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penis size
Im a 39 yr old male married 10 yrs with 2 kids...sex has drastically decreased from twice month to once ever few months..im 6'4 225 lbs..muscular..into bodybuilding..however when i asked my wife why she has no desire..she at first was hesitant but confessed that im very small "down there" we joked over the years about it..but never realized it was an "issue" its around 3 inches fully erect..and on the thin side...she had started using a dildo years ago which i thought was just to "spice" things up..and has totally gotten used to using it full time..(its 9.5 inches and thick) and when i asked if she prefers the dildo or mine she confessed the dildo...she has said that there are times where she barely can tell if im inside her when we do it..and have never been able to make her orgasm..should i be mad that she s first telling me this..or was she right to tell me the truth?
frank
frank
Hmm..
Something seems to be lacking in some of the responses?
Does she want to fix the problem? If so....?
On her part switch to toys with a smaller girth, maybe vaginal weights, kiegels, and/or ben wa balls.
On your part no steroids if in use, kiegels, and exercises to increase stamina etc. Some positions also give the feel of more girth.
What type of physical shape is she in though? Well toned? that can make a difference to.
Something seems to be lacking in some of the responses?
Does she want to fix the problem? If so....?
On her part switch to toys with a smaller girth, maybe vaginal weights, kiegels, and/or ben wa balls.
On your part no steroids if in use, kiegels, and exercises to increase stamina etc. Some positions also give the feel of more girth.
What type of physical shape is she in though? Well toned? that can make a difference to.
If you dont mind me saying try anal, the anal hole is much tighter than the vagina and that way you will both get pleasure. Use a condom, to avoid the nastyness
I do not have more knowledge, But I will give u complete solution as I know.
Frist-The main points to satisfy a women is timing of intercourse.(stamina)
Second-The tightness of penis.(Should be tight like "IRON"
Improve these things.Ladies only frist two inches area of vegina sensitives.Left is useless.They get their orgasm in this two inches not by extra.
It proves that 2 inches or more than this can reach her at orgasm.But u have 3 inches.I am not saying that it will satisfy her.But she will get orgasm.
Use your penis to touch her clitors on the upper side of vegina.That is a point to get orgasm for a ladies.Your focus shouls be reach up to her orgasm.
I will write more in next messge...
Frist-The main points to satisfy a women is timing of intercourse.(stamina)
Second-The tightness of penis.(Should be tight like "IRON"
Improve these things.Ladies only frist two inches area of vegina sensitives.Left is useless.They get their orgasm in this two inches not by extra.
It proves that 2 inches or more than this can reach her at orgasm.But u have 3 inches.I am not saying that it will satisfy her.But she will get orgasm.
Use your penis to touch her clitors on the upper side of vegina.That is a point to get orgasm for a ladies.Your focus shouls be reach up to her orgasm.
I will write more in next messge...
It's hard to get mad at her for telling you the truth when, after all, you DID ask her. You didn't get the answer you wanted though.
Do you give your wife oral sex? most women enjoy that and some prefer it over intercourse. Perhaps you can incorporate the dildo into your lovemaking more? Or use it while you're going down on her. As someone else said maybe if you spice things up, take your time, be sensual, act out some fantasies for her then she'll get more into it and want it more often. There's also different positions you can try or different settings like outdoors, bathtub, floor, etc that might help enhance the experience and make it more enjoyable for her. Get her more into the moment, as it were. However, If she likes the thick, 9.5 dildo then I'm sorry to say there's probably not much change to your technique or position thats going to sway her away from it. But if you can connect with her on a more personal, sensual, emotional level... if you increase your foreplay and maybe cater to her needs and desires more maybe she'll enjoy your sexual contact more than she has been.
There's not much you can really do to change the size of your penis although there are a few options. I know you didn't ask this but just in case you're thinking about it... Firstly you should probably discard all the pumps and pills you see advertised in magazines or on the internet. These things don't work or offer only a very slight and/or temporary change in anything. I suppose they're worth trying but I wouldn't hold out any great hopes. If there was a legitimate product among these then trust me you'd know about it already as would EVERY other guy in the world. :-)
There are legitimate surgeries you can do to make yourself longer and thicker but thats for a doctor to discuss with you and honestly, from what I hear, you're not going to gain much more than an inch in length and an inch around.
Bottom line: This is what God gave ya and presumeably she knew that when she married you so it wasn't a deal breaker for her. As I said your best bet is probably enhancing your sex life and making it more enjoyable for her. If you do that then I'll bet you'll start having sex more often.
Do you give your wife oral sex? most women enjoy that and some prefer it over intercourse. Perhaps you can incorporate the dildo into your lovemaking more? Or use it while you're going down on her. As someone else said maybe if you spice things up, take your time, be sensual, act out some fantasies for her then she'll get more into it and want it more often. There's also different positions you can try or different settings like outdoors, bathtub, floor, etc that might help enhance the experience and make it more enjoyable for her. Get her more into the moment, as it were. However, If she likes the thick, 9.5 dildo then I'm sorry to say there's probably not much change to your technique or position thats going to sway her away from it. But if you can connect with her on a more personal, sensual, emotional level... if you increase your foreplay and maybe cater to her needs and desires more maybe she'll enjoy your sexual contact more than she has been.
There's not much you can really do to change the size of your penis although there are a few options. I know you didn't ask this but just in case you're thinking about it... Firstly you should probably discard all the pumps and pills you see advertised in magazines or on the internet. These things don't work or offer only a very slight and/or temporary change in anything. I suppose they're worth trying but I wouldn't hold out any great hopes. If there was a legitimate product among these then trust me you'd know about it already as would EVERY other guy in the world. :-)
There are legitimate surgeries you can do to make yourself longer and thicker but thats for a doctor to discuss with you and honestly, from what I hear, you're not going to gain much more than an inch in length and an inch around.
Bottom line: This is what God gave ya and presumeably she knew that when she married you so it wasn't a deal breaker for her. As I said your best bet is probably enhancing your sex life and making it more enjoyable for her. If you do that then I'll bet you'll start having sex more often.
correction:
last sentence words in the first paragraph should read, I "wouldn't" feel too put off.
last sentence words in the first paragraph should read, I "wouldn't" feel too put off.
We all (men and women) have our preferences. I, personally, prefer a smaller penis because I'm a small (tight) woman; and a smaller penis just seems to be an overall better "fit" for vaginal intercourse as well as oral sex. Plus, I find a large penis to be a bit... overwhelming. However, some women like a larger penis. Some men like a tight vagina... etc. As long as these are just noted preferences; and, not put downs on one's character, I would feel too put off.
Besides, I don't think that there's any any man, no matter how sexually adept and anatomically endowed he is, who can realistically compete with the workings of a dildo and/ or a vibrator.
Besides, I don't think that there's any any man, no matter how sexually adept and anatomically endowed he is, who can realistically compete with the workings of a dildo and/ or a vibrator.
Frank Bro! I am much younger to advice u in this matter. But I think women like sensuality. I think if you are slow and gentle and could tease her to be really madly wanting to have the penetration, then the size won't really matter. The women hole is too small to be wanting for a very large or thick penis. The other thing which you can try for your self-confidence is some massage oil which comes in market (at least, in Indian markets) which will make ur penis thick and larger :) But that's only a psychological thing. Wish you luck in your married life :)
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