Nervous

[111chicky]

Me and my new boyfriend are starting to get physical , and he has'nt done it with many girl's but he knows alot of thing's and knows when it's good ,
i know he's going to expect me to go ontop
but i'm really nervous about that because i'm not quite comfortable with me ontop , because i'm scared of the way i look ontop or when to go fast or when to go slow .

[krista182]

If you're nervous then don't do it.You have all the time in the world to become more comfortable with the idea. It's no fun to rush into something, feel horrible doing it, and to regret it later. If he loves you, he won't push you or make you feel like you have to. It'll just happen naturally.

[111chicky]

He does'nt say it in a weird way , he just thinks it's silly that i would worry aboiut that because he says i'm beautiful no matter what . And he said he would help me out , but like yea i'm still nervous yess i know what you mean , but i guess i did word it wrong because he's not like that. he's only slept with one girl before me and stuff.

[grendslori]

I really hate to say this, but the fact that your boyfriend thinks it's silly speaks of his immaturity. A man listens to his lady's fears and tries hard to help her to feel better about the sexual experience. It is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do; it is not silly at all. The things your boyfriend is saying and doing all have to do with his raging hormones, it has nothing to do with him "loving you". You have to understand that. He wants to get you into bed, that's part of being a boy at his age and that is perfectly normal for him. It doesn't occur to him that this is an adult activity designed to get you pregnant; that can happen and if it does, he will more than likely split and move on to the next girl. You need to really consider what you are doing here. Do you want to become pregnant? How will you tell your parents you are pregnant and who are you expecting will pay the thousands of dollars to help raise this baby? Your parents? They won't be happy about this at all. STDs are rampent in teens, literally, if there are several couples engaging in sex. STDs can affect the life of the future unborn children of those teens. Getting a quick cure from an antibiotic, doesn't cure the future affects. No one on here can tell you what to do, hopefully, we can help you to consider things that perhaps you haven't considered. Take care    

[111chicky]

Thanks alot , and yeaa we're close and I have mentioned it to him but he think's it's silly . I'm just not sure of what to do when i'm on top also . it's confusing to explain.

[AdenaLoss]

I agree with what shyteen said. The nervousness is normal and worrying about how you look, especially on top, can make it difficult to relax. If you want to be physical, only if YOU want to, then ease into things. Yeah sex is great and all, but physical attention is darn good too. I am assuming you and your bf are close and can talk freely about each others worries, and if so, then maybe consider mentioning this to him. But only if you're comfortable obviously.