how can i STOP masterbating(masturbating)??? - Sexual Health

Doctor_Pain

Nov 28, 2011

To: chris106

Guilt, all you need to tell yourself is tht masturbation is a symptom and u need to treat it.
I have copy pasted a few methods u can use. Try them.
And most importantly discuss the problem with ur loved ones.
One more technique which has had 100% results fr me is keep try to counsel people on sites like these, it will change u within and that is the reason why i am investing so much of energy explaining it to u cause in the end its me sending messages to my subconscious. Its ******* unbelievable i am telling u .. try to do it .. i have just realized its power a week back ....best of luck

Try applying eucalyptus oil or a vapor rub cream, menthol based cream etc to Your 'device' whenever you feel like masturbating, it will leave the little monster numb and all you will feel is cold down there :). It has a psychological impact in the long run- something called 'counter-conditioning' through aversive stimulus. Since masturbation becomes a habit, so it acts through 'Conditioning'.
I am a medicine graduate and at present studying psychology out of interest.
I haven't really researched on this topic but this is my own little remedy after a little bit of brain storming and applied knowledge in order to get rid of this habit :P
I hope it proves to be helpful too all in need !
Soy bean, peppermint and mint also decrease libido .. so try these methods and i am sure u will be free from this habit soon ..
I have visited some Islamic sites which have recommended a few of these methods.
But I think the Aversive counter conditioning is the best by applying any mentholated topical cream.
And next time u masturbate, imagine a tub full of worms and urself in that tub while masturbating ... another strong Aversive Counter Conditioning method.
But NOTE that you  have to fellow this method/routine  for over a good time period 15-30 days ... to really reap the benefits ...
Habits die hard my friend !

lolzz

Nov 28, 2011

To: jeans666

it will not affect whether or not you will become a farther

Stoopdog

Dec 05, 2011

To: Anyone

I'm 15 and i started when i was maybe 12 and i saw it in some movies and i wanted to try it out. so when i did i felt great. when years came i started to feel pitty on myself. everywhere i go it seems that my lower area wants me to masterbait (i get a boner) when i do it i try to think of bad things for example the blue waffle but eventually i will think of a hot model or something. even though im an athiest i tried praying and i still do it. the onkly real time i stop masterbaiting is when i spend the night at peoples house. when i wake up though i have a boner and i have to lay there until its gone. i wish i new about the out come of masterbaition b4 i did and but i am glad im not the oly one going threw this.

blindtrust111

Dec 10, 2011

hi
gogreen i red your problem. i am suffering same problem from many years. but when i feel to stop it i can stop it. because i have strong relation with God. I just do promise with god i will not do it in 20 days. and please help me to keep my promise. i try my best level. and same time i never talk and do sex with my friend. after 20 days when i feel so much urge i take it once and again i do promise. if your urge is so high you should do first time 5 days promise. then 10 then 15 and so on... once you remove your urge level automatically you will leave this bad habit. and dont worry we are humans and its a natural thing. but our god has a fix time for this which is after marriage. and its up to us how we keep our self ready for marriage. and when you feel so much urge you feel you cant stop it now. there are so me techniques while using you can get minimum side effects. i hope you understand all things but for more detail please dont feel hesitate to put questions.
thanks

Lonelyguy13

Dec 13, 2011

I'm 15 and I need help, I promised someone, someone that is really Important to me that I'll never betray her, but she's gone now, and I really mean gone, I would sound really corny saying this but I believe that the only way that we'll be together is to die a God loving man, I need help to stop this urge! So I can finally be with her.

goingbig

Dec 13, 2011

To: gogreen12341234

You all worry way to much I'm 30 with 2 kids been strumming the bandgo:) since 12 it turns my wife on to see me doing it so enjoy your own body and spank on it has nothing to do with God and masturbating so enjoy and don't shoot your eye out kid

sydn993

Dec 17, 2011

To: Dalubaba

Thank you sir

NickTheRipper

Dec 23, 2011

Look masturbation is a completely natural action. It does not harm you in any fathomable way. As long as you are not over doing it it will be fine. If you wan to stop masturbating i suggest exercising. Not praying or meditating. It is cold hard science. You can masturbate as much as you want. Sexual repression is a horrible idea and can cause psychological disorders and can lead to depression. All you had to do was read a book on sex at the library

CDav1

Dec 24, 2011

Howdy, I'm 17 years old. I have been masturbating for about 6 or 7 years now. The longest I've stopped since then was about 2 weeks(that is because I was at Summer Leadership School then beach with family). I masturbate about 2 times a day all week long, I use to do it any where from 3-6 times a day. At least I lessened it. The good things that I have noticed is that while doing it makes me relaxed and happy, not bored anymore, and for some odd reason my headaches usually stop after I get done. No idea why??? The bad things I have gotten from masturbation is guilt, a void feeling a little after, tired, sleep till late when I can, can't wake up in the morning, had **** rot, got some type of a big red bump on my "friend" (PS to remove it just take a needle and pop it and put antiseptic stuff on it everyday, should go away in a week), gotten slower(used to run a 6:08 mile now it is a 6:38 if I'm lucky), gotten weaker(65 push-ups in a min now 47), and multiple more things. I have tried to stop, I've tried praying, I do go to church, meditation, yoga, stretching, tai-chi, athletic stuff, video games, hanging with friends, I am in JROTC, 2 youth groups, and I volunteer. I'm not sure what else to do to stop. But I did notice if you lessen it every week and then doing it every other week that did some stuff for me but it didn't work for me to well as we all gathered but might help you. If any of yall have any ideas for me just let me know thanks.

CDav1

Dec 24, 2011

To: FAYSAL3624

The best thing to do is to pray, meditate, fast, go do some athletics, hang with christian friends, listen to some holly ghost music, read the Bible, and keep yourself occupied. That has helped me a lot. But I'm still having a hard time at it but hey, what isn't so good for me may be what works best for you. And plus it is a start.

Etiean

Dec 24, 2011

Just do what everyone else does - pretend you don't. Or stop misreading your bible, that might help (Did you guys really not undersatnd the purpose of that ONE story? thats sad.)

BrahimOlk

Jan 06, 2012

how is top it some claims that it has side effects im lost:S

BrahimOlk

Jan 06, 2012

and im always feeling tired about that and now im 17 :s

ElGuy

Jan 10, 2012

To: jojoclown

Listen I know how you feel I've done for about two years. But I'm 13. I try to stop but I'm always keep on doing it. I know most people do it,but the way I do it isn't normal. And it sounds like it isn't for you either. I too get erections randomly and have to fumble in my pants to at least try to get it to stop. I mean I just think about something then a hoot girl just pops into my mind , then BOOM! What I do since I'm a Christian I go to God for help. I don't know if your one or not but most of the time it gives me strength and motivation. He realy does want to help you ,if your a Christian or not. But it's good that you can come out and express yourself. Well wish me luck and hope you can conquer this too! God bless!

godhelpusall999

Jan 11, 2012

My story is a little bit complicated. I am a  21 year old Chinese, and came to US when I was 16. I have been masturbating since I was 13-year-old. One night I was lying on my bed, and couldn’t fall sleep. Since I had nothing to do at that moment, so I start playing with my penis, after a while... well, you know what happened. Then I did little research online, didn’t give me too much info, so I decide to do it again after that day, and the day after that.
Maybe because I was growing so fast at that time, I did not notice any uncomfortable until reached age of 15.  The frequency was like 2~3 times a week, which is less than my current situation around 4~5 times

Couple things I felt:
1. memory decrease - I could not remember as much things as  I used to. And it is getting harder and harder to remember things even if  I try to.
Grades fall from straight A to straight B. I am 21 now, sometimes, my brain hurts like hell for no reason. I guess if I don’t stop now, I will die in my early age. You know what is the worst part, I will probably still be a virgin. SAD

2. Become unconfident about myself. Maybe because the guilt I feel every time after masturbating. Every time  I masturbate, I feel little piece of me myself is gone or died end up with trash. I am killing myself, and i don’t like that. Become less communicative to other people.
Maybe also has something to do with internet addiction.

3. I can literary feel my body become weaker and weaker in terms of bone density. I supposed the calcium plays a big part in my sperm. I start feeling all types of sourness over my body, especially around my shoulder.

4. I felt pity to myself. I think I am mentally sick. I always fantasies "hot white female body." I know its wired and sick. I don’t know why, my guess will be the hidden information in makeup advertising I have been receiving since I was a child. ( in China, female tend to have the idea that whiter/lighter skin tone is better, and the fact proves they are right, men do like women with lighter skin tone)

5. The reality *****, can't get any girlfriend due to years of lack of real human communication. Even if I can, I won’t. The expense of college already put my parents in stress (they are in 60s). I am fully time student ad live on their support. I know, what an as.shole am I.

1. I have tried giving myself a commitment, for example, when I was 16, I told myself, i am gona stop that after I came to America. Failed.

2. Told myself gona stop it and find a girlfriend after getting a college, Failed.

3. Told myself gona stop when I reach age of 21, Failed again.

I am not really a believer in any religion, even though I go and join one right now, I am gona have to holy faith or true belief in that religion, so the religion method failed.

I guess that is about it. Like my ID says "god help us all"

kingjoker

Jan 11, 2012

To: everyone

hello everyone my name is nathan and im 15 year old when i was 12 year old i watch porn without jackin off and one day i jackoff i couldn't stop after that so i took some break and i couldn't help myself. Then i turn 13 i jackoff everyday and had some breaks. i know jackin off is hard to stop it bad habit but guys listen there a way to stop just don't watch porn maybe watch a movie or read a book finish your homework hang with your family,friends i stop because everytime i do it im wasting my time im doing nothing to help me i should be study for test then jackin off and you guys that are grow up that a shame like forreal just get a girl........or sex doll idk. well that all thank you... if you need help on other ways to stop just message me back,

champ100

Jan 17, 2012

To: rajanikash725

dude i m 18 yr old ,
i had sam problem from years,there is just one way to stop it-
don't think about it ,change your mind towards any of ur hobby or towards god when u r feeling to do so.you will be normal in just 4-5 days.more you watch porn or mabstruation  your lust vill increase.
because of mabstruation  u will become weak ,there wil be lack of concentration and ur hairs becomes thin and if u continued it for long period your airs starts falling,your immunity will be less,u will also suffer from sneezing all the time.
so stop watching porn is the first step,
then u start thinking about something else whenever u feel so and most important don't punish yourself for mebstration  be happy  it will stop naturally.
so bst of luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

qaz12310

Jan 22, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

i've read all the the stories on this blogg and can relate to most of them but i feel more personally connected with yours and admire your courage to openly voice your pain.

