attraction???

[vkitty110]

Hello, Well my problem is that me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 years and currently have a 15 mo. old daughter. I love him but I'm not sexually attracted to him anymore. He's a highly sexual person and he has done things when I was first pregnant that I can't forget, like ask his ex wife for naked pics and watch porn on my computer when I told him countless times not to because of how it made me feel. He is trying to change and I have noticed it greatly. He's a nice guy and try's to make me happy, but every time we do have sex I feel uncomfortable like I can't forget what he did in the past and it makes me feel disgusted as if he were a pervert or something (which he's not). I just don't know what to do how do I make things go back to normal, can I or will I feel this way forever? thanx.

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

Unfortunately, unless you can forget it and move on, you will feel that hint of insecurity forever - trust me.  Been there, done that.  I was in a relationship with a woman who had all these guys do bad things to her.  I was the "nice guy" but one teeny, tiny thing (even taking a phone call at 9:00 p.m. from the ex-wife) would just set her off.  Needless to say, over the course of two years, it NEVER went away.  Keep us posted.  I'll add this to my watch list.  I'm curious to hear more.

[vkitty110]

thank you so much for your advice I think the counseling idea may work greatly!!!

[thehitman357]

You need to forgive him 100% and move on or break up.  The asking for pics from his ex wife was really crappy.  In my opinion, the porn not so much.  The issue it appears is how to forgive him.  You may want to get counseling from someone you trust and is a "professional" like a pastor.  Additionally, having a 15 mo daughter is a lot of work and is stressful.  My advice is to make sure you guys spend some fun time together without your daughter and talk it through.  Communication with him will help you work through the issues as long as he is willing.  Good luck.