't do anything she does'nt like, if you want her to give you oral for example and she says no, then respect that answer. ask her at a latter time, maybe let it go for a few weeks. she might say no the first time but every girl is worth the wait.
girls are like fire crackers, sometimes they blow and sometimes they dont.thatsounded nasty and i know what your thinking but what you think i ment is not what i really ment, by blow i mean she does what you asked, like the first time you asked her out, she said yes right? THATS A BLOW. but she could have said no, so she did'nt blow, you lit the fuse, got ready for the bang, and it neeever happened
treat the woman you love like you
treat your mother, respect her, talk to her, and love her
It's great that you are practicing safe sex! I'm glad that you have made this decision and that you came to this forum for advice. In general, condoms are "one size fits all" - except for those who are very well endowed. Condoms are elastic, so they will stretch or shrink as needed. Just make sure to read the directions (or even practice) before you are ready to use them the first time. Your penis size is in the normal range, so you should have no problems in terms of condom size.
No I don't have kids. (Thanks for pointing that out.) The fact of the matter is it doesn't matter how tall you are. It has no affect on penis size. But how the heck are complete strangers supposed to know what size condom he should use? If he can't figure it out on his own then maybe he's not old enough to have sex. (And yes. 15 is too young! So don't feed me your bs.)
I agree that 15 in too young for sex. Most people that age are not aware of all the emotional / psychological stuff that comes along with sex. But if he is going to do it, we should be happy that he is going to be practicing safe sex. He has come here for to learn. And the more he can learn, the better. We all had to "figure it on our own," but these forums are here to help with that process. I don't think I was dishing out any BS. We can have our opinions about the age at which someone is ready for sex, but I try to be nonjudgmental when someone is asking for help.
I'm sorry for the confusion but my comment wasn't aimed at you. I didn't like that fisherman "assumed" that because I'm "older" I have kids. If he took the time to read my profile he would have known that I don't have kids and how sensitive a subject it is to me. What you said was spot on.
on the age note, if you look at the 5th part of what i said, the first thing in that is " as far as your age, i agree your to young. " yes, he IS to young, i never said 15 was an alright age.
on the penis size, i said i could'nt tell him what condom to use b/c i DON'T know his size. i said he should start with the smallest.
on the one size fits all, that would prove to be true with something that streaches like a condom, i just said the different sizes b/c thats what i've HEARD not what i actually know. so if i'm wrong, and i probably am, thats my bad.
on if he can't figure it out on his own then maybe he should'nt have sex, thats very, very true, i do agree with you on that. but i would rather give him a little ity bity bit of advise so he can understand a little better, rather then him saying " screw it, no one would help i just wont use a condom "
now, please don't get an attitude about things, be sure to read everything twice to make sure you understand what i'm saying
as far as assuming you had kids, that was really not needed i admit i should'nt have said that. but i see a 30 year old woman talking to a young kid about not having sex i assume she has kids and that protective mother side comes out to try and get him to avoid sex.
its none of my business, i mean there is many reason why you or any other woman does'nt have kids, medical issues, choosing not to, lesbian perhaps ( i'm not saying your lesbian i'm just giving reasons, not that i have anything against lesbians or gay men )
i'm truly sorry i brought that subject up, i did'nt know it would affend you and i apologize.
but please, don't get an attitude if i make the mistake of saying something that offended you or anyone else, if i do it again in the future simpley say " thats a sensitive subject for me, please don't bring it up again " and i'll respect that.
about me being wrong, and i admit i sometimes am, don't get an attitude about that either please, yet again just say " your wrong about ___blank___. but so you know in the future this is how it works " and so on.
anything i said that affended you, or anyone one else in the forum, i apologize. i was'nt trying to be mean, or single any one out.
forget these people telling u should have sex. they're still in the stone age. at least your smart enough to use a condom and are concerned about keeping your partner safe. i had the same problem when i started having sex w my boyfriend ( I'm a girl btw). so my partner and i were concerned about size the condom coming off so we ordered one of those kits like someone suggested, but the problem was that a lot of them ended up being too small. my boyfriend is about your size, probably smaller and we don't have problems. as long as you erect it probably wont come off. we use lifestyles and have used durex in the past. if your worried about condoms and different brand you should try and find a planned parent hood center near you. condoms are usually free at those kinds of places, and birth control is cheaper. college health offices are good as well. at my school you don't even need to talk w anyone... you probably don't even need to be a student to get free condoms. all you need to do is go in and either ask for them or look for them. i've never had a problem and no one has ever asked my questions before. actually people are usually excited if u asked for help. also if you are having problems with the condom coming off it could be bc you are not fully erect.
i'm on birth control so we use a condom as a secondary barrier method. i know my boyfriend always gets really excited and hard when he knows we're going to have sex. so sometimes we put the condom on right away during foreplay. bc even w oral sex u should try and use a barrier when u can. it just safer for both of u.
during foreplay it might become flaccid in which case you might want to change condoms but if your careful you can probably use the same one as long as it doesn't slip off. however, if you're using only a condom as birth control and not another secondary methods i would just use a new one. a few bucks on a wasted condom is not a big deal.
and if your worried about getting condoms at a pharmacy you can also get them at supermarkets, walmart, kmart or those kind of stores. and if you have a problem at a pharmacy speak up about it. once i had a guy be rude to me about buying protection and i told the store manager and they fired him. its no ones business but your own. good luck! have fun and be safe
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