Dalubaba

Jan 30, 2012

To: To everyone

Masturbation is a natural habit. If done in a limit , it will not harm anybody. The symptoms mentioned are mostly psychological or due to other health issues.
Sexual urge is very powerful energy. Erect genital organ is full of energy. You may try the following methods to convert this energy into mental energy and mental energy to spiritual energy.
1 when sexually aroused, do abdominal breathing. this will calm you and make you fresh and forget about sex.
2If you are alone, close your eyes, inhale deeply, while exhaling do a humming sound feeling that vibration of humming is spreading throwoutD your body and spreading in the environment.Do this as long as you like or till your arousal has abated.
3Google, microcosmic orbit. Circulate your sexual energy around the microcosmic orbit.. This method is most powerful to transmute your energy to useful purpose. If you persist in doing this technique, your entire life will change.
There are other methods also. If your try the above, you will find number of methods your self. Continue research on sex. It is an interesting subject. If you cannot totally stop masturbating, you need not worry. Reduce the number gradually. Take this problem very lightly. Make it a game of challenges...

Dalubaba

Jan 30, 2012

To: To everyone.

Tips to search. Use the following words or phrases to search for sexual problems and their solution.
Microcosmic orbit.
kegel exercise.
Kundalini yoga.
Satkriya.
Male Deer exercise.
Female deer exercise.
Taoist yoga.
website of pengym or pegym.
Sexual reflexology.
Root lock, navel lock, throat lock.
Mahabandha.(multiple locks)
This can be a lot of literature on sex, covering almost all problems. It is prudent to consult your doctor to rule out any medical problem associated with your sexual problem.

marcusB1

Feb 14, 2012

To: sarah_h

im so horny right now, dont know what to do, dont know what to do this is not fun. i cant use my hands

Dalubaba

Feb 15, 2012

To: marcusB1

If you can think that you are breathing through your perineum. After few breaths you think that your are breathing through your penis.This will calm you or the sensation will change. This is an energy.Energy goes to the part of the body wher your concentration is.So think that you energy goes from your penis to the top of your crown of the head while inhaling and then while exhaling think that it is returning to the penis again. This is circulating your sexual energy around the microcosmic orbit. Google microcosmic orbit to get the detais. wish you best of luck.

marcusB1

Feb 16, 2012

To: Dalubaba

Why is it, when someone is texting me, Automaticly without thinking i always get in bad mood over(most symple things)? someone needs to test me over something before we can move on, im so missable at moment, but still get in badmood,
WISH I KNOW WHY?

Dalubaba

Feb 17, 2012

To: marcusB1.

Contact your health care prople and discuss your problems. Self help is possibele if you are enthusiastic for self improvement. If you are not enthusiastic you may need medical help. Wish you best of luck.

bram718

Mar 03, 2012

To: sarah_h

I completely agree. I've been masturbating all my life and I stil do every couple of days at 73. It's healthy and releases good chemicals in the brain. It's guilt that's harmful. By the way I've got a son and lovely grandchildren, so it's not hurt me in any way.We should'nt try to tell God what he thinks.

bram718

Mar 03, 2012

To: shady14

Masturbation is not harmful and does not do anything to your bones.
Relax. You have a healthy sexual appetite. Celebrate it. How much you masturbate depends on the strength of your libido. If you are doing it obsessively like an addiction, then maybe you should speak to a health professional - but NOT a naive God spokesperson.

People going around telling lies like that are doing such a lot of harm. Especially when invoke God on their side, and so forth.

Don't be guilty: now that IS harmful.

timeheal

Mar 13, 2012

To: people of the world

I hate myself everytime i masterbate, it feel so un natural like im an animal, it is a real problem, i complete stop masterbation (masturbation) for 6 month straight, then i started again 2 days ago, all the people that suffer from this i know that is not a goodthing to do, i have a challenge to all that suffer from this sin, stop for one year, dont even do it, dont even think about it, just ignor it, fight yourself, do someyhing else creative, fight fight fight to stop dont be a wussy, im sick of this, i erge everyone to stop too, fight for your soul !!! 1 year and then 2 then all we have to save it for your husband and wife!

timeheal

Mar 13, 2012

To: people of the world

I hate myself everytime i masterbate, it feel so un natural like im an animal, it is a real problem, i complete stop masterbation (masturbation) for 6 month straight, then i started again 2 days ago, all the people that suffer from this i know that is not a goodthing to do, i have a challenge to all that suffer from this sin, stop for one year, dont even do it, dont even think about it, just ignor it, fight yourself, do someyhing else creative, fight fight fight to stop dont be a wussy, im sick of this, i erge everyone to stop too, fight for your soul !!! 1 year and then 2 then all we have to save it for your husband and wife!

jad39

Mar 13, 2012

To: rosesarered25

Great answer................. May god bless u

jozey954

Mar 17, 2012

To: rosesarered25

Thank you for that story! It seriously just inspired me to try and follow further into my religion to attempt to rid myself of this aweful addiction! I just hate the feeling after doing it, yet alone recognizing that I do it right after I tell myself I won't.. I hope I can be as fortunate to experience what you have and be free

Dalubaba

Mar 17, 2012

To: to everyone

Urge for sex is the most powerful energy. It cannot be supressed, but it can be transmuted into positive energy to help you to self improve in all walks of your life.Some of the techniques are as under. you may google the words.
abdominal deep breathing.
kegel exercise.
circulating the energy around the microcosmic orbit.
Deer exercise.
Kundalini yoga.
meditation.
Self hypnosis.
positive outlook toward the sexual sensations.
One can find select any method to tramute this energy.

jewelzzcool123

Mar 26, 2012

To: Stoopdog

hi im jewelian, i started to watch porn when i was 13 im 14 now. i always wonder if i am a perv. i dont think of it all the time and i masterbate. sometimes i get so ashamed that i cries. am i durty? i dont want to be but porn and masterbaiting is so adicting. by the way im a girl if that makesanything different

worththemoney2me

Apr 11, 2012

It is harder to quit than alot of these other sites are saying. When people say pray they have to have strong religious beliefs first.

Wuffers

Apr 11, 2012

To: CDav1

What the **** does meditation, and praying have to do with masterbation (masturbation). Its normal it is. Every child will do it multiple times. the 15 or less year olds stop ******* worrying its not a sin its not a symptom its normal. every one does it
and the guys or chicks on here that say ~ Christian christian sin church pray fast blah blah blah. You probably spank the monkey with the priest. It wont make you go blind (Unless you shoot into your eye) Your hands wont get hairy (Unless your *** picks up fuzzy stuff from your bed/pillow) you wont be possessed. Play with your self and keep a chick from getting pregnant. Thats what i say, on the towel not in the sturrups. Porn is a addiction using your mind to fantasize is perfectly fine and works just as well. So Stop freakin and start beatin' ;p

akd176

Apr 23, 2012

To: anyone

i find it works best to wait untill you have a big trip, like a week long. Stop doing it during that week. That is the easiest way to start.

duncanmacleod89

May 08, 2012

I've been at this addiction for a long time. I'm 19 now, and started at 10 in 5th grade. It all started with young curiosity, specifically I wondered how in the world girls could pee without a penis (I lived a very sheltered life). This led to looking up stuff online, and from there I justified looking up pictures of girls just to get myself a rise. It got worse from there as I continued with experimentation. From google images to books to playboy magazine and to pornography. I now find myself coming to confess my actions to the world at large after having finished and renewing my sense of self-hate.
For reasons I will never understand, last year I got a girlfriend. She is the sweetest most wonderful woman ever, and I would never wish to hurt her, but that no matter how much I told myself that having her meant I could move on past my addiction, I remained addicted. I told her about my problem, and promised her that I was done. That was almost eight months ago, and I haven't been able to conjure up the courage to tell her that I am in fact still addicted.
I am a God-fearing man from a God-fearing family, all of whom I love very much, and God is an integral part of my life. I have full confidence in him, as I am sure he does in me. I have come to him for help with this addiction for many years, and while I know that he has and will continue to help me, I never fail to disappoint my Creator. I have earned more time in purgatory than OJ Simpson, and I certainly feel I disserve it. One of the oddest things about my addiction is that I hate it. I hate it with a fiery passion, but nonetheless it never ceases to conquer me at almost every one of our confrontations. Life is weird in that way. God gave me a penis, one that, while brainless, has taken over my life and controls my actions and thoughts. Its an ugly little jet out from a pile of hair, why does it control me so?
I've tried almost every trick in the book (all of which work somewhat, but with an absence of will-power are useless. I do recommend these methods to people wanting to start on the right road). I've started limiting myself at the new year. The first year it was only once a day, the next year only five times a week, and then three (this is where I fell apart and am now back to no more than 5). I've tried self-therapy, finding the root cause and acting on it. I've tried vows, promises, treaties, and contracts between myself and God that I would never masturbate ever again. I've quit doing it almost as many times as I have done it.
While I'm the last person on earth that should ever give advice about this, after a solid 9 years of quitting masturbation, this is what I've learned:
Never, never, never, never reward yourself for going without for period of time with masturbation. Never never never never, after you quit, do it. All of the times that I've quit, the thing that has ended my quitting has been going back. Its easy to run back to what you know, to where you feel you are in control and safe, and so much scarier to fight back against your most basic urges. Quitting is hard, it always has been and always will be. And it will always be easier to succumb to your urges than to fight them. The temptation will go away as soon as you give in, for a time. No matter how many times you tell yourself just this last time and then never again, the temptation will always come back, and no matter how good it feels when your doing it, the emptiness that you feel after will always be worse.
Some things that I've tried that I've found help a little is, again, start by setting limits. Don't tell yourself never again, tell yourself no more today. And slowly limit it away, weening your body off of itself. I've also found that telling others, as I'm doing now, is a big help. You're not alone, and there are others out there who know what its like and who want to help.
For the God-Fearers: remember that Christ suffered for all your sins. I ask myself before starting, "Do I want to make Christ hurt more for me?" Remember that he felt the pain of all our sins, and your masturbation hurts him. Don't hurt your savior (Yes, I know I'm more to blame than any of you. I have given a whole chapter in Christ's book of things that hurt a lot.).
Also, and this is where I fail most often, if you know that something turns you on, don't do it. For me it was naked situps (don't ask), now I only exercise clothed. But for those of you who also watch pornography (yes, I'm among your number too) you need to stop. What ever turns you on needs to go because it isn't helping you change, and changing is what you need to do. You can't come out of quitting the same person you were, and in fact, if you want to quit, you don't want to be that same person.
Being a scifi fan, I try before I start to think of what Future-Me would say. I know I always regret my actions afterward, so I try to invision myself after this time telling Present-Me to stop. Its dorky I know, but if you daydream long enough you'll get past your rush of testosterone about it so you can move on.
Realize that its just chemicals. Just like the ones in your chemistry class, your temptation is a result of an over abundance of testosterone (and for all my God-Fearers, satan is in on this too). Just as you can conquer the chemicals in your class, you can conquer the ones in your head.
Above all though, you must want to quit. If you don't, you can't. I've tried for years, but am such a coward that I've always taken the easy way out. Never settle for less than the best you can be. If you think that in the future you won't masturbate, then start now. It's a long process. And it won't be fun. But it will be eternally rewarding. Tell others, it gives you confidence.
I ask you all to pray for me, and I ask all you to keep on keepin on. This is something we can all beat. I wish you all the best of luck, as I wish it also for myself. Thank you for all your helpful suggestions and moving stories. I hope to be able to one day come back here and tell you all how I got past my addiction for good. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Duncan MacLeod
P.S. It is wrong. All you who came to spout the benefits and justifications for this, it is wrong. You know it, but like me, you've chosen to take the easy path, and to justify your actions so as to not fall in the pit of self-hate I have. While I envy that you don't hate yourselves, I pity you that you would think yourselves right. You know its wrong. Just because I believe in God doesn't mean that what I'm saying isn't true. Join us in quitting please. You'll feel better if you do.

