Please Help Me :(

[Moogoo33]

Hello,
I just need some advice to calm my worries. So, this past month my boyfriend and i decided that we were ready for sex. I mean, yes I am ready for it, but i am not ready for all of the consequences....like a baby. Anyways, so my boyfriend and i would engadge in some casual sex here and there throughout this month. We ALWAYS used a condom and he never came inside of me...Now your probably wondering, "Okay why is she worried?" Well, i just have horrible anxiety over this stuff and also...i checked an ovulation calendar from firstresponse.com and we had sex during the times it said i was ovulating. Now, that pretty much freaked the crap out of me...and idk what to think now. I am on day 35 now and i have gotten my period on days 37 before. I have been bloated for about like 4-5 days now and my breasts have been getting bigger.....I feel LIKE i should be getting my period, but i havent yet...
I need some advice please.

ah yes, and last wednesday on day 28 or 29 i took a test to just calm my fears and it came back negative.

[hehaho]

yeah amandas right, durex condoms are probs the best to use as they have spermicide. there are condoms that are just for fun though but i dont think durex do them.. just dont use flavoured unless your doing something else haha!

[Moogoo33]

Thank you Amanda853. That means a lot that u shared that information with me. I appreciate it. Extra information is always helpful! I will be going on birth control in a few weeks...i have my first gyno apt. Im nervous. but i know it needs to happen. Not only do i want to be protected, but i would like to regulate my period so even when i am not sexually active :)
Thanks again for your advice!

[Amanda853]

You may not be pregnant although you can still get pregnant with a condom but not really likely to happen. Unless you have signs that you ovulated like changes in your Cervical Mucus, Body temp, etc. then you wont know for sure if you ovulated. Just because a calendar or something says that you are to ovulate on a certain day doesnt mean you will. You are young and your body is still growing so you period can change up on you every month. When you are stressed and worried, you brain sends messages to your body which can delay your period and make you have a longer one. So just relax and make sure you stay protected. If you dont want to you birth control then you should use spermicide to be extra safe.

[hehaho]

good to hear! sometimes periods do come late though if your worried or stressed so try not to be! x

[Moogoo33]

okay. thank you so much. i got my period today!

[hehaho]

if the condom broke, then id be worried.. but if not i think youll be ok :) aslong as yu used the condom properly (like put it on the correct way and use a very good brand etc) id still say get the pill though :) x

[Moogoo33]

So, since you know how i feel...do you think i should be okay? Or....

[hehaho]

i know how you feel, i panic over this kinda thing aswell! I would get on the pill aswell as using condoms. Thats what i use i feel much safer this way and check the condoms after so i know theyre not broken. the pill and condoms work 99% effectively if there both used correctly.. try this method :)! x

[ShayShay192]

I started having sex when I was fourteen. I used protection, condoms, every time I had sex. I had a couple scares because some of the times the condoms broke but luckly I never got pregnant. Until four months ago when I had sex we used protection but the condom had broke, and I wasn't as lucky then as I had been before.  

[Moogoo33]

When you had causal sex before you got pregnant, were u protected with like b/c or condoms?

[ShayShay192]

Your most likely not pregnet. The ovulation calendars arent always exact. Apparently I ovulate whenever my body randomly wants too. lol. You're most likely feeling the sighns of pregnency because you keep thinking about it and stressing over it. And if you're ready for sex but not ready for the consequinces then you're not ready. I thought casual sex was okay also and I thought sex was no big deal and that I was ready. Im almost 18 and 4 months pregnet. I wasnt ready. I wasnt ready because I wasnt thinking about the consequinces of my actions. I hope you feel better and I hope I helped a little.