I've been married to my husband for 1 year, but we've been dating for over 5 years. Ever since I met his brother I was attracted to him some-what...he and my husband look very similar...but over the past 5 years I've been dealing with "lusting" after my brother in law...I feel so terrible about doing this and just keep hoping it'll go away. It's not a constant feeling...it'll come and go and vary in intensity. I mainly have dreams about him...very explicit dreams that stick with me for a while and quite honestly, make me just want to just jump my brother in law. I love my husband so much...he's my world. I wonder if I have these feelings towards my brother in law because my husband and I's sex life isn't very good. He suffers with bipolar 2, depression, BPD, and anxiety. I suffer with depression, very low self-esteem, and am over-weight. He doesn't work, but I work full-time Monday-Friday and am very tired throughout the week. We have sex maybe once a month. Sex with my husband isn't the greatest (but I would never dare to admit this to him). He's unable to ejaculate unless he masturbates himself. So sex usually consist of us having intercourse for a while then him masturbating himself until ha can ejaculate which usually takes 20 minutes in itself. Sometimes he gets flaccid during sex, and sometimes he can't ejaculate at all. I can only orgasm using a toy/vibrator of some sort...I wish I could orgasm with just him but I try and try and I just can't and I feel terrible about that. It's all a mess really...I want to stop wanting to have sex with my brother in law, stop dreaming about him, and I want the sex my husband and I have to be better...but I just don't know what to do.