anonmymous

May 10, 2012

To: anonymous

i am 16 and i have this addiction with masterbation (masturbation), and watching porn. I really want to stop as i think spiritually physically it is damaging me. Let me tell you some thing guys i am not lying i have eperienced this for myself, i had materbated for so long, and one day i was triying to memorise the holy book of Al... and i couldnt, it had made me cry and for 2-3 months i felt like i was becoming mad, and i felt like commiting suicide, my thoughts were all negative and i thought i will never be succesful in life. These days were the worst days of my life. I used to say things such as is life real is god real, i hope by gods help i can stop this addiction. i donot want to suffer in hell forever, and be tormented, i want to be raised in paradise with my parents and prophet. Only Al... will give me the guidance stop. I warn you people if you carry on it will impact your life. I make supplications for those in need i hope people make the same back. I want to be a normal person with a normal life God willing will overcome my trauma

anonmymous

May 10, 2012

To: masterbation

it is from the devils whisper by which we commit these develish acts
I hope we including me can stop, the last time i had masterbated was about 7:30, and from 2day i am trying to not masterbate for 40 days and then eventually this ilness this black dot this disease on my heart will be washed away clean ready to start a fresh new life.
Thankyou

JonathanHallSA

May 10, 2012

I try to stop masterbate i can go without it about for an week then i found my slef doing it again and when i am doing i am WTF am i doing plz help I really want to stop !

anonmymous

May 10, 2012

think about death when sexual feelings arise
Remember god
Thinkk about its impact, such as weakening strength memory weakness
Think about what will happen when you are being questioned by your god
Hope this Helps:)

anonmymous

May 10, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

Why dont you start to believe in a religion, i have a religion and i say 100% it help me get through my daily life, it helps me when i ask for help, it gives me guidance, but my free will damages me by me making wrong choices. however if you have a religion you will be scared to master...... and will feel guilt and shame and embaressment, which is good as this will then help you to stop

anonmymous

May 10, 2012

When i am bored if i spend my time helping other and giving them advice i will get rid of my addiction

Theman111

May 11, 2012

I have a masturbation problem, to put it simply. For about 3 years of my life since i started secondry school till now that im nearly 14. So it began really when i heard my friends talking about sexual content like pornography and so on and at the time i was still not 100% certain about what they were so i asked my parents but they only gave me generic answers like the ones youd get in a sex edd class. So i went online to see for myself what they were talking about and i found several inapropriate sites like pornography again, so i watched a few clips and like mos boys my age got aroused by the content so i tried masterbating (masturbating) for the first time. This seemed alright at first, i wasnt doing anything terribly bad and i only did it when i was alone in the house were i couldnt be seen and only once or twice a month. But then i started to get more serious and began doing it for longer and more often untill i ended up sometimes doing it more than once a day, and also i began urgently craving masturbation and ended up doin it in my room with my parents right next door to me and could have at any moment walked in and caught me. I have also have a girl friend, who i love with all my heart, but i still feel the urge to masturbate. And i am also kinda worried that if i mastubate one day and things get a little serious with us that i wont be able to perform well with her, which i know im a bit too young to be doing but i am scared of the possibility of that happening. So i need some tips on how to stop masturbating, and i know people say its natural but i dont care i just want to stop not only to improve my every day life but so that i can improve my relationship with my girl friend and be every inch of man she ever deserved. So please, please give me some tips it would mean a great deal to me:)))!!!

Broly028

May 19, 2012

Hi I am 16 I started when I was 7 (not the best decision but it happens). Anyways I am as you can see an addict please anyone got some remedies that will help me stop. Really appreciate the advise.

Anonymous1234567890q

May 24, 2012

I masturbate as well, I have found it addicting and started when I was 13, but I really didn't know what I was ding, I want to come out and say it because it is a problem for me, just stay strong and do something else if you really need to. Take control over your actions and find what works for you.

samuap

May 24, 2012

To: champ100

thank i will try my best

pickle9898

May 26, 2012

I'm only 14 but I do it like 2-3 times a week. I started when I was only 13. The worst part is when I started doing is was when I was pnmy my way from grandparents house. So I got on my smart phone and look things up. Then I somehow found something on masturbating and I went to go try it out in the bathroom. So then I started to like it. I would look up stuff on my droid and then go do it again. Now I want to stop. Because its getting worse. Once I did it in a rental house while my whole entire family was there. It's getting worse how can I stop. Please, I need stop. I need answers. Home remedies. Just nothing that costs money. Thanks.

zodiac_snake

May 31, 2012

Hello there errrrrr this is very embarrassing to talk about , i have been masterbating (masturbating) since i was.......11 :\ yea i cant recall how i started doin it , all i remember is dat i used to feel good if i ever touched or rubbed dat part of my Body and one day i was jus kinda fantasizing when i ejaculated :( it felt gud though dirty , i ddnt knew the side effects of it, it caused alot of problems for me.....rite now m 16 , n i masterbate daily like 3-4 tyms and its getting worse....it can sumtimes really distract me from my work , while on the other hand it has become a drug for me, ive tried countless tyms to quite , to stop but end up stroking it... :\ it can be embarrassing for me in my family sumtimes i get Boners at really bad tyms lyk while in class or when i look at a hot girl or sumtin lyk dat :( i have cuxns ( Girls ) and we grew up 2gether lyk real brother and sister but i feels WEIRD, GUILTY, HORRIBLE AND MISERABLE when i luk at her and she turns me ON..!!! :O u cant imagine how miserable i feel :'( , i really need to stop dis plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz i need a really good advice on this because when i do stop masterbuting i start feeling sick , me head spins , sumtimes darkness veils my eyes n it feels as if though it controls me.... :( HELPY HELP...!!!

Djharstick

Jun 04, 2012

To: Anyone

Listen guys. If you have a relationship with God, then you know its wrong to Lust. Materbating is NOT a sin. What makes it a sin is what you are thinking when you do it. So if you can figure out a way to not think of sexual thoughts, then you are fine. But we all know that that is practically impossible. I am 16 and I struggle with this problem every day. I have learned that if you try and stay away from porn and anything with girls, you wouldn't be as tempted. Also if you stay active like doing something you really like doing it will keep your mind off of masterbating (masturbating). The longest I have gone with out masterbating (masturbating) is 1 month. The reason I still do it is because I am addicted to porn and that triggers my desire to masterbate. I don't know how to fix my porn addiction.

libro52001

Jun 05, 2012

To: anyone

i got in to masturbation when i was probably 16 or 17. I remember the first time i wet my bed was, i had a Walkman playing Michael Jackson album playing while i was asleep. I grind myself with the mattress and come in my PJ.
After a day or two i keep seeing this dream of making love with beautiful women again and again. Eventually i get used to it and become comfortable touching my private parts and pressing hard. I don't remember how, but later after a year or some a friend of mine give me a play boy book, i start reading that and i start touching myself hard enough until i come. I was feeling like i am a grown up.
One thing i notice is that, the days i didn't masturbate, i will get a striking pain in my abdomen, so it become another intensive to masturbate quite often, I remember one day i got this heavy striking pain and fell in the floor. my father took me to hospital and they say its a kidney stone. they kept me in hospital for few days later they schedule me for sound treatment to brake the kidney stone however the day i had to do my procedure they took an xray or MRI, i am not sure which one but the kidney stone disappeared. they cancelled my procedure i got fine and they sent me home to with instruction to drink lots of flood. I believe the sister of my grandmother was praying for me heavily at the hospital and that miraculously saved me. Now i am around 34 with fiance living with me and i am watching pornography. I tried to quit several time with different mechanisms. its not possible. I understand this requires Devin intervention big time. HOW can i get that i don't know. only Jesus Christ mercy will save me out of this.
The thing i started grinding with my mattress, it makes me a life long slave. I need a way out. I need one time big pass.
I made a lot of awful mistakes when i was young and stupid and God Jesus Christ gave me a free another chance and i used it wisely. I need one more for this, and this will fix me from the core.

ethan262

Jun 07, 2012

To: kingjoker

hi im a 13 yr old guy.. ever since i was a kid i masturbate with my cousin but after a few years i stopped because i had a crush on a girl but then she left after that i started masturbating again..soo how do i get rid of this nasty habit?

gking72

Jun 07, 2012

I have been masturbating since I was 13 and im 16 now and I do it constantly. Whenever I do it I saw I will do something else to not masturbate but it's just difficult to stop because I have so many opportunities since I'm not doing sports anymore but even when I am doing a sport I always try to do it but I'm just tired of doing it so if any one can help please say something

Morikitsune

Jun 07, 2012

To: lostindreamz

if you are able to get off ten times in a day then as another female I am impressed; but if it is a consecutive, one-after-another thing then that is quite disturbing to me. I can only get off four to six times in a row before I get too tired to continue and I only masturbate about twice a week.
You really should limit yourself if not for convenience then for health; I'm quite certain that you can get SOME sort of infection from that.
Try looking at something that is a severe turn-off; sick people, dead things, anything horrifying or grotesque that would easily put you out of the mood if you're that intent on pleasuring yourself for the width time that day.

