Sorry hot and bothered. Anyway you are posting this in teen health so assuming that you and your proposed partner are of similar ages. Let her make most of the moves and you should attempt to be a gentleman and not push the envelope by making first moves.
what do you mean by holt and bothered
there are a myriad of things most of which if you try to use will at that age be misread. Why not just let her tell you when you have her holt and bothered?