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Im 14

Me & my friend had sex for the first time (my first time) & now I'm really worried I'm pregnant. I know I'm really young & that is really freaking me out right now :(
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Did you use protection?
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The best thing to do is to wait and see if u get ur period. Just keep calm. Talk to your mom or gaurdian. It will be a hard talk but if u are mature enough to be having sex you can have this talk. I dont mean yo sound rude hut if you get out of his without being pregnant dont do it again or ge birth control. To get birth control u do need parental consent so either way you have to tell your mom. Ifyou dont then this will just keep happening to you.
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Anyways....
Don't worry sweetie, this the first of many months where you will worry about starting your period. Its okay.  Were you protected? Is their anyone you could talk to about getting birth control? Your mom, an older sibling, cousin, aunt?  Its very important to get on birth control when you decide to become sexually active.
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I lost my virginity at 14 and had a baby at and went with adoption cause I was too young. I'm not saying its right but don't listen to anyone put you down. Use condoms though that would be a good idea and no matter what happens you will get past this. Just pray your not and be safe next time.
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I'm 20 now just thought I'd add that. Good luck :)
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Please remember that we are a support site and the member asked for help in this situation.  

Thanks!

Steph
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It sonds like this poster is getting great advice to me. People are being supportive on top of giving her the facts.
I wish she would come back to this forum so we know how things went.
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I meant "sounds".
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People were rude and it got deleted. But I agree I want to hear her response
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Hey! Sort it took so long :/
Anyways, i got two pregancy tests but its still too early to take them. So i got to wait a little while. I got my period super early this month like by 10 days & that kind of worries me too. I just dont hve the guts to tell my mom. She would MURDER me. & I have my older sister, Anna, that helps me out immensely & i an so thankful for her. The dad helps me feel better but it doesnt always work :( He doesn't really like to talk about it. Im just super scared that I am pregnant because on my most fertile day this month, was the exact day that he didnt use protection. I tried to get birth control with Anna, but I didnt have enough money. I actualy was looking at Plan B. any thoughts on that? I have been having serious back problems lately & i am so scared beyond anaything. I am seriously freakin out at this point :(
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Oh, sorry about that. I did'nt see the rude coments.
Did you have a period after you had sex? If so, you're most likely not pregnant. If you did miss your period is it late?
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No I havnt had my period yet :(
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I wont have it till March 9 (if its on time)
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If it's not due until the 9th, you're right, it's too early to test.
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Well when is the best time to test? 1-2 weeks outta be enough.. I was actually going to take my first ine today
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I'm confused about your cycle.  

If your period is due March 9,  your most fertile time would have been around Feb. 23. Is that when you had sex?

Since your last period came 10 days early (that's REALLY early) it's hard to tell what's going on with your body and how to predict your fertile time.  
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You can take a test today but if your period is'nt due until the 9th you most likely will not get the right results. You may want to wait another week and get an early pregnancy test.
I'm not sure if you know this or not but if you have a clinic in your area you can get birth control at a reduced rate or even free depending on your income.
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Regardless of weather you are pregnant or not you should really check out planned parenthood. They have deals on birth control, and they give out free condoms. And if this ever happens again they also have the morning after pill. you should also look into getting the shot, it lasts for 3 months and IDK but it MIGHT be cheaper. Just a good idea to look into all your options. Also if you can't afford birth control than maybe you shouldn't be having sex? The pill costs $25 a month, a baby is going to cost you MUCH more than that. When I got pregnant as a teen, I thought about all my options and I found myself thinking "Well I just can't afford an abortion, I don't have any money." It didn't take me long after thinking that that it clicked, If I don't have the money for an abortion, there is no way I have enough money to raise a baby. Needless to say I found the money for an abortion. BUT that was me. That was my choice. I'm not pressuring you one way or the other, I just want you to know that you have options and  regardless of your age, if you are not married you should probably be using a condom. It's not just about pregnancy it's about STD's.
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Thanks guys (: But actually my period is now 5 days late... I will definitely look into birth control and planned parenthood stuff. But aside from that, my period is late, i've been sick all week, and I have been eating way more than normal. Either this is some kind of puberty stuff, or I'm pregnant. I really hope it's the prior..
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Please always be safe when your having sex. And dont think if he pulls out right before he gets off your safe from getting pregnant, because it doesnt im 19 and my son will be 2 in nov. I wasnt safe and i was a teen mom and it was hard. Your life will be changed forever! Your 14 you dont need to be having sex sweetheart. And if the boy says he loves you and thats why you should have sex with him he is a jerk and a liar and you dont neeed to be with someone like that. You have a whole life ahead of you.sex can wait. You need to talk to your mom or grand ma or any  woman you can trust about birthcontrol. If you think sex is fun now just think about have to wake up to a crying baby and changing diapers all day long its a hard life. I wouldnt change having my son for the world but i was 17 when i had him. Your just a baby honey. Please please always be safe no matter what! Or just dont have sex at all till your able to handle such a grown up thing.
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According to your earlier posts,  your period is now actually 3 days late but your cycle seems irregular.

Did you use either of the pregnancy tests you bought?  It's likely they'd be accurate now.
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Don't be scared to tell your parents.They can help you alot!Being able to be pregnant is a miracle,many people can't have children.If you are pregnant you should look into open adoption if you want to be.in your childs life but it is your choice.good luck on what you decide and your results!
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