Morikitsune

Jun 07, 2012

To: lostindreamz

Sorry I meant eighth, not width

Morikitsune

Jun 07, 2012

To: dancom

It's not that freaky; you're a teenage guy and as a girl of the same age I actually was ashamed of myself (something that is quite rare) before I remembered that it is perfectly normal to pleasure yourself no matter your gender, not freaky. Although I am not really experienced with guys' pleasuring habits, I believe that it is twice a week max that you could masturbate without the risk of prostate infection. So just think about that each time you don't want to get yourself off; not only does it go against your conscious wants but it could actually physically harm you! If that does nothing just think of something that is a severe turn-off; sick or dead things, that sexy girl turning around and turns out to be some sort of hideous monster... Or even how she would react to the knowledge that you're jacking off to thoughts of her. Shame yourself into stopping if you really want to.

ridethewave1986

Jun 07, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

Thanks for sharing! continue setting goals for yourself you will make it! I suggest for you buying or reading at a book store the book ''the secret'' by Rhonda Byrne it will help you focus on those goals you set and eventually you will have the relationship you want and instead of masturbation you will have sex, just believe.

now , boys and girls who are ''doing it'' : do not feel guilt, its a bad feeling it will only do damage. Just accept these urges, treat 'em like ''training sex'' , you can imagine the person you love, the girlfriend that is away, someone you're dating, have a crush, your dream partner, and feel good. If you do it than do it proud, do not have to shout to the world but be well about it. That will boost your confidence, make you confortable with your body, otherways you holding back your sexuality. Life's a game sometimes and you can play with this subject, come on it gives you pleasure, it's not that bad, if you're having problems with it just play around the question find ways to make it right for you. For example , masturbation it's similar to sex, it will consume energy, so, you must eat well and exercise, because if you were really having sex you would exercise a litle bit.
Find information about the subject in medical books, plenty, gather ideas, feel alright about it, feel normal, and find out the best way for you. We are sexual beeings , it's a part of us , so come to terms with it ! And just to leave in a lighter note, do you know married people , couples, people who are in a relationship masturbate to? Some teenagers do it in groups? This is not taboo , read about it, find someone and talk about it, love yourselves love life and enjoy the most out of IT :) God Bless Every single One who reads this :) peace!

cindy343

Jun 11, 2012

To: jewelzzcool123

i am also a girl and i have been dealing with this situation since i was 11 now am16 and nothing seems to help me.i prayed but its takes more than that,i reallt need help dealing with this situation

Marccal

Jun 13, 2012

I started masterbateing at the age of 13 I want to stop I have really bad consicus of masterbateing it is just not right

Dalubaba

Jun 14, 2012

To: cindy343

Google Female Deer Exercise. This exercise may appear like masturbation. However,, it has some therapeutic value. You may continue if you masturbation is reduced with deer exercise and enhance joy in your life.

auric489

Jun 15, 2012

There are three sure-fire ways to stop masturbation for good.

1) Complete and total castration. This means removal of the entire penis/clitoris.
2) Amputation of the hands. No hands means no masturbation.
3) A combination of the two.

The imperfect method (which many find satisfying) is to get a job, and get a wife.

Remember, masturbation is God's way of telling you that you can impregnate a woman and thus can marry.

Dalubaba

Jun 16, 2012

To: auric489

Even your drastic remedy will not help. Genitals are devices to put sperm and oum together. Libido is something mental.In the absence of clitoris and penis, you may have a famtom feeling-and libido will be there to induce you to do masturbation in some way.It is true- you did emphasize the need of stopping or controlling masturbation in an unique way.

kabza

Jun 19, 2012

Hi I started masterbating (masturbating) when I was 14 and now I'm 17 and I'm still Doing it,I've been trying to quit but I can't and this is causing me to feel depressed even though doctors say masterbating (masturbating) is healthy,Its not!!! Because it causes you to have a low self_esteem....I just want to quit please Help

pedicrab

Jun 20, 2012

To: Dalubaba

I find your information to be most applicable to my situation, as I have already started to undergo how to discipline myself for meditation. Nothing else works, nor makes sense. I will be looking more into how the Microcosmic orbit fully functions, thank you very much.

pedicrab

Jun 20, 2012

To: Dalubaba

I find your information to be most applicable to my situation, as I have already started to undergo how to discipline myself for meditation. I will be looking more into how the Microcosmic orbit fully functions, thank you very much.

Dalubaba

Jun 20, 2012

To: pedicrab

You may google male deer exercise. You may read a book entities ' Hundred days practice of King fu for good life, sex and longevity.The authors is Yudelove. You may try google. If you do not get the book, I will send you correct title and correct author's name .I am sure you are on the right path.Search and try to learn to rransmute sexual energy into mental one and mental one into spiritual one. Internet is full of different techniques. Go AHEAD

Dalubaba

Jun 20, 2012

To: pedicrab

Here is the correct title of the book on taoist yoga which teaches a gradual process to learn to circulate sexual energy around microscopic orbit.
100 DAYS TO BETTER HEALTH, GOOD SEX AND LONG LIFE. BY ERIC STEVEN YUDELOVE. Google this phrase and you will get the details about the book. Wish you best of luck.

Dalubaba

Jun 20, 2012

To: pedicrab

I have a bad habit of Checking spelling etc after I post the comment. The correct word is micro-cosmic orbit. It consist of two main meridians. One is on the spinal column on the back side and the other is in the front mid line.With special type of breathing we can circulate sexual, mental and spiritual energy around there channels
Macro cosmic (MACRO) orbit covers both legs..You may concentrate only on Micro cosmic orbit.

yayyaya

Jun 21, 2012

I have the same problem. I've masterbaited since I was 14 I'm sixteen now and after every time I do it I feel sad and mad at my self. It feels good but puts me in a depressing mood after. I want to stop masterbaiting. I hate my self for doing it and I hope this helps me.

Dalubaba

Jun 22, 2012

To: yayyaya

Do not feel guilty . M is a natural habit. If done in limit and properly, it may help you to enjoy and relax. few tips if you have to masturbate. Do not do M with dry hand. lubricate it. Relax perinatal muscle.Do not hurry.Do it when you have plenty of time. Do not over visualizer sexual scenario..Keep your bladder empty.You can do start and hold method.Start and continue till you feel like ejaculation, stop before ejaculation for some time. Do this for 3 times. This method teaches your brain to delay ejaculation.Do not M when you are sexually over excited. Deep abdominal breathing helps to control your sexual urge.

irfi

Jun 23, 2012

To: Dalubaba

hi i m 26 i hv startd mastrbation frm 15 nd i m stil doin it nw i hv problm of siemens lekage when i see somthng my sperm getout of penis wdout erection.... i dnt knw wat to do can some body help i wl b waiting...

Dalubaba

Jun 24, 2012

To: irfi

You ejaculate as you become over excited. to become calm, do deep and slow abdominal berating. this will cam you and stop you from getting excited.
you may learn more breathing excises by learning pranayam(yoga)

asmepe

Jun 24, 2012

hello
i am 15 and i have been masterbating (masturbating) since i was 12. my penis has shrunk BIG TIME. it is really small now and now that i think about it ever since i started masterbating (masturbating) i was loosing my eye sight. i was starting to get acne(something me and my entire fammily never had problems with before) and iv lost my muscel. so im a nerd? NO luckly these things happened to me in the summer and i quickly stoped it. so have faith in yourself you will get thru it.

auric489

Jun 26, 2012

To: irfi

Sperm cannot escape without erection and ejaculation. What probably happened is that you had an erection. Fluid is produced to line the urethra to ease the passage of sperm. When the erection went down, the fluid was not reabsorbed and was pushed out as the erection shrank. There may be seminal fluid there, but no sperm.

Hope this helps.

gizzmo123

Jun 26, 2012

To: faith

can someone help me im 12 and i just cant stop plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

gizzmo123

Jun 26, 2012

To: jojoclown

i have the same problem but im twelve now!!!!!!!!

Dalubaba

Jun 27, 2012

To: gizzmo123

In the first few postings of this thread, some one has suggested to apply irritation topical ointment, containing eukeliptus ( Spelling?) vix vaporub type ointment. irritation like sensation many dull the sexual urge. This may be considered counter irritation method.
Deep abdominal breathing may also help in reducing the urge.
If you have to masturbate, use tips given in this thread by earlier posting. This will help you to lessen the harm of the act.

DoDo1000

Jun 29, 2012

Its very hard to stop i dont even remember when i started. But am 17 now and I have been trying to stop for 2 years now. I tried the praying, staying around friends e.t.c. When i do it i feel like i am disrespecting women, i feel guilty. It makes me want to avoid certin friends. One time i stoped for 1 months and i felt great but then i started again. It makes my legs weak ands it makes me not want to do anything, study, talk, e.t.c.

Dalubaba

Jun 30, 2012

To: DoDo1000

it is a natural habit. It is difficult when you do not have girlfriends or wife.The best thing we can do is to do it less number of time and do it with some caution.If you do it in a natural way, you will cause least harm to your self and you will be sexually successful with your partner in future.Many methods are given in this thread.Few tips to follow. Do not do M with dry hands;lubricate it.,Do not over visualize;keep your perineum relaxed;do not hurry; keep your bladder empty; jerking and thrusting-both are important.In short do it in a manner which is closer to natural intercourse. Do not feel guilty about masturbation.Study the subject of sex diligently.Taoist revere the subject.

helper331

Jul 02, 2012

1) NEVER GIVE UP!
God will always guide us - If we let him. Prayer is a serious weapon in this battle
2) Controlling your diet (i.e. what and how much you eat) should help e.g. eat smaller amounts and avoid foods with afrodisiac effects such as onions, chocolate etc.
3) Exercise, use up that sexual energy.
4) 2nd most important from 1), is control your thoughts. When you notice your in dangerous territory stop and have back-up thoughts ready. This includes any idling on the subject i.e. even if people are talking about it, move away and avoid all thought of it. Unfortunately this takes a while to be effective and can be seen as the toughest step.
5) Helping others with this problem.
6) Finally a constructive hobby may help.

D_Q

Jul 02, 2012

Well, I'm 16 and wow... I masturbate probably once a month but when I do its bad... I just carry on ... But I'm not here for that, I'm here to say that you can suppress it by the same way you deal with a break up :) you have to keep your mind occupied!!! I learnt to play ukulele, guitar, beggining piano, I do woodcraft, electronics , dramatic arts, art, read about things that cambridge students study, blow stuff up, and any thing else I can possibly find... And you have to, as the thought enters your head, to something else!!! Don't watch a movie!!! It might stimulate it but just try counting to 10 then multiply it or do any math! It usues your frontal lobe and changes your focus and decreases your sex drive. I do share that feeling at the end... Its not... Well you just feel ashamed that you did it, I think you feel that way because you aloud something so small to over power you but hey, I'm 16 ;) use what I've given or don't :) I just want to make sure that I can give my opinion and possibly help some one :)
Best luck ;)
Damien

fowler318

Jul 04, 2012

By masturebating it reduce ur amount of inteligence N also it affect ur health
SO IT IS BETTER THT U STP NOW BEFORE IT'S TO LATE
I am 15 but am not acusing anyone am saying u tht because i'd made my own experice. It has also many side effect make a search on google u'll get ur answer......

Dalubaba

Jul 04, 2012

To: everyone

Sexual energy is a powerful energy. If you try to suppress, It will rear-up again when you are unaware.Or it may form blocks(knots) in your psyche.These knots harm you in two ways. One, it will spend more energy to keep knots intact and second it will occupy space in psyche reducing its total capacity. To stop this double drain of energy, you can learn Q.R(quieting Reflex). To do this first take one abdominal breath, then tighten each and every part of your body( it will take time to learn),then smile and relax the whole body. This will take 6 seconds only. This procedure you can do as many times as possible in a day. This will convert your sexual energy into mental energy.If you continue to practice, this relaxation will be automatic. This will work for all types of emotions.Your life will become relaxed and happy.Continue this practice at least for three months. I am sure one can transform their lives by this technique.After this you may attract many good techniques for self improvement.Worrying about side effects of masturbation is more harmful than the act.So take it lightly and try to think that you are taking up a challenge to transform your life.Do your best in a relaxed manner.

Dalubaba

Jul 12, 2012

To: Forgivenjohn1930

I am sure many person will benefit from your advice. I pray God to help them.

donwang

Jul 13, 2012

To: CDav1

if you want to stop masturbating then get a girl one that is willing to have sex when ever you want to the more you have sex the lest you will want to masturbate

XX449

Jul 18, 2012

How can I stop even if I do that I end up master batting in the night

Dalubaba

Jul 18, 2012

To: XX449

If you are fully satisfied with the sexual intercourse with your partner, you should have no urge to masturbate. Orgasm achieved with operative partner is much more satisfactory than masturbation.Orgasm derived by masturbation is just genital whereas orgasm with intercourse can be full body orgasm.
Good foreplay, stiff penis erection, delayed ejaculation,proper rubbing with her clitoris with dorsal part of your penis will provide you excellent orgasm,Then you will not enjoy masturbation.and gradually be free from the habit of masturbation.Improve quality of your intercourse.

Dalubaba

Jul 18, 2012

To: XX449

I saw your profile after my posting the answer. i see that you are female. The same is true with female. If you do a satisfactory intercourse, you will not have urge to masturbate as you are fully satiated.Try to masturbate after intercourse and you will find the world of difference between the two.

Drew88

Jul 18, 2012

Just join a good church group! Or youth group that will help you stray from these habits, and try to eliminate all access to pornography in your facinity. You can do it!

brad312

Jul 25, 2012

To: dr

im 19 and been masturbating for over 5 years im worried i might erectile dysfuction im tired of feeling miserable after doing it any recommandations

lindahand

Jul 25, 2012

Masterbation should feel good, and won't cause erectile dysfunction. It is a normal healthy way to release stress, and actually has health benefits.

If however you feel guilty about doing it for whatever reason it will hamper your enjoyment of it. May be worth going to see a counsellor about. I know it would be akward, but they've heard it all. If you go to post secondary they usually have student counselling that is free of charge.

PerfDrk64

Jul 27, 2012

I'm not sure if i am addicted or not but i have a girlfriend now which makes things complicated. I want to be intimate with her and i am really trying but i can never finish the job as easy if i was just doing it to myself alone. This frustrates me and i always seem to revert back to this habit. It is out of this frustration that i try to completely cut off from the habit of masturbation but it's easier said than done. After a couple nights in a row of being in bed with my girl and not being able to get there i just feel like the only way to relieve this is to masturbate.

HeLLJuMPER

Jul 30, 2012

To: Stoopdog

yea i started when i was 12 i did bcuz i was watching stuff b4 but never did anything. then i startde and i cant even stop. im glad that there are other ppl like me here so i can see theyre story. and stuff im 14 now and i really cant be doing this. like ill have stuuf on my fone and i wont let ppl see my phone cause im sacred they are going to see my stuff and it makes them not trust me. im just happy now that i havve a way to calm this sensation down before it takes over completely

doremi148

Aug 01, 2012

Masterbation is a stimulating habbit, that's why it's hard to stop it. Habbits that make us feel good or happy are hard to get rid off. So, becareful on what kind of habbit you may wanna fall into because they can turn into bad addiction.
I myself have hard time on this matter. I talked about this with some of my friends and they think the same way- it is a bad habbit. Here are several result after doing masterbation (masturbation) which are similar to me.
1. GUILTY- the feeling that we have lost respectect of ourself after, it could be that our conscience knows it is wrong and we did it anyway?

2. Karma- sometimes bad thing is going to happen after that. Either someone is going to embarass you or you will likely do stupid thing..do this happen sometimes?

3. weaker body and mind- masterbation (masturbation) can become an obcession and leads us to think pervertively- the more we masterbate the more we expose our body and mind to dirty pictures and they fills up our mind. As a result we constantly or will have hard time focussing and it can happen where even just seing a woman or a guy, those picture will pop up immediately and makes you fantasy dirty stuff and then suddenly you have a boner out of place. LOL. For ladies its unnoticeable but guys..oohh..think if youre in a class and the teacher calls you to stand up..

I think, this bad habbit can be overcome. Just don't stuck yourself alone in your room doing nothing. Perhaps not watching porn will also help. When you feeling like doing it go out and jogg :)

lazy1

Aug 04, 2012

To: anyone who can help

I have tje problem to and im only 13 i really want help with thia how it started..i spent the night over a friends house he asked me if i wanted to try somthing and i said what he said he wanted to masterbait with me and i asked him what that was he looked at me like i was crazy and we started doing it masterbaiting...and everysence i cant for give him im a chrishton and everytime i do it i think god is looking down on me with a frown i really want to stop any good advice i mean i have no were to turn to this is a big problem in teens i cant tell my mom or anyome else because the shame and the fear of pubishment soo plz will you help me

Dalubaba

Aug 05, 2012

To: lazy

Do not get ashamed because of masturbation. It is a natural habit. Do it sparingly. Enjoy it without any guilt.By trying to suppress the urge, you will be tense and there will be wet dreams. You may learn to control the urge by taking deep and slow abdominal breaths. this will calm you.You can divert your mind to something else.
Another alternative is to learn convert your urge(sexual energy) to mental energy.This is done by mentally circulating your awareness on microcosmic orbit.Google the phrase microcosmic orbit. you will get the procedure to do this technique.Keep yourself healthy and cheerful. You have done nothing wrong.Most of us(everybody) do it.
It would be better if you do it with lubricated hand..

mukul1305

Aug 05, 2012

To: duncanmacleod89

Thanku so much for all ur recommendations and sharing precious experiences of the life.im truly greatful for all that and now i take a vow not to masturbate from now onward.im doing it since i was of 12,it has been more than 10 years .Every time i promised myself not to do it but failed.i tried several tyms to stop myself from doing it but failed.it attracts you n u feel nice in the begining but it takes out joy from your life very gradully.when u figure it out and came to know about it's side effects later on.u find yourself in addicton or in the habit that u can't escape of it easily.you will regret it and more you regret it more you stuck in it.it's vicious cycle which needs to be broken but it requires a great wllpower .like you want to change it but you dont have enough power to change it.

Dalubaba

Aug 06, 2012

To: mukul1305

Wish you best of luck for curing yourself of masturbation. If you fail to stop it, do not get unduly perturbed. This failure is normal.Concentrate on the method enumerated as above.Some technique may help you.Take care of your general health.When you get married or get a partner, you will automatically stop masturbating. Do not hate masturbating.It is part of our life. You accept it, enjoy it, try to stop it and if you fail take it lightly..

jadegriff89

Aug 06, 2012

To: jojoclown

its normal for a lad ur age just enjoy or get a gf lol

jennajohny

Aug 12, 2012

To: cindy343

well why do you do it mostly.. i get excited seeing things... so i just look away when i can. but my friends says its just thinking about like porn or anything like that

Trev123456

Aug 31, 2012

To: jojoclown

Hi guys I'm 12, and a while ago I started doin "it" I've been trying to stop for a while now, but I cant. I just noticed now this little circle of dry skin below my belly button. I wanted to know what it was, so I went to the internet. And said that it might be a prostate problem. And it said if u have any of these symptoms then you need to go to go to the doctor immediately. 2 of them I had: burning urine and need to go to the bathroom when u don't. My parents don't know I'm doing it yet, and I'm kinda scared. It looks like the dry circle patch this is healing, but I'm not sure. Please help!!!

Pinut22

Sep 05, 2012

I have been masterbating (masturbating) around 5 to 6 times a day lately for the past week. What does anyone suggest I do???? It makes me tired and i get urges right after another. They're maybe an hour apart. I'm 15 and a guy. It feels great but It makes me too calm and less funny. It makes me a completely different person. I forget easier as well.

Dalubaba

Sep 06, 2012

To: Pinut22

You may try the following to reduce the number of masturbation and to enjoy it.This may even prepare you for a great intercourse. While masturbating when you are on the verge of ejaculation, slow down and even stop for few seconnds and continue M and again slow down or stop and continue masturbating. Do it 4 or 5 rounds and then ejaculate. In this technique, you have masturbated 4or 5 times and ejaculated once only. In this way you will not need to M 5 times a day. you may remember the following tips.Do not use dry hand, use lubricated one.Relax your perineum(muscle betwen your legs. Do not masturbate when excessively excited. Keep your bladder empty.Gradually you may decrease number of masturbation s.

iwillstop

Sep 06, 2012

To: everyone

i stared masterbaiting when i was in 8th grade I feel really stupid, I got real lazy and its really hard to stop it all started when i watched porn for the first time. I really want to stop. I will stop masterbating (masturbating)

iwillstop

Sep 06, 2012

To: everyone

i stared masterbaiting when i was in 8th grade I feel really stupid, I got real lazy and its really hard to stop it all started when i watched porn for the first time. i still watch porn. I really want to stop. I will stop masterbating (masturbating)

johnnyfive80

Sep 10, 2012

There is nothing wrong with this so called 'addiction'. I mean, sure, it is an addiction. But can't anything really turn to an addiction? Such as drinking too much soda or eating too much of that candy you love. As some said, sexual desire is most powerful and it will cloud your brain to such an extent you FEEL you have to do something to put it at bay. It's just your brain telling you to go create, spread the seed on. It will always be there, get used to it. I myself am very active with this very personal act, maybe a little too much but in the end I will never come to the conclusion that this act is indeed an abomination, or for that fact profanity for whom again?- Jesus? Come on now human beings, open your eyes and mind and realize that is a tad bit on the ridiculous side. I am not a religious person, not by far and though I will not put down anyones beliefs, I must say that theory is downright absurd. People are killing each other all around the damned world, brutally at that and you are worried about a innocent fiddle with your 'johnny five'? In the end it comes to this, there is nothing wrong or evil with the action of masturbation. Nothing at all. Too much of it could be too much, leading to such things as 'delayed ejaculation' or hell, just simply being rowdy all the damn time. If you think you over do it, don't do it so much. Fill your days with other things, working out, running. Pick up a hobby when you feel the urge and don't place it down till its gone. It's all a matter of mind power here peeps and you may not think it, but you yourself have it in you to conquer absolutely anything you want. You just need the peace of mind is all. Find it. You don't want something, leave it behind.

The end.

Ricky999

Sep 11, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

hey i also have same problem as you like same to same .
please tell me how can we or can diagnose this problem .
yes , please god help us

Anony_Mous_

Sep 14, 2012

To: whom it may concern

After reading these posts for a guys & girls.  I think the thing here is to accept you are a sensual being and to not be ashamed of your physical feelings and desires.  However; what you chose to do with those feelings and desires is up to you, if you masturbate and are trying to stop  Accept that you did it, I mean truly accept this fact, just like any addiction accepting it is a step forward.  Now after you have done this you decide what you want to do about it.  You can try to stop cold turkey (although don't be disappointed if you cannot, because it took you awhile to get where you are today and so it will take a while to get to your next goal), or you can try to reduce the number of times you masturbate.  After you masturbate, try not to put yourself down, but say ok now how I am going to move forward after this point? As some of the other post suggest, try working on some school work, video games, exercising/ playing a sport, praying, meditation, do something different than what you were just doing.  We cannot go back in time, but we can move forward, so if you are trying to quite and you lapse again~ accept the fact you masturbated and move on with the things you have to do, just try doing something different this time.  Also don't think about it too much either; just as if you were to walk in on your grandparents getting their groove on, the more you try to forget something the more you remember it and it goes into your subconscious.  Accept what you have done and move forward with your ultimate goal wanting to stop masturbating or reduce the amount you do.

  If you do  enjoy it and it doesn't make you feel bad, don't let other people change your mind, but if you do feel that it is wrong, try to change your routine, do something different.  Accept it and move onward from here.

As I am struggling with this myself, coming back here to see other people are going through the same thing is comforting too.  Just don't stop trying and I think this is all anyone, including God would want to see, you striving to improve each time.

Best of Luck!

Shamesturbating

Sep 18, 2012

To: Steven

I have exactly the same problem I try not to wank but I can't help it its addicting I was also 10 when I started I found a Porn dvd in my brothers closet and went to watch it I started masturbating after 2 years I wouldn't get hard at straight porn anymore so I tried gay porn and it was so good (don't get me wrong I am straight and I still get a hard on by just kissing a girl ) after another year the gay porn. I saw a guy sucking himself on one of the sites and it looked soooooo good so I tried it and it was good after a few weeks of practice and now I'm 14 and wanna stop I stopped for a while by buying a rosary (Catholic cross u wear around ure neck) and everytime I started having an erge to wank I held the cross in my hand said no god is watching me and started praying to god to help me stop and I stopped for a few months then my rosary got lost and the earges started again so I started again so ya :(

Shamesturbating

Sep 18, 2012

To: Steven

I have exactly the same problem I try not to wank but I can't help it its addicting I was also 10 when I started I found a Porn dvd in my brothers closet and went to watch it I started masturbating after 2 years I wouldn't get hard at straight porn anymore so I tried gay porn and it was so good (don't get me wrong I am straight and I still get a hard on by just kissing a girl ) after another year the gay porn. I saw a guy sucking himself on one of the sites and it looked soooooo good so I tried it and it was good after a few weeks of practice and now I'm 14 and wanna stop I stopped for a while by buying a rosary (Catholic cross u wear around ure neck) and everytime I started having an erge to wank I held the cross in my hand said no god is watching me and started praying to god to help me stop and I stopped for a few months then my rosary got lost and the earges started again so I started again so ya :(

gunsnrosesfan445

Sep 20, 2012

hi i need help really bad i do it like 3 times every day and it is getting hard to remember and i want to stop but cant im alone 24-7 cause i have only 2 friends one in florida and one rarely hangs out with me so im alone 24-7 and i hatemyself everytime i do it but i do not know why i cant stop

22walker

Oct 04, 2012

To: jj walker

im 40 years old and have been masterbating (masturbating) since 18. I do it about 3 times a day. I was so horny I would hump the bed at night growing up. I would also dial 900 numbers to hear the ladies talk. It cost my family alot of money and made me fill ashamed of myself. In my 20's when i was on my own I got into porn and strip clubs. I spent thousands of dollars on strippers, it's like when im in the strip club money doesnt matter. I also developed evil fetishs. I like being laughed at and tried badly. You can say i got into femdom and prostition. My penis dont get as hard as it used to. I'm trying to stop masterbating (masturbating) it has been 2 days. I have tried before, but failed very time. I guess it;s like and experiment now. How is my body react. How long can I go I will post and give you results.

elizabethrwashburn1991

Oct 05, 2012

To: steven

hey sweety im 21 (girl) and have been masterbating (masturbating) for years...about 14 years...and the only way i have been able to stop is to keep busy...exercise doesnt help when your young it keeps you feeling good and for me gives me more energy...when you get the urge try and i do mean just try to focus on something else or do something else that keeps your hands busy...also do you really really want to stop? for me it feels sooo good i dont wanna stop but i know i should...also get all magazines electronics anything out of your house that reminds you of sex or anything that arouses you...even to the point if a bananna does it remove it all and ill tell u this...cold showers will NOT help...and no materbating is not normal if you are doing it constantly or if it interfears with anything else...but u are very young and when i was that age i couldnt wait to have sex or masterbate cuz of the high sex drive...so im guessing you are getting erections during times that could be embarrasing eh? i would suggest talking to someone u really trust and help them understand everything...then go see a trusted doctor to give you some sort of medication to alliviate some of this sexual tension you seem to have...also change up your room put your bed in range of the door so if someone walks in you will be embarased if someone sees you do it...i was never caught except for once and that was hell but it might help for you...also keep your door open...then u wont be able to do it cuz of the ability of getting caught...but if that actually excites you...bring another emotion out...anger beat the crap out of a pillow yelling "no! im not going to do this again" and just keep doing it till your soo tired you just pass out...one more thing were you abused as a smaller child? i was introduced to sex way to early and thats what made me do it...i was forced to masterbate and now its the thing that turns me on the most...and if you were abused i would say seek a trusted church member or counsler or theripist...but first you will have to talk to your family first because you are a minor...and hopefully your family will be supportive....sweety i hope this helps...and ill be praying for you

Dalubaba

Oct 05, 2012

To: To Everyone

Sexual urge is a powerful energy. In stead of suppressing you can transmute it to mental energy. Abdominal breathing is the best method to loosen the force of the urge. You may visualize the urge spreading throughout the body. Or one can circulate this energy around microcosmic orbit(google). You may adopt any method which diverts your mind or cams your mind. Once in a while if you cannot control, you may masturbate with our guilt.Consider it an insignificant event.

ken012

Oct 14, 2012

To: Doctor_Pain

Thanks, man i hope it works. I am 24 years old and i started master bating since i was only 14, it feels like i am stuck with it and couldn't let go.

helpman

Oct 15, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

My heart goes out to you and I relate to your story. In this world where everyone buys into the finiteness of the human condition, we loose the connection to the gifts, talents and abilities we truly possess. For instance as an Infinite being we can ask questions that will lead us to different answers than the finite mind can give us. for instance ask; "Would an infinite being have an addiction with masturbation?" Probably not! But a finite being who has lost their choices would. Addiction is about no choice. Think about this, then start asking; "What else is possible around my addiction? or What else is possible to cure my addiction? Keep asking you will get the answers, then take some inspired actions.

whyyyyyy

Oct 17, 2012

To: Stoopdog

I had the same problem, it is not easy to stop once a habit. I'm with you bro. I wish I had never had tried it.

Fahaia

Oct 18, 2012

Try to be busy all the day. Get out and think different things.

jaredz

Oct 20, 2012

To: Stoopdog

i feel same why i get a boner like all the time and carnt stop master bating im 14

Dalubaba

Oct 21, 2012

To: helpman

Your answer is philosophical .It can solve all problems of life. Asking such evolutionary question can transform anyone's life.You deserve gratitude from the recipient.Congrats

dman113

Oct 21, 2012

im a 14 year old boy and i cant stop masterbating (masturbating)... i really want to stop. i started masterbating (masturbating) at 12 years old. i try to stop masterbating (masturbating) to porn but its hard..i cant stop masterbating (masturbating) naturally(without porn) either. I keep promising to myself and god that i'll never masterbate again but i keep failing. im a basketball player and i spend most of the day in school and playing b-ball but when im trying to fall asleep or home alone i masterbate ... . im 5'11 and 150 pounds and pretty weak. i also heard masterbating (masturbating) stops growth,makes sense since i only grew 1 inch this past year. i also have low self esteem and i have trouble talking to girls... i also hzve a bunch of hot girls in alot of my classes so i always get the urge. im failing most of my classes..plz help. .___.

Happydays1984

Oct 22, 2012

To: godhelpusall999

You are way too hard on your self, I'm 28 from Scotland. Thought I would look
at this site because I feel I masturbate too much. Never really thought of it as
a problem before...think i'm just at that age where I want to feel more grown up.

There is nothing wrong with masturbating, especially at your age, being at
college. Being at college is reason enough to be super sexually motivated.

Plus it's not sad that you haven't met the right girl yet. I know it's easier said
than done but you really just need to focus on your self, even if your quietly
confident when your out the girls will still notice your confidence.
Acting natural and not trying to hard to make a conversation work is a must
as well. Hope this helps. Good luck buddy.

Leongoldman

Oct 25, 2012

To: Every body

Listen every body!!!! I think we have to do our best to stop doing this and i`m sure we CAN ... From now on let`s promise to each other to be strong and stop this very bad habit and as I told you WE CAN because THE GOD IS WITH US . god bless you!

frankbee

Oct 28, 2012

To: help me

i stated masterbation (masturbation) when i was 14 and now am 23 yrs. a friend of mine tought me when we were bathing together to rub my hands with my penis and since from that when i try i couldnt stop it agian. i i tried to stop it for more than two months but it gets worse to start again. someone helm me.

zane13545

Oct 29, 2012

To: Stoopdog

yo i am 15 to and it is quite natral to masterbait your hormones are spiking so you will want to jerk it it is fine and proven to be helthy as 4 religion i can not tell you what to think but it is a safe and natral thing to do........have fun!!!!

Leongoldman

Nov 01, 2012

To: Every body PLEASE LISTEN

Hi I think nowadays it`s very difficult to prevent wathching bad thing that cause si.............I mean we should trying very hard an the best way is to be nearer to God day by day and if we promise to each other their become a force that makes us stronger to be good AND I BEG YOU ALL TO BE STRONGER

Leongoldman

Nov 06, 2012

To: Every body

Pkeasebe STRONG

Pickles900

Nov 07, 2012

I started when I was 15 and now 19 and still doing it how do I stop plz help me

Xiag

Nov 19, 2012

Hi I also have this problem, and iv also tried so hard to stop and iv also used the certain consequence thing to, but then yet again I find myself in the same place, I am now 16 years of age, in the 11th grade and find women falling all oven me, but yet I still wank, HELP!!!! Please!!!!!!

Hangko

Nov 20, 2012

To: Jojoclown

Hey man just relax and start meditating every 3 time a day.YOUR problem will get solved.

Helpergirl395

Nov 23, 2012

To: jojoclown

Masturbating, is a simple pleasure to the human being. IT is only natural but at the same time it isn't it is natural because the human body needs its pleasures even if you don't want to admit it it's because you stressed, looking for pleasure, or sexually frustrated. To stop I suggest every time you think about it give 5 cents to charity. Every to you have an urge 50 cent and if you do it 5$. I hope this helps

Dalubaba

Nov 24, 2012

To: all

Operative word is self-discipline .whatever we can do discipline over self is the tool to stop masturbation. If your priority or concern for money the above method may work.
Doing slow,deep abdominal may help the urge , add counting back(breath].. ward.THIS will increase your will power. one can even start counting heart beats .
Other constructive way to upgrade sexual energy to mental energy is to circulate your sexual energy around microcosmic orbit.[Goo gal]

Gamer22

Nov 25, 2012

Im 16 years old and i dint know how to stop my self frim masturbaitingvits really addicting and i want it to stop but i cant.... And one question does masturbaiting causes your pennis to not grow or not make it any bigger... Please help

Dalubaba

Nov 26, 2012

To: Gamer22

Masturbation has no negative effect on growth of penis.Do not masturbate excessively.

sab_2010

Dec 16, 2012

i am 16 now..i started masterbating (masturbating) when i was 13..i did it for 2 months and stopped it after my grandpa died..then i didnt masterbate for one and a half year...my life was going well and i even started to get good grades...i once again started to masterbate at 15 and continue it till this day....i am now a dull student with bad grades..i want to become a gentle man when i grow up..i dont want to become a womaniser..somebody please save me....

123Jimmy123

Dec 16, 2012

To: ANY ONE

I am 14 years old now and I started to masterbait when I was 12 i heard about masterbaiting when these 2 guys were talking about it so I went home and I was sooooo hot so i went in my swimming pool and I looked down and I had a erection and I was touching my self after that white stuff came out I was soooo surprised and I can't beilef it I was guilty I told my self this is impossible I am only 12 years old I can't masterbait. PLZ some one help STOP my addiction

123Jimmy123

Dec 16, 2012

To: SOME ONE

I am 14 years old now and I started to masterbait when I was 12 i heard about masterbaiting when these 2 guys were talking about it so I went home and I was sooooo hot so i went in my swimming pool and I looked down and I had a erection and I was touching my self after that white stuff came out I was soooo surprised and I can't beilef it I was guilty I told my self this is impossible I am only 12 years old I can't masterbait. PLZ some one help STOP my addiction

Iphigeneia

Dec 29, 2012

Hi.
"Pornostar"+Make love to her= Release.

angelmejia07

Jan 02, 2013

I constantly masterbait I want to stop I just don't know how help me please.

Dalubaba

Jan 03, 2013

To: 123Jimmy123

yes It is masturbation. If you are naturally excited you may do masturbation It is a natural habit.If you do it moderately and do not get guilty about it , it will not harm you.Your age is right age. Do not worry. Keep your general heath good by exercise and good diet..

Dalubaba

Jan 03, 2013

To: angelmejia07

Divert your mind to other activities. If you are a male, there are many postins advising how to stop masturbation. Deep, slow breathing can stop the urge to masturbate.
visit superbrain youga and learn the technique. It is a simple exercise, to brighten your mind and increase you r will power. do this exercise any time you feel uneasy or excited. It may work to improve your health also.

Dalubaba

Jan 03, 2013

To: angelmejia07

I am pasting a reply given by a community member. It may give you some idea.
Guilt, all you need to tell yourself is tht masturbation is a symptom and u need to treat it.
I have copy pasted a few methods u can use. Try them.
And most importantly discuss the problem with ur loved ones.
One more technique which has had 100% results fr me is keep try to counsel people on sites like these, it will change u within and that is the reason why i am investing so much of energy explaining it to u cause in the end its me sending messages to my subconscious. Its ******* unbelievable i am telling u .. try to do it .. i have just realized its power a week back ....best of luck

Try applying eucalyptus oil or a vapor rub cream, menthol based cream etc to Your 'device' whenever you feel like masturbating, it will leave the little monster numb and all you will feel is cold down there :). It has a psychological impact in the long run- something called 'counter-conditioning' through aversive stimulus. Since masturbation becomes a habit, so it acts through 'Conditioning'.
I am a medicine graduate and at present studying psychology out of interest.
I haven't really researched on this topic but this is my own little remedy after a little bit of brain storming and applied knowledge in order to get rid of this habit :P
I hope it proves to be helpful too all in need !
Soy bean, peppermint and mint also decrease libido .. so try these methods and i am sure u will be free from this habit soon ..
I have visited some Islamic sites which have recommended a few of these methods.
But I think the Aversive counter conditioning is the best by applying any mentholated topical cream.
And next time u masturbate, imagine a tub full of worms and urself in that tub while masturbating ... another strong Aversive Counter Conditioning method.
But NOTE that you  have to fellow this method/routine  for over a good time period 15-30 days ... to really reap the benefits ...
Habits die hard my friend !
Licocaine is an anesthetic agent. It may numb the glans (glands) or even female genitals. Apply small amount of cream.

abby70

Jan 14, 2013

1 stop feeling guilty it's normal. when you feal guilty it causes you stress which in turn makes u look for a fix that fix being masturbation/porn which starts the cycle all over again.

2 if you are watching porn conquer that addiction first it's impossible to stop masturbating if you watch porn. try reading a dirty story when u feel the urge to watch porn its an easier habit to stop.

3. tell someone about your problem dealing with an addiction on your own is probably impossible.

4. download a program that tells someone u trust every time u watch porn and what u watch.

5. fill your day with activities and make a schedule make sure your never at home by your self.

6. keep a journal of when u masturbate where u do it and what thoughts or situations you have b4 hand.

7 . exercise exercise exercise

8. pray meditate and do community service

9. be easy on your self and set realistic goals

10.ease off slowly first to once a day then to five times a week then 4 etc.

11. try hypnotherapy. go to you tube and type in " hypnotherapy for porn addiction" listen to it every night.

12. get a girlfriend.

13. start controlling what you think (this is hard, try controlling what you think for a half hour b4 u go to bed then an hour etc.)

14. replace masturbating with a hoby or two.

15. deal with any anxiety or depression issues.

16. someone mentioned a lotion to put on when u feel the urge do some research and buy the lotion.

17. remember never feel guilty about it it doesn't help.

18. don't give up, you can and will succeed.

19. Remember your not alone.

20. do all of the above and more. and u will get there I promise.

Adamtaitambou

Jan 14, 2013

well everyone stopping is not an option I should know because a guy I'd being a guy and well if us guys stop we would have boners everywhere. So either get a girlfriend or just do it once a day no harm in that but when.your afraid of ur boner showing ... wear underpants. seems to do the trick

vbfever

Jan 31, 2013

To: doctor_pain

hi... masturbating is letting me down .. i don't know how to deal with it ?
the most effective reason which makes me to do it . is the attraction of girls . their body . really temptation me .. i cant get rid of this bad habit ..please tell me what should i do to stop doing it ..?

niki245

Jan 31, 2013

hi please help with my problems my sister is 19 years old and she just tells that she is never had masterbate i want to know will it be problem for her we live in muslim country she is virgin n never had sex please help

niki245

Jan 31, 2013

To: Dalubaba

Hi i need ur help im married am 28 years old n got married 4 years ago when im having sex i can not feel orgasm or any ather feeling from vagina but my husband musterbeting me sometimes i feel orgasm its problem 4 me since i got married/ i m muslim n never had sex before marrige n can not share my problem to someone/i have one son thank u please reply as soon as possible

Dalubaba

Feb 01, 2013

To: niki245

To rule our structural or medical problem, you must consult gynecologist. There can be hormonal imbalance. If there problems are ruled out, you may do some exercise like female deer exercise, or kegel exercise. you should stimulate clitoris. If you are on top, You may adjust in such a way that your clitoris is rubbing with dorsal part of your husbands penis. Or try to contract your viaginal muscles during intercourse. to make them flexible, you may do regular exercises like kegel. Google kegel, to know details.

sirwhite

Feb 03, 2013

To: jojoclown

Believe me, no matter what advice you get, you wont stop masturbating, unless there is a spiritual intervention. This is because even before you Masturbate physically, the whole thing has already been plannëd in the spirit. There is a demon causing.that. Notice that, before you masturbate, its like someone reminds you within. I really dnt know what you believe in, but consider this, and you will get results. +2348167232281

corozencha

Mar 01, 2013

To: every one

There is one thing to avoid from masterbating (masturbating) think of a scary movie NOT attractive ladies>>>>>>

inneed17

Mar 06, 2013

To: Lonelyguy13

keep strong man no matter what don't give up and ignore what every one else is telling you. "I can do everything through Him who gives me strength" Pilippians 4:13

urfriend4ever

Mar 09, 2013

To: dancom

Masterbate is better to run behind a male or female 4 sex. If u want to leave just have deep believe on god. Just imagine he is seeing u. Always hv quick bath, never spend time in bathroom. Always keep in mind that discharge content is highly protenious so you will get weak and ill. Because protein is essential for power and immunity

urfriend4ever

Mar 09, 2013

To: jojoclown

Masterbate is better to run behind a male or female 4 sex. If u want to leave just have deep believe on god. Just imagine he is seeing u. Always hv quick bath, never spend time in bathroom. Always keep in mind that discharge content is highly protenious so you will get weak and ill. Because protein is essential for power and immunity

yashtech

Mar 10, 2013

To: all

I am 11th class student. I started this habit last year and it was unintentional. Nowadays, I am not able to concentrate on my studies due to it. I control my feeling upto 1 week. Then, I do it 2-3 times for a day and again promise myself not to do it. My main worry is that even if I see a girl on TV or in class, the urge starts. Plz help me.

corozencha

Mar 11, 2013

To: yashtech

I have the same problem as you but im in year 13 right now i start masterbate when i was year 10 i think and it feelsgood in that time.but i didnt know that its hard to stop until last year.So right now i start to manage it. when the urges start to come i think to myself WHAT IF this is the last sperm left in my body and i am never going to have children in the future, never have someone to look after me when im getting old, AND THEN later on it gone straight away the urge feeling vanished.I HOPE IT WILL WORK FOR YOU ALL. ALWAYS SAVE THE LAST ONE FOR THE FUTURE.

yashtech

Mar 12, 2013

To: corozencha

How many months does it take to completely get out of this addiction??

corozencha

Mar 12, 2013

To: yashtech

It depends on how strong you denied the urge feeling.......if you are strong enough then it might take 2 to 3 weeks.all you have to do is deny it..and start thinking about the future...you know what i mean ...save the last one :)

yashtech

Mar 12, 2013

To: corozencha

One Last Question : What should I do if it comes out in nightfall?? I feel guilty even more after that and give up my control after nightfall.Plz advice on that.

Dalubaba

Mar 12, 2013

To: Every one

To avoid masturbation, start abdominal breathing, slow and deep. This will relieve you tension and calms your mind. Google microcosmic orbit. when you are sexually excited, circulate your awareness around the microcosmic orbit. this will convert your sexual energy into mental energy.. This technique can change your life by upgrading your sexual energy.

SmithWood

Mar 12, 2013

To: Doctor_Pain

The simplest way to end would be to try out different hobbies and interests and check out because difficult that you can to pay attention to individuals hobbies and never masturbating

mindtrap_fakefortune

Apr 05, 2013

To: Lonelyguy13

yo brother I could help I do not just believe in god but everytime I do this I feel my connection with the all mighty gets further and further and further till at one point I dont feel one at all, the best thing you can do is follow your heart brother I dont want to inflict my religion on you and to be honest I was not the best believer I swear knowing surely that in the holy book it speaks of the devils whisper and masking of the consiquences that come with this along with other sin. I would love for you to know the history behind my religion and how to believe but the truth is that i don't even know it myself I am praying every day asking god to guide me and to forgive me for my wrongs but in the end I still feel empty inside like something is hiding in my head telling me that I am bad and come to thing of it when I was younger my mom used to tell me "Samir when you get older you will make mistakes and that is normal but then you will get to an age where there will be A devil who comes to you at certain times when you are most vulnarible and will tell you, that you have sinned so many times there is no point in trying anymore give up now and become a sinner only then you will see for yourself what you have become if not you cannot become A good man, knowing that you will only be punished more severely by listening", brother dont bother yourself asking people on the internet because chances are they are on the same boat as me but tbh the solution is in you. I was watching these hot *** babes ******* each other then I scrolled down and saw these hotter ones on the beach kissing licking n all then i looked at the beach and it interested me more then they! no lie and I really took A second and thought before reaching down to grab it (usually you do the useless thinking after you ejaculate right)?, well this time I thought and thought and thought it came to me, il tell you what i thought it can help you brother, think of those two sluts you are watching and then i started thinking, for them this is probly paradise but when you think really about what paradise could be after you've strive'd all of your life working only towards this main goal you will really start to wonder of how much ******** that pixelated garbage is compared to what you can receive as A reward instead of A shirt full of **** YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?! Cmon brother pick up your pants (literally) hahahaha and be A man ( thats what I was actually saying in the kitchen after my minor masterbation (masturbation) session without porno then the devil came back and started that whisper I was tellign you about quite strange huh how I actually remember what my mom told me and went through in detail how its actually true? thats what hit me man the truth is inside you own soul the deep down truth is that the more you think think think bout doing something and giving yourself examples of how it will benifit you, you'll end up going ahead and doing it but the only thing benifiting is the devil dragging more people down to hell cuz in my religion wow this is all comin back to me brother i swear to god, I remember that every living thing was demanded to bow down to gods most honored creation "Man" ( Adam ) the only thing that did not bow was shaytaan ( satan in english ) when god asked saytan why do you not bow? satan replied, "because! I am made of sparkless fire, he is made of mear clay, I will not bow down to him!" So god ordered the angels but before satan was going to be bannished and sent to the hell fire satan yelled "WAIT! give me A chance unil the end of time to show you that your creation ( man ) is unfaithful to their creator". So god the all knowing said very well how ever many humans you drag on your side will follow you into the depths of hell on the day of judgement. man think about this I was talking to you about being in A similar problem but my problem was the lack of belief in my faith thankfullyhe gifted me with A very very serious case of mega memory hahaha, and the ability to read A situation satan is trying to mask with his illusion of false happiness (committing sin) and never forget you felt what its like to jerk its so temporary and not worth it. Think about it in my shoes I am here days and days fighting against my dark side telling myself its going to be rewarding in the end and then giving in to the weak satanic whisper that is the devil or his minions he sends to do his dirty work, do you know how depressing it is going to sleep, especially because I sleep on my mothers bed?.... READ THIS TELL ME IF YOU FEEL BETTER ADD ME ON YOUTUBE 321BOOMDEAD AND IF YOU WANT TAKE A LOOK AT WHAT THESE "PEOPLE" HAVE BEEN DOING TO MY BELOVED BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN UNDEVELOPED COUNTRIES by going on my watched vids OK? HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR THE BOTH OF US MAN BECAUSE I WANT THE BEST FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU OUT THERE SEEKING THE TRUTH AND TRYING TO FIND WHAT SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE TRIED TO CONCEAL. GOODNIGHT MAN HOPE I CAN BE OF FURTHER ASSISTANCE TO YOU :) and btw my condolence to your loved one and her death maybe the further help will benefit the both of us. PEACE ! :)

ahill627

Apr 10, 2013

To: goingbig

Masturbation is a sin, your using your body in a way God did not intend. The devil uses this habit as a vice in alot of peoples lives and tries to make them feel like the lowest of low people, when your practice a bad habit like this satan can use it as power to get you to act upon something else, he will just keep chipping at your shoulder! Stop it at once! Yes God intended for us to have sex with those we are married too so we can share love with one another and also have beautiful children, but if you just do it with some girl or guy, you are using your body in an unholy way which is wrong in the eyes of our Lord. The bad thing is that every movie or show these days encourages sex, masturbation and the whole nine yards but that is what the devil uses to first tempt you and get you started, before you know it your addicted! I know, I struggle with it all to this day and no I am not proud of myself, I have tried but not hard enough! If you do it once thats all it takes to get addicted because of the feeling of it all. I have no real advice to give you except pray about it and read the word, if you want you can seek professional christian help, maybe talk to your pastor or if you don;t go to church start going now, its life changing! Yes we all have our problems and habits but God is bigger than all of it and I believe I am going to change for good with his help so you all should too! Don't settle for less in this life, strive to be great and witness for God almighty!

Dalubaba

Apr 11, 2013

To: Tp every one.

Considering masturbation as vice and sin is a myth.It is purely a physical and physiological phenomena.It is a natural habit.If you do it in excess,it may create some bodily disorder. If it is done as per your natural capacity and in a proper way, you may keep balance between your physical and psychological needs.Feeling guilty is more harmful than the actual act.
Sexual energy is a most powerful energy. It can be converted into mental and spiritual energy. If you are positive toward your life you can lean about sex,your physical needs and how to create balance in your life.Search in webs, about sex. You will find number of suggestions from our member NOHARD to come out of your imagined problem. Simple method to convert the sexual energy is to breath deep and slow abdominal breath. You may Google microcosmic orbit and learn about it and practice. You can circulate your urge around this orbit. this will calm you and energy will be converted to mental energy and then to spiritual energy. there are number of methods one can learn for sexual energy.Masturbation is not a sin.If masturbation is sin then breathing is also a sin as you kill many bacteria while breathing.The monks who take vow of celibacy, they use meditation and menay breathing and mental exercises to control ane convert their sexual energy to spiritual energy. You cannot suprerss any energy. you can convert it.

Crotalus77

May 12, 2013

Im 13 and i have been masterbating (masturbating) for 1 year about 4 times a week can some one help me on how to stop i hear about how it can make your mind ill and make it harder consentrating i used to be a strait A student and now im trying to keep a C please some one help i wana go back to normal

Dalubaba

May 13, 2013

To: Crotalus77

One member is trying cold and hot alternate bath of penis. Start with cold water for 3 minutes and hot water for 2 minutes. Do it 5 times a day. Google Hot/cold water penis bath. You will find details. This is a natural habit. If you masturbate in limit and take care of your health and do some easy breating exercise, you can free yourself , you can stop or reduce masturbation.

mks512

May 18, 2013

To: Dalubaba

dear sir i m sandesh from Nepal n i m too irrated about fro masturbating . I cant stop it . When i see hot girl n suddenly i want to sex . i wil musturbate only i can get relax other wise i can,t . plz hel me sir

Dalubaba

May 19, 2013

To: mindtrap_fakefortune

Try the above method. or you may apply vix vaporub . It will numb your penis for some time till you get complete control on your self. You may learn to circulate sexual urge on microcosmic orbit. Google microcosmic orbit for details.

Dalubaba

May 20, 2013

To: mindtrap_fakefortune

A healthy way to control sexual urge is to take slow and deep breath and exhale slowly scanning your whole body. Or you may circulate your breath around you microcosmic orbit.Google the word microcosmic orbit. Do as per details given in the website.

kmommy2b

23 hours

Dont cover it up or try to hide it.. wanting to feel sexual even if it is masturbation is natural.. embrace it

astrol64

21 hours

To: ahill627

Are you kidding me??? Masturbation is a normal sexual release! If he does that instead of hunting for a partner, I'd say let him! This way he will not have to rely on a woman, plus when he does have sex with someone special, he can take his time! If he waits for a long time for release, then he will ejaculate faster and that could be very unsatisfying for the woman he wants